Consult today - ThinnerTimes

Bypassingme619 · 05-03-2005, 07:12 PM

Ok so I finally got the chance to make it through the doors to my consult. I have been so stressed about today, I was falling asleep in the waiting room at the office. I read everyones post on here about how great certain people were so maybe I was hurt and shocked at the same time when I didn't recieve that feeling. There was only one person there that made good conversation with me out side of what I was there for. For some reason I just don't feel comfortable. Well more like invited into this. I guess because I have worked so hard to even get this far I was expecting more then what I should have. I was given my folder and my list of labs I will need to complete. Just feeling really blue about the whole visit. Maybe I am just to moodie and on edge. I was hoping to come home and hop on the computer and share with you guys about how great everything went and how great this person was and that person(maybe next time

). Thanks for letting me VENT.

anthrgdgrl · 05-03-2005, 07:43 PM

Denise,

I am sorry to hear that you didn't feel comfortable after the consult. As you know I had mine today too. I was thinking about you on my way home. I hope you made it there OK. I actually felt quite comfortable with the whole process. I know in the past that you have mentioned how much you want this surgery and I know that you are more than ready for it. Maybe that is why you feel a little put off. Maybe it is just that you feel so anxious and excited for it to be done that you can't really concentrate on any one thing?

Even though I have not met you face to face I feel like you are a very nice woman and there would be no reason not to treat you with all of the kindness you deserve. Perhaps, the professionalism in the office was misinterpreted as coldness? I am only playing devil's advocate. I mean to pass no judgement on you or the office. I haven't had a problem with either one.

Anne · 05-03-2005, 08:38 PM

Denise,

I too felt that way. I think I was expecting a warm welcome into this whole adventure, and..........no. Just real quick, what to do to get ready. I think they have so many patients, they just don't have enough time to spend with any one. But that was ok. I went to these doctors because I know how experienced they are and that is what I wanted. To have my surgery and have it work for me.

Good luck,

Bypassingme619 · 05-03-2005, 09:59 PM

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Originally Posted by anthrgdgrl

Denise,

I am sorry to hear that you didn't feel comfortable after the consult. As you know I had mine today too. I was thinking about you on my way home. I hope you made it there OK. I actually felt quite comfortable with the whole process. I know in the past that you have mentioned how much you want this surgery and I know that you are more than ready for it. Maybe that is why you feel a little put off. Maybe it is just that you feel so anxious and excited for it to be done that you can't really concentrate on any one thing?

Even though I have not met you face to face I feel like you are a very nice woman and there would be no reason not to treat you with all of the kindness you deserve. Perhaps, the professionalism in the office was misinterpreted as coldness? I am only playing devil's advocate. I mean to pass no judgement on you or the office. I haven't had a problem with either one.

Hey Hollie.. you were heavy on my mind as well today. Was wondering how everything went. I am so pleased to know you were comfortable with the whole process it kind of eases my mind. I appreciate your input on how I was feeling about today. I can see what you are saying. I honestly believe that I am so emotionally into this whole process it is wearing down my whole aura. It wearin me out and it is putting a big financial strain on me and my family. I never said anyone wasn't professional, just the end of my visit seemed so cold and dry. Like I said I think I got to psyched about everyone else consult on top of being highly stressed out with the whole process. I guess my mental view is so different because I have put in almost 8 years now of my life, with fighting insurance companies and educating myself(stick me I'm over done). I am wore out. Please pray for me all. I appreciate you so much you have been so a great friend here. Hopefully soon we will be able to laugh about this all. I am soaking it all in as an experience hopefully I will be able to share with others to help them in their process. Thanks again Hollie

anthrgdgrl · 05-03-2005, 10:05 PM

Denise, You know I am here for you if you need me. Let me know if you need a ride anywhere. If I can I will drive you. I know you have been through so much and I wish I could make it all better for you. I appreciate your kind words towards me and I look forward to strengthening our bond in the future. You will be in my thoughts.

Bypassingme619 · 05-03-2005, 10:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Anne

Denise,

I too felt that way. I think I was expecting a warm welcome into this whole adventure, and..........no. Just real quick, what to do to get ready. I think they have so many patients, they just don't have enough time to spend with any one. But that was ok. I went to these doctors because I know how experienced they are and that is what I wanted. To have my surgery and have it work for me.

Good luck,

Hey Anne

I do believe a high patient load has a lot to do with it as well, as well mixed with all my haywire emotions. It is comforting to know I am not thee only one that has felt like that. I work in the healthcare industry so I try and be patient and understand what might be going on because I know healthcare workers are over worked and under paid. I am just trying to get what I need to make everything for the office glide smoothly. I guess I have always been the type of person who needed to feel that comfort when I first meet a person in order to gain that trust. O well, I will keep praying on my situation in hopes it will all work out in the end. Thanks for sharing that with me Anne.

Bypassingme619 · 05-03-2005, 10:30 PM

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Originally Posted by anthrgdgrl

Denise, You know I am here for you if you need me. Let me know if you need a ride anywhere. If I can I will drive you. I know you have been through so much and I wish I could make it all better for you. I appreciate your kind words towards me and I look forward to strengthening our bond in the future. You will be in my thoughts.

Hollie you are the greatest. Never would have thought I'd meet such a great person like you. We haven't even met and you have offered your time to help me out and that means a lot to me. When it time and you need a shoulder to lean on you know where to find me

. Thank You

eyesthatkissu · 05-03-2005, 11:53 PM

I'm just gonna add my two cents here.... well maybe a good quarters worth. Perhaps part of the problem is... WE ARE SOOOOOOOO COOL! We come to this forum and everyone is so damn amazing..... I mean I want to kidnap most of the people here and keep them in my pocket! (Was that a little too "It rubs the lotion on it's skin!!!!"?????) It becomes such a haven and such a warm place to visit. So we start thinking everyone that is going to have anything to do with our surgery is just this great. The difference is... here you are a friend..... elsewhere in this project, you are a client. Not to say that you won't be warmly and wonderfully treated.. but face it.... after this group of people... everything else is going to pale in comparison! In any case..... keep the faith!!!

Bypassingme619 · 05-04-2005, 09:00 AM

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Originally Posted by eyesthatkissu

I'm just gonna add my two cents here.... well maybe a good quarters worth. Perhaps part of the problem is... WE ARE SOOOOOOOO COOL! We come to this forum and everyone is so damn amazing..... I mean I want to kidnap most of the people here and keep them in my pocket! (Was that a little too "It rubs the lotion on it's skin!!!!"?????) It becomes such a haven and such a warm place to visit. So we start thinking everyone that is going to have anything to do with our surgery is just this great. The difference is... here you are a friend..... elsewhere in this project, you are a client. Not to say that you won't be warmly and wonderfully treated.. but face it.... after this group of people... everything else is going to pale in comparison! In any case..... keep the faith!!!

Robin I know what you mean. Like I was sharing with one of the other members here, I tend to be a "stamp collector". I hold a lot of things in. I guess coming here so much and seeing how everyone is so supportive and open, I guess maybe I was expecting that reaction when I went to my appointment yesterday. I appreciate your input, it helps me see it from all angels and helps me deal with what happened yesterday. Robin girlfriend trust me when I tell you I am a fighter. I have fought for 7 almost 8 years now for WLS and there is nothing anyone could say or do to make me back down from this. My life is on the line and I am not willing to negotiate my life for a bad or anything else. I am going kicking all the way until I reach my destination to the other side(a loser). I have no kids due to my obesity but I do have a 6 year old brother who depends on me and responsible for because my mother is paralyzed from the waist down. So my plate is pretty full. Robin you hold your head high, I know things have been ruff for you too. You are in my prayers, you will be on the back on that motorcycle in no time

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LizardQueen · 05-04-2005, 10:26 AM

I felt the same way and I think it is all of the factors mentioned. We have great support here, we have worked hard for this, and we expect the docs to appreciate what we have been through. Sorry it didn't live up to your expectations, but when you go back and have lost quite a bit they tend to be ever so much warmer. Don't let this get you down, girl. It's just another step, part of the process.

Amber