Funny thing that happened today... - ThinnerTimes

electrichoney · 05-08-2007, 02:36 PM

Actually, it was a couple of funny things. The first one was a nice thing, but kind of funny-hmmm. I've been very open at work about my surgery -- everyone who knows me knows that I had the surgery and am willing to talk about my experiences, and they all ask constantly how I'm doing. Today, though, I went to an all-office staff meeting (I work at a state government office that comprises a 13-floor building, so it's a bunch of people), and this woman I don't know except to have seen her in the elevator came up to me before the meeting to congratulate me on my progress! I was a bit floored because I didn't know how she would have known about it -- I don't even really know which division she works for and can't remember ever having talked with her. But she said something about my being an inspiration, which was a little embarrassing, but nice nonetheless. So, that was kind of cool.

The second funny thing wasn't so much funny as it was ironic. I was on the elevator this morning when it stopped at another floor and one of my co-workers in another division got on with a new employee, a slim, attractive blonde woman that I had never met (strappy stiletto-heeled shoes, short skirt, dressed to the nines...you know the type). This woman stepped onto the elevator and when she saw me, she looked me up and down and her lip visibly curled. I'm sure I don't need to describe that look to anyone here! Well, the ironic thing of it was that several hours later, my co-worker brought Blonde Woman up to my office to ask for my help on something!! It was toooo funny to see her reaction -- my co-worker didn't realize that the new employee and I had never met, so she apologized and introduced us, and it turns out that Blonde Woman had called me a couple of weeks ago to ask for help on this same project that they came to see me about today. Talk about a 180-degree turnaround -- she was sweet as apple pie and soooo appreciative of my help. I was professional as always, but it just pissed me off. I've thought about it since this morning and I don't think I misinterpreted her look -- it was just too obvious what she was thinking when she saw me. Grrrr...two-faced people just SUCK!

I can't wait until I can shove my newly-improved physique into faces like that!

Dyann · 05-08-2007, 02:55 PM

You just wait. Give it time and it will be you in the sassy outfit with the high heels and she will look at you like she has never seen you since she won't recognize you from the person you are today. You won't recognize yourself. Congrats on your progress and your continued loss. I sounds like you have the right attitude.

electrichoney · 05-08-2007, 03:46 PM

Thanks, Dyann. And I hope I didn't seem too anti-slim-blonde-woman, seeing as how I'd like to be one of those myself someday...

I just detest fakeness in people, and I'm so incredibly sick of getting those judgmental looks from people smaller than me. It's funny, I thought after lo these many years that I was over that (or, maybe "used to that" is a better way to describe it), but as I focus now on my weight so much post-op I've become aware of that discriminatory shit again. Ugh...I could have done without THAT aspect of this process!

P.S. I don't remember if I posted in response to your after-TT pics, but YOU LOOK MAHVELOUS, DAHLING!

Dyann · 05-08-2007, 06:03 PM

It wasn't the slim part that bothered you, it was all high and mighty part and what gives her the right to be so openly rude. I was able to block out the stares pre op. Once I broke down that facade in the couple of weeks right before surgery, I noticed all of them. I also took note of them stopping as the weight came off. It is a sad commentary on the world today. Some will say maybe we just are more happy so people react differently now since we project a happier place. I will say, I don't care how happy I was, I could never get a guy to do anything for me at home depot pre op. Now, they all want to help me with my purchases, wood cuts etc.... I do lap that part up like sweet wine!!!

sweetchristiangal · 05-08-2007, 08:19 PM

my co-workers in another division got on with a new employee, a slim, attractive blonde woman that I had never met (strappy stiletto-heeled shoes, short skirt, dressed to the nines...you know the type).

Sounds like me but I'm not a blonde...I am the short brunette who got confused for a co workers daughter on bring your child to work day. Other than that it all fits...I dress up a lot for work.

I also make a point to look EVERYONE in the eye and say hello with a smile. I noticed people don't look you in the eye when you are MO...so I make sure I do.

I am with dyann I love the extra attention too....preop even if they would offer to help I would say no...after all MO is seen as a weakness and I didn't want to appear weak.

Baron Patrick · 05-08-2007, 08:30 PM

Hey, don't sweat it! Remember, what goes around comes around. Karma is incredibly powerful!

I just found out tonight the reason my wife's former boss (thin, blonde, and wanna be rich) would not talk to me because, OMG - I'm FAT!

She is the biggest flake I've ever met, with a tramp stamp she proudly shows off. Oh, and she's married with two kids (baby and toddler), and hubby is a deputy sheriff.

You don't need people like this in your life. You did the right thing and kept it professional.

Polly D · 05-08-2007, 08:35 PM

Blondie must be pretty insecure and miserable. Wouldn't stop me from despising her IRL

Mavisavis · 05-08-2007, 09:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Polly D

Blondie must be pretty insecure and miserable. Wouldn't stop me from despising her IRL

I always tell my daughter that anyone and everyone....with NO exception, that makes fun of or looks down on someone, does it because they don't like themselves. Soooooo, blondie feels pretty low and insecure......feel sorry for her.........then dislike her anyhow.