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jerseygrl684 · 12-03-2008, 06:11 PM

The bf and i are going to this really nice expensive italian restaurant saturday night. He is so excited, meanwhile i found the menu online and i am just like not interested in any of it whatsoever. Nothing appetizes me. I know it's just a phase, but it irks me so badly

Tribeca · 12-03-2008, 07:08 PM

eat to live don't live to eat

I have to tell myself everyday that I need to eat. I am now about three months out and can only eat very small amounts and haven't been cleared for starches or raw fruit and veg. I love to cook and thanksgiving was enjoyable because I talked through most of it. a couple bites of turkey and a scoop of squash soup and I was done for the day.

Snow-Belle · 12-03-2008, 09:20 PM

I'm going through what you are...have been for a about a month.....

I sort of look forward to eating one of my meals (not really hungry though).... I eat a fork or spoonful...then another... and that's it. Simply cannot eat any more.

I do make sure to get my 100 grams of protein in a day (through 4 protein shakes),

nextbigloser · 12-04-2008, 08:39 AM

Thanks for all of the encouragement. I am glad to know that this is normal. Its funny because when I do eat normally, well normal for GBS I feel like I am pigging out. DH tells me no I am not but I guess I just have gotten used to eating such small amounts that when I do find a food that I can eat I get some sort of guilt if I eat "too much". Let me explain that: I will eat something that agrees with me but I will tell myself I ate to much. Why is this, I am really afraid that I might be getting some sort of eating disorder. Yesterday I was able to eat just about anything and it agreed with me so that was a good day for me. I felt like I binged. I had 1/3 of an apple at work in the morning and an orange for a snack in the afternoon. I sucked the juice out of it more like. I had a 1/3 of a pork chop for lunch. Dinner I actually made a lean cuisine and almost finished it. This is not typical for me and today the thought of food makes me quiver. I repeated so many times yesterday to people that I pigged out. They all think I am crazy when they look at what I eat.

marine · 12-04-2008, 03:20 PM

Kim, I can relate to what you say. I also love to cook and love food. There are days wher e I cannot really eat, and feel this frustation of yours. However there are other days (like today), I could eat easily 1 plate (with light salad, turkey, and 1 slide dark bread), and feel hungry, but still kind of rather full, but not quite. So again slightly dissatisfied to have reached my limit - 1 plate is a lot.

So it is a daily fight, with the good days (when I forget to eat if too busy), and the other ones when I am focus on it: the days where I have easily pain after few bites, and the others where I wonder if my stomac did not "reunion" with the other one over night....

Daily fight, for ever, but daily satisfaction to be able to dress nicely. that is the price to pay.

Phoenixfire · 12-04-2008, 11:51 PM

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Originally Posted by nextbigloser

They all think I am crazy when they look at what I eat.

And I would agree with THEM

Look at reality okay? Compare what you ate that day vs. what you would have eaten on a "normal" day pre-op. Judging by what you listed for your food intake that day, I would imagine there is a world of difference right? Focus on THAT, and the overall amount of calories you consume in a one week period okay?

I hate to read of beating oneself up, because it perpetuates the vicious cycle we learned when we were obese. At least that's what I've observed. It's a choice now honey...rethink you're self-flagellation okay?

Baja Big Dog · 12-05-2008, 12:13 AM

Im the same way, food just isnt on my mind or menu, it wounds good, looks good, smells good, but when the pedal hits the metal, just cant pull it off. I am trying to take in more food, but its a no go. I am concentrating on the protein via shakes, and thats no problem, but food...nope!!

MiladyB · 12-05-2008, 05:15 AM

Kim, our heads most certainly like playing games with us. On those days that you might actually have an appetite it isn't uncommon that people freak out about the amount of food they are taking it. It's probably what the greatest fear is for most of this. The fear that this surgery really won't work and you will gain the weight back. Hey, look at how many times that was true with previous diets we were on. It's scary, it really is.

What helped me was to count calories. I know my nutritionist wants me eating 1000-1200. If I have a day that I eat more like 1500-2000, well then I think I'm justified giving myself a talking to. I don't beat myself up but I increase my exercise or I eat more like 1000cal the next day to compensate for my "pigging out". It's called life in the real world. Its thinking like a thin person. I see my oldest daughter doing that type of thing all the time, and she isn't overweight.

So maybe start counting those calories for awhile. Especially on an eating day. Find out in reality how much you really ate. I suspect you will find that you really didn't eat that much. You are only comparing it to one of those non-eating days and that isn't a fair comparison.

Vikkator · 12-05-2008, 08:13 AM

Last night as hubby was cooking (he prefers his cooking to mine), he asked me what I wanted to go with the chicken. I looked at him and said 'nothing'. I didn't even care about eating the chicken, but he seasoned it nicely and cooked it perfectly, so I did enjoy it.

Anyway, I'm a month out and don't care much about food either. But this is what I wanted. I wanted to be like a slim person: eat to live. I wanted to not enjoy eating so much. I think that when you feel depressed about not getting enjoyment from eating, what you're really doing is mourning your loss. It was a big part of your life. You have to change your mindset and think about how much healthier you are now. Find something else to occupy your mind--something that makes you happy. What works for me is thinking about how much better my life is going to be without the food monkey on my back. I can soon do so many things that I haven't been able to do for many years. This is what motivates me. This is why I chose to have this surgery.

Yes, I don't enjoy eating anymore. But there are so many other things in life that are pleasureable. Try to find those things and tell yourself you're going to be happy and you will soon forget that food was one of those things.

splendifor · 12-07-2008, 11:16 AM

I am still struggling with this too. I went through a period where I thought there was NOTHING I would enjoy again

I think what I miss the most is the endorphin high I got from craving something and then eating the crap out of it... now I can think, "Oh I want to eat x.." and anticipate enjoyment only when I get it.. blah. I know I have to find other ways to get that endorphin high (exercise will get me there someday I keep hoping

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I remember some of the information I got pre-surgery was that gbs affects the hormones we have relating to satiety (ghrelin?) and such and the change may be what we experience as food blahs... I think of it kind of like what someone who is bipolar might experience as "regular" moods of non-bipolar people being too flat...

ramble ramble..