Will I ever look as good as you? - ThinnerTimes

ChristyMcD · 07-25-2007, 07:05 AM

I don't post much because I guess I feel I will not have anything intersesting to say. I do read the forums everyday. Here is my issue. I am 16 weeks out and 60 lbs down. I look at everyone's avatars and think I will never look that good. Does everyone have these feeling. Will I get to look as sleek and nice as some of you. Gina, Lisa B., Cindy, Dyann and so many of you look amazing. I still see myself as fat old me only less fat. Did you all bust your A** in the gym everyday. What is your secret? I want to look that great! Thanks for listening.
Christy

VanessaSFL · 07-25-2007, 07:11 AM

Christy ,I used to feel the same way in the begining.I remember seeing Bridgets avatar and thinking,What a hottie...will I ever look that way..she always semd pulled together and happy.

Well I can say that two in a half years later I am...although not any better pulled together..I am healthy, cute and 95% happy.

We are all beautiful.

Great job so far on your journey.

coptergirl · 07-25-2007, 07:21 AM

We can sometimes be our worst enemies. You are off to a terrific start being 60 pounds down...thats 60 gone forever! Please don't compare yourself to others...this is your journey. Many of us (myself included) did spend a ton of time at the gym...or doing other sort of excercise because it helps with toning and shrinking and consistant weight loss. We are all beautiful and courageous folks...and you are one of us!

ceekerr · 07-25-2007, 08:21 AM

Me, too - I am almost 3 months out and 58 pounds down - I'll get to thinking sometimes that I'm doing OK, then I catch a glimpse of myself in a mirror or in a glass door and it just floors me how much more I have to go - I may be smaller, but I still have all the imperfections that I had before. My ankles are still fat - my arms - my legs have no shape - I look like I have 2 stovepipes instead of legs. Maybe another 60 pounds and I will begin to resemble a human.

Anyway, you're not alone in feeling that way - I guess we're our own worst critics.

But at 58 and 60 pounds lost, we're well on our way!

Good luck to you!

Carol

fitbefore40 · 07-25-2007, 09:29 AM

I remember feeling that way too. It took me a long time for my mind to catch up to my body. Also, I felt quite envious of those who were 100 pounds out . . . but I got there and so will you. Hang in there - work out hard and you'll be the envy of the newbies!!

MiladyB · 07-25-2007, 09:41 AM

I know I still feel that way at times. Crazy, isn't it? I mean I'm healthy, down 200 pounds, almost to goal but when I see myself without clothes on it really gets me down. All I see is what looks like "elephant skin" all over the place. To me nothing looks very good to my eye. What I do at those times is find parts of my body that thrill me. I love to feel my collar bones and run my hand on an actual waist.

I did an exercise once at my support group that really seemed to help not only myself but my whole group. I had them list 10 things they like about their bodies. At the start of it most of them laughed at me and said they could never come up with 10. I got them started with a few ideas and it got the ball rolling. It was almost like a snowball effect once they started concentrating on the positive instead of the negative. By the end all of them had 10 and most ended up with a lot more.

This isn't an easy process. It takes a long time for our heads to wrap around the changes we are seeing. Like I said, I'm still struggling with it. For myself personally I know the plastic surgery aspect is what I feel I need to feel complete and happy with my body. Even with that though, I know it will still take work to find happiness within the skin that I am in...imperfections and all.

Princess · 07-25-2007, 10:02 AM

Well done on your 60lb loss! Wow, I wish I was there! Beauty is not just skin deep but rather how you shine from the inside, let yourself shine and post up an avatar picture!!

Zenomia · 07-25-2007, 10:04 AM

NO. You never will. See when I look in a mirror, still, I see a 257# woman who was poked with a pin and all the air was let out leaving a smaller version of that same woman in the SAME skin. Other people comment about how good I look, how healthy, how thin, and to be honest...I don't see it. I see a deflated fat chick who won't ever get back the years she has lost. I look around here at all the lovely changes and avitars and I envy everyone else for their beautiful transformations. My own transformation seems...false... Basically, what you "see" now may or may not change. It's a head thing. I know this..I know I have changed, I just can't see it through the same eyes as others. I am pretty sure it will take some time and possibly therapy to get over this negative image that I have built up around myself and my appearance....but that's my problem...YOU just need to know that you are changing and you have more to go. The further out you get, the more dramatic the transformation!! Just remember your only half-out of your shell...give yourself some time to bloom fully!

LQQkn · 07-25-2007, 11:04 AM

With my struggles to just stay alive post surgery, I haven't worried about what I look like physically. Even now after starting to finally feel like everything is changing for the better, I still don't let it affect me. I know that the longer I go the better my skin and body is adjusting. I was told early out of surgery from some gal who was 5 yrs out tell me not to do anything in way of plastics until I was at least 3 years out! And the more I wait and see the more she was right. I really don't look that bad naked, and to be honest I looked worse fat! Janie

LisaBoston · 07-25-2007, 11:07 AM

You know after loosing more than 1/2 of me, I still don't see what other see. I know I have lost weight, I see the before and after, but its still a head game.

I didn't do this for looks...I honestly did it for my health, and right now under the present conditions after my tummy tuck, I am not healthy, so I can't see clearly. I know this will pass, but right now its very hard to see.

We are so critical of how we are doing, how we look in the mirror and its so important to not have unrealistic expectations. I weigh what I did in grade 8, but I certainly don't look 13 again. You body takes a beating being obese - from skin sagging, skin texture, hair, muscle vs. fat...etc.

I wish I could say I am a gym rat and work out heavy, but I don't. My routine before the tummy tuck was lots of walking, swimming, treadmill, light weights - nothing big. But I can say I am SO much more active in day to day living and don't have limitations like I did before. My energy level is through the roof and that I couldn't have done before the surgery.

No regrets at all about the Gastric Bypass...would do it again in a heartbeat!

Zen.....LOVE your description of it all.......couldn't have said it any better! Count me in!