Odd question to ask...i know but....... - Page 2 - ThinnerTimes

LWoeRNer · 12-29-2007, 07:51 PM

I had mine on the 12th and home noonish on 13th, would rather have stayed one more day though.

J & D · 12-30-2007, 07:31 AM

We were in the hospital the day of the surgery and out the next. It depends on your surgeon your lenghth of stay.
I told everybody but now looking back. There are some I wish I hadn't told, not because they are not judging me but they are judging themselves. I work with a man that is really heavy and he smokes, loves food, talks about food, everything is about eating. Now he walks into my office and looks at me and shakes his head. I told him what the surgery was going to do for me before I had it but he didn't grasp the changes that would come for me. I feel guilty wearing 34 jeans and XL shirts and he is wearing my 4xl jacket. He use to come to my office everyday and now I'm lucky to see him once a month. I don't flaunt my successes or tell anybody how much I have lost. It is really interesting watching the other people around me and see how they react to the weight loss. Be prepared to change some friendships and gain some new ones. I have some very good friends that have had RNY and met a lot of nice people through this surgery. Don't be afraid to not tell anybody. It is your comfort zone not anybody elses. This surgery is about you. Tell who you want to know and those that you don't feel comfortable about, don't tell them.

Take Care
Jim and Dorene

coptergirl · 12-30-2007, 07:39 AM

I had mine open so I was in the hospital for 5 days. I told everyone whether or not they wanted to hear. Everyone is different, and the decision as to tell or not is very personal. Do a search on it as it has been discussed in the past...

And I have to agree - kids are cruel. You'll get the last laugh on this one, though when little Johnny will go from making fun of you to thinking you're hot stuff

patbunny · 12-30-2007, 07:45 AM

I just had my surgery on 12/3/07 with no complications and I was in the hospital just less than 48 hours. At my first post-op Dr. visit, several of my Dr's other patients and I had this discussion that we all wondered if the surgeon actually "did anything" because we felt so much better than we had expected! Don't worry...The results are well worth the effort. The kids at your son's school will be able to see your results very soon, and then the joke will be on THEM!!!! Just smile and wave, like you know a big secret..!!!
DO IT FOR YOURSELF AND YOUR HEALTH, AND NOT BECAUSE OF ANYONE ELSE'S OPINION!!!!!
God BLESS you, and GOOD LUCK!!!!!!

Toony · 12-30-2007, 07:49 AM

Hi Momof3! Not an odd question at all... I'm guessing you have three little ones at home and need to figure out childcare!

I'm telling a minimum number of people now... the ones that need to know (hubby, kids, a very few others). I just don't need anyone giving me advise now - I've done a LOT of research and have done a lot of soul-searching to make this decision. I don't need those who have extremely limited knowledge of the surgery telling me about their cousin's neighbor's mother.... you know what I mean?

HUGS and best wishes!!!

Katie