Self Image post PS - ThinnerTimes

Dyann · 04-06-2007, 07:01 AM

I thought I would share this and see if any others who have had PS feel the same way.

I felt physically great losing all the weight, but Pre PS I felt like I was fooling people and was a fraud. How many times did someone say "OMG you look amazing" and all you could think was...yeah right, what if they saw me with my clothes off!!. I had everything stuffed into body shapers and lifting bras so what people saw was not the truth underneath. Now what they see is what they get. It sort of makes me feel more genuine and I think gives me more confidence than losing all of the weight.

Any of you feel like this since your GBP and any who have had PS feel a dramatic freeing effect equal to or greater than the weight loss??

rainrain · 04-06-2007, 07:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Dyann

I thought I would share this and see if any others who have had PS feel the same way.

I felt physically great losing all the weight, but Pre PS I felt like I was fooling people and was a fraud. How many times did someone say "OMG you look amazing" and all you could think was...yeah right, what if they saw me with my clothes off!!. I had everything stuffed into body shapers and lifting bras so what people saw was not the truth underneath. Now what they see is what they get. It sort of makes me feel more genuine and I think gives me more confidence than losing all of the weight.

Any of you feel like this since your GBP and any who have had PS feel a dramatic freeing effect equal to or greater than the weight loss??

I wish I did, I think it helped but I still have the low breasts and I am very unhappy with my legs. So I guess I still feel like a fraud....sad, huh??

newlife4me · 04-06-2007, 07:41 AM

No, what is sad is that after what we have put our poor bodies through and still are not satisfied with ourselves. Surgery, more surgery, body shaping, worrying, wondering yet we remain as Dyan says "feeling like a fraud". I have been MO for most of my adult life. I just now can feel comfortable tieing my shoes, I can run if I want or need to without feeling like I am going to die. I can jump, contort

and do any number of "skinny people" activities, all for the first time since I can remember and yet I still hate the way the girls hang, my tummy causes me to have to by a size larger pants. My arms, we won't even talk about those...........Not to hijack your threat Doc but, my question is will we ever be happy with ourselves?......is that part of the "fat facts" about being MO?......
Looser thought for the day

Dyann · 04-06-2007, 09:07 AM

I definitely do not feel "satisfied" with how I look. I am much happier, but I think it is human nature to always want to look better. I am sure others will tell you that once the big things that bothered you about your body are fixed, your eyes then move to the remaining items.
I am more talking about "fooling" people. It is like wearing blue colored contacts and everyone saying your eyes are gorgeous while you know all along you have brown eyes underneath. I felt dishonest accepting the compliment. Now I feel a little more whole. The weight loss fixed the medical aspects and physicial abilities, the PS actually I think helped my head.

newlife4me · 04-06-2007, 09:51 AM

You know putting that spin on it and in that context, maybe I will reconsider the PS. I have been sytematically looking for excuses and rationalizing why I really don't need it, but I would like to not have to make excuses anymore.....In this instance I guess a person can have surgery to change how we think!

Thanks for the food for thought!

coptergirl · 04-06-2007, 11:49 AM

I am satisfied with the way I look overall, although sometimes I still see that fat girl in the mirror, and other times I can't stop staring at the f;at tummy and the waist line. Wierd. Then there are times that I am self conscious of the thighs and the anchor scar....but these are just...me. I am learning to love me....not always an easy thing, but necessary.

MiladyB · 04-06-2007, 11:58 AM

Dyann, though I can't speak from the plastic surgery side I do understand exactly what you are saying!! I have caught myself on more than one occasion when someone compliments me responding with, "Thank you, but I don't look so good underneath." I do feel like a "fraud". The feelings you have expressed honestly mirror so much what I am feeling right now. I pray plastic surgery will be in my future and that if and when it happens my feelings will still mirror yours. I feel like I need that for myself....for my emotional health.

Thank you for bringing up this topic. I appreciated it!

VanessaSFL · 04-06-2007, 02:30 PM

Dyann~No PS here but the "Fraud" feeling...BINGO.We work so hard to commit to the tool ,accompish soo much and yet I have too thought "If you only knew"

I had a hard time during my visit home this past week....My "special" friend kept commenting on what an elegant creature I have become and all I could say was if you only knew the Florida Skunk Ape is uder the size 4 Levi"s.

Bad,bad,Bad...I know.I stuggle with Body Image now after surgery more than I ever did MO...or any other time in my life.

I hear you girl~

V

Dyann · 04-06-2007, 03:41 PM

Van...
Sorry you feel the fraud thing as well, but do tell about this "special friend"??!!!

VanessaSFL · 04-06-2007, 03:43 PM

I'll email you about the SF.
V