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RooRoo · 09-04-2008, 05:41 AM

I am in a bit of a sticky situation, having miscarried 3 months ago at 16 weeks following an accident, I have since found out I am pregnant again (very early 4/5 weeks). I am due to have my RNY in 15 days and whilst I know I am desperate to have the surgery, I worry that if I continue with having the surgery without telling my consultant and plead ignorance I will lose the pregnancy.

I really do not know what to do. I know if I tell my consultant he will cancel surgery, and if I don't have surgery I will gain another 5 stone in the next 6 months (I've gained 5 stone since the removal of my band in Jan) and will have a terrible time being pregnant.

I also worry that maybe this is my last chance to have a baby, that if I don't continue with the pregnancy I will not get another shot post RNY.

I really am very upset about all of this and any advice would be appreciated. I feel like if I cancel surgery I'll be a mum but terribly unhappy and unhealthy, and if I go ahead I will be slimmer but unable to have children and always regretting it.

Andie · 09-04-2008, 06:30 AM

I'm sorry for your previous loss....as for now my honest opinion is you need to notify your dr. There is a life inside of you and going into a serious surgery and not telling your dr could jeapordize your life and the innocent one inside of you. You have a lot to deal with and need to find someone you can talk to.

Vicci · 09-04-2008, 07:08 AM

Hi,

I agree with Andie you must tell your doctor! I would ask the surgeon if you could postpone your surgery untill next year sometime. Being pregnant during and after surgery is quite dangerous because of the anethisia and rapid weight loss. The lack of nutrients and energy after surgery is why most surgeons recommend pregnancy only after 18months or more. I understand that your in a horrible position but it has happened for a reason so be a mum first then get the surgery afterwards! I hope this all works out well for you.

Vicci x

lealphachienne · 09-04-2008, 09:13 AM

I would suggest tell the doctor....postpone the surgery until after your pregnancy....you would feel absolutely horrendous if you went ahead with the surgery and you lost your baby this time.....you will feel that you killed your baby.

If you postpone the surgery and still miscarry this time....give yourself a chance to grieve and try going for the surgery again. Many people get pregnant much more easily after having the surgery and have delivered healthy babies.....your troubles in carry to term may or may not be weight related......

If you're not doing so, see a counselor, a therapist, or grief support group...you have had many losses and need emotional support too.

LyndasRoom · 09-04-2008, 12:06 PM

What Marie said!
You NEED to inform your doctor of this situation. Yes, you will need to POSTPONE (not cancel forever) your surgery. But in this instance, if you do carry to term, you can have your child, and your surgery after! Best of luck to you.

Mia · 09-04-2008, 12:16 PM

It is a difficult situation to be in...

I feel for you.

I do agree with the others and say that you better postpone. It is a hard thing to do but in the end, you can have both. You will have your baby and then you can have surgery.

Best of luck to you!

brittany · 09-04-2008, 01:35 PM

Being pregnant myself I must agree with the others You don't have to gain a lot of weight my doc told me the only thing I need to add to my diet every day is an extra dairy. Also look on the bright side if you have GB after your pregnant those extra pounds will just fall off. I am going to have to work to get the extra pounds off. It is so importand that your doctor know everything about your body prior to gb. I am 7 mon and trust me time flys by!!!! I understand how emotional you must feel because I had diffrent emotions prior to my gb and I really have diffrent emotions sicne being pregnant!

RooRoo · 09-05-2008, 03:28 AM

Thank you very much for all your advice, this is really difficult to talk about as everyone tends to think I'm a monster for not feeling blessed and wanting to plough straight ahead into pregnancy and feel happy about cancelling the op.

I will be seeing my consultant on Tuesday and will discuss everything with him then.

thanks again.

brittany · 09-05-2008, 08:17 AM

No way are you a monster I do think you need to tell your doctor as it seems you have made that decision. I said in my earlier post I can't imagine how you feel because I know how emotional I felt prior to surgery and then my first trimester of being pregnant I was emotional and you are making a decision with all that emotion an it must be hard! Don't be so hard on yourself you don't feel like you right now I am sure! Do talk to your doctor everything will work out just as it should. Hang in there!

Paula08 · 09-05-2008, 09:14 AM

Baby comes first! There is always going to be doctors that can do your surgery later, but this may be a chance of a life time and to pass it up or not tell your doctor you may never forgive yourself.
Hugs
Paula