Is this me??? - Page 3 - ThinnerTimes

Dyann · 05-29-2007, 11:51 AM

Reading your words makes me think of a set of binoculars that are out of focus and you are seeing a different image in each eye. One is seeing the old you and you want to take the best of that person with you while the new you is coming into focus. Soon all the images will merge and you will be in focus.

Trust that you are still the same person (the good and probably a few bad traits as well.) Know that people will love you, but that you can't blame the ones that don't on being put off by your MO anymore. It is a time of real self reflection to figure out who you are, your new style of dress, your comfort in showing a little skin and also showing a bit of sagging skin as well and being ok with that.

It will come together.

Blueyz · 05-29-2007, 08:09 PM

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Originally Posted by AlabamaChick

I know Carrie just posted a thread about how in her dreams she is still the heavy girl she used to be. Well, I'm sorta having a problem similar to this too, but it's when I'm awake and when I see a pic of myself. For instance....when I post in the forum, I see my avatar and I have to always look at it twice because the question runs through my head......"Who is that girl"? I do it EVERYTIME I post now. I don't see myself looking like that and I can't relate to her. It's really starting to bother me and it has really been on my mind today. I even called my son over to my computer to look at my avatar and asked him if that is what he sees in real life when he looks at me...and he said......"ummmmmmmmm yeah" and looked at me like I was crazy. Then I explained to him what I was feeling and he is such a good kid....he tried to make me understand that I AM that person. It's so hard to explain what I feel...it's almost like that person in that pic is an imposture of me. It makes me feel guilty like I'm fooling people to thinking I'm something I'm not, if that makes sense. Does that sound crazy? My son told me I need to just get used to looking at myself smaller because I still expect to see what I used to be.

EDITED: Maybe I should have put this in the emotional section since I feel I am crazy! LOL

No, you are not crazy....I still feel bigger than I am and think I can't fit into things. I see myself in pictures and say "wow".

I love your new avatar..you are so dang cute

StelasMom · 05-30-2007, 09:45 AM

For what it's worth, I am only beginning my downward slide but I can already totally understand what you are saying....it's so hard to put into words but you did a really good job. It's not at all crazy, are you kidding?!?! Living in that old body for so long and now coming to terms w/ this different 'packaging' (just loved that post from Missy!! Great way to think about it!) with all the insides mostly the same in such a short time, who could keep up mentally with all those fast physical changes...I think you having such a good handle on it is over half the battle!

You look fantastic, start believing it. You deserve to be happy and comfortable in this new great you!!!!!!