I dont know where i fit in. - ThinnerTimes

Pokey757 · 05-09-2005, 03:16 PM

I love this site, and must say out of all the ones i have been to you people make me feel the most welcome.
Since i have had to put off my surgery for 6 months or so, maybe indefinatly?? I dont know where to go. I have found 1 MRC (the prog i am doing) site, and there were like a total of 3 ppl posting and i just was'nt getting the support i needed. I love it here, but i cant ask the question i need to, or dont feel like i should post my problems here either since you are all (WLS losers) I just feel so alone and lost. I feel like i have NO ONE else who is going thru what i am going thru

First of all let me tell you this strange fact. ever since i started talking to my PCP about GBS my blood pressure has been up. Which was basically my only major health issue. I would go to see him or the surgeon and my BP was like 135/80 which is really high.
Well now i go to the MRC center 2 x's a week, and every time they take my BP well it has been no higher than 124/80, for the most part the average has been 120/80 even as low as 118/76. 120/80which has been my normal for as long as i can remember, all thru out both of my pregnancies. I really think i stress out about the surgery big time, even talking about it. But my doc pushes for it, and tells me how high my bp is, and i may need meds soon. My thought it is only that high when i see him, or the surgeon. (STRESS??)
Dont get me wrong i do want, and need to lose weight, and i have been on a standstill for the last 2 weeks as far as weight loss goes. I have only lost 11 lbs, which 1 i have gained back, but maintained at 299 for the last 2 weeks, i am so disturbed about this whole thing. Then i finally got my foot better and feeling back to "normal" so i started walking today. I walked for 15 min, no back pain, no foot pain, felt great. Except now my foot is killing me again. I am starting to think it is just in my head.

Maybe an excuse to not walk, but i really enjoy walking, so why would i do that?
I really commend you who have had the nerve to go ahead with the surgery! You have a lot of courage.
I just dont know what to do, where to go, who to talk to? I just feel so alone!!

Thanks for letting me vent.

lealphachienne · 05-09-2005, 03:24 PM

You can still fit in here. You still need the support. Trying to lose weight, no matter the method is extremely difficult. This site is here to help all those interested in WLS, no matter where they are along in the process.

As for the B/P thing, there is a thing called "whitecoat syndrome". It's been documented that visits to a doctor cause stress and increased B/P in many people. Also, it depends on what machine you're using and who's taking the reading. Automatic machines tend to register higher.

Hang in there!

Gatzby · 05-09-2005, 03:52 PM

I am having a fit with my insurance, so much so I joined Weight Watchers. I don't know if I will ever get the surgery at this point, but it won't stop me from mocking everyone on this board, and filling it with useless drivel

Join me in the wonderful world of useless drivel....its a great release instead of eating

eyesthatkissu · 05-09-2005, 04:12 PM

I eat WHILE I post my drivel... I'm a great multi-tasker!!! And just so you know... my blood presure is like 180 over 120 I bet if I took my blood pressure while posting here... it would be sufficiently less! Just because you are unsure about WLS it's no reason to avoid us... If nothing else stick around for my lame jokes!

QueenB · 05-09-2005, 04:21 PM

ME TOO!!! ME TOO!!!

I want so badly to be moving forward in my journey as I feel so many on this board are. Then I feel as if I don't belong because I am not involved in the meetings and get togethers or even a part of the Dr's practice yet. I started here back in August 2004 and I am still getting no where. After 2 denials, switching PCP's and medical groups I am now looking at the prospect of loosing my insurance right at the time of my referral. I know all the documentation I have been doing won't be lost but I just want to know if I am coming or going. I sometimes feel like a bother or a fraud being here so you are not alone. Know that there are some of us here, some more vocal than others- that are feeling the same. Not completely simiar but not all together different either.

((((((((HUGZ))))))))

VanessaSFL · 05-09-2005, 04:23 PM

Stay a while!!!!
First~Robin ..you are freaking nuts(love it)
Second~Danette....I found this site while googeling WLS...and thank God I did.I belong to two real time support groups that don't support me.Oh yeah...and I am in Florida....Closer to Cuba than California.I don't know most on here but everyone seems honest and always wanting to help.I know at first I didn't feel right being here..like I was club dropping but I am ok now.
Stay!

Take care....Vanessa

Bypassingme619 · 05-09-2005, 05:58 PM

Danette Please girlfriend we all family here. We all have issues its what I call "LIFE". When you are going through a process such as his it is kind of hard to sit down one of your friends who have no idea what WLS is even about. I must say I think we are in a spot where we are scared to voice how we feel because we afraid we will hurt someones feelings or step on some toes or just maybe once again feel like you are now not even welcomed at a place where should be able to share what you are feeling and dealing with. Danette let it out. Holding it in isn't good for the soul. There are to many of us here that can relate to everything you are going through.

As far as your BP goes I always thought 120/60 was the norm. I am in thee healthcare field and your BPs don't seem that unusal. Depending on your weight and whatever stressors you might be facing as far as your weight. When I had my consult my BP was 130/84. Remember its not the top number I am mainly worried about it would be the bottom number(Diastolic) because that is when the heart is suppose to resting. Start keeping a log of your BPs. Describe what you were doing before your BP was taken. It could be something pertaining to your visit. Keep us updated on how things are going.

Peckkale · 05-09-2005, 05:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Pokey757

I love this site, and must say out of all the ones i have been to you people make me feel the most welcome.
Since i have had to put off my surgery for 6 months or so, maybe indefinatly?? I dont know where to go. I have found 1 MRC (the prog i am doing) site, and there were like a total of 3 ppl posting and i just was'nt getting the support i needed. I love it here, but i cant ask the question i need to, or dont feel like i should post my problems here either since you are all (WLS losers) I just feel so alone and lost. I feel like i have NO ONE else who is going thru what i am going thru

First of all let me tell you this strange fact. ever since i started talking to my PCP about GBS my blood pressure has been up. Which was basically my only major health issue. I would go to see him or the surgeon and my BP was like 135/80 which is really high.
Well now i go to the MRC center 2 x's a week, and every time they take my BP well it has been no higher than 124/80, for the most part the average has been 120/80 even as low as 118/76. 120/80which has been my normal for as long as i can remember, all thru out both of my pregnancies. I really think i stress out about the surgery big time, even talking about it. But my doc pushes for it, and tells me how high my bp is, and i may need meds soon. My thought it is only that high when i see him, or the surgeon. (STRESS??)
Dont get me wrong i do want, and need to lose weight, and i have been on a standstill for the last 2 weeks as far as weight loss goes. I have only lost 11 lbs, which 1 i have gained back, but maintained at 299 for the last 2 weeks, i am so disturbed about this whole thing. Then i finally got my foot better and feeling back to "normal" so i started walking today. I walked for 15 min, no back pain, no foot pain, felt great. Except now my foot is killing me again. I am starting to think it is just in my head.

Maybe an excuse to not walk, but i really enjoy walking, so why would i do that?
I really commend you who have had the nerve to go ahead with the surgery! You have a lot of courage.
I just dont know what to do, where to go, who to talk to? I just feel so alone!!

Thanks for letting me vent.

Tell your doctor to stuff it! You do not have high blood pressure. Keep in mind when dealing with your doctor....He works for you. You hire him to advice you and treat health problems. His job is to give you accurate information regarding your health and risk. If he can't do that then fire him and hire a new doctor.

Controlling your blood pressure is critical
According to JNC VII (the seventh report of the Joint National Committee on Prevention, Detection, Evaluation, and Treatment of High Blood Pressure):

* Normal blood pressure is below 120/80 mm Hg
* A blood pressure of 120/80 mm Hg to 139/89 mm Hg is called "prehypertension." Those in the 130/80 mm Hg to 139/89 mm Hg range are at twice the risk of developing high blood pressure
* A blood pressure of 140/90 mm Hg or above is considered high blood pressure

eyesthatkissu · 05-10-2005, 07:26 AM

Brittany...
Try your hardest to get your referal before you lose or change your insurance provider. Your new insurance will require soooooo much less if you have already been referred and approved by another provider. Just a tip from my PCP!!!

Vanessa...
I am NOT nuts!!! *flaps her arms like a chicken and barks*

Denise...
You are just as sweet as cheesecake!!! mmmmmm cheesecake.... with a little bit of strawberries.... mmmmm... wait... where was I? OH yeah.... I'm never afraid of saying the wrong thing (I say whatever comes to mind in case you didn't notice *snort*) or of stepping on anyones toes... I wear a size 10 so just get out my way!!!!

Bypassingme619 · 05-10-2005, 08:40 AM

I try to be sweet. Don't get me wrong I have a temper or can get ugly if the situation permits me to do so. But I am very considerate to others feelings. I only react off of peoples vibes. So if you are a nasty person you might not like me much. If you are a great person with an off the rocket type of humor(Robin

)we will get along just fine. I guess when we gain weight we loose a part of our selves not so fast to stick up for our selves like we use to years back. I have been big all my life but I was more confident when I was in jounior high school. I guess that is because the real world hadn't gotten a hold of me yet. So I guess when I see someone in need and I see someone stepping on or trying to step over the person in need I get this flash back from Jouinor High and then it is time to kick @ss. I just know what it feels like to be treated badly because of being over weight, hey its been the highlight of my life. You hold on to that personality, it will surely get you through any and everything that is thrown your way.