Shocked!!! - ThinnerTimes

Tawanda · 02-07-2007, 10:54 AM

I had a really outrageous thing happen last night and I need some help from my pals here with how to deal with it.

Several of my friends and family members knew I was trying to get approved for surgery 15 months ago, and we all know how that went.

This weekend, when I went with a big group of friends to Nevada for a Superbowl party, I ran into two acquaintances that I haven't seen in over a year.

One of them asked, "So HOW, exactly, have you been able to take all the weight off?"

I simply replied, "Diet and exercise."

And she said, "Uh...huh..." and looked at me disbelievingly.

Last night one of my friends called me and said that after I had left, those two were telling everyone that I must be on drugs or had WLS surgery because there is absolutely no way I could have lost weight without it. When one of my friends rebutted that I wouldn't have done the surgery without telling my friends, the other two made a huge deal about insisting to everyone that I must be on drugs then. Apparently they have planted a seed of disbelief in several people's minds now.

I'm shocked, I'm hurt, and for some crazy reason, I feel the need to defend myself. I was thinking of giving this forum address to some of my closest friends so they can come in and see that I have been getting support from all of my friends at TT for well over a year...but I also am feeling that I have no need to explain anything to anyone.

Wow...this is a reverse double whammy...I know you all deal with naysayers and disbelievers all the time. Any advice?

chilmoe · 02-07-2007, 11:10 AM

awwe hun, sorry these people made you feel this way, what is wrong with people, i know it hurts to be stepped on and run over by things like this, i dont have advice, just hugs.

Duckie · 02-07-2007, 11:10 AM

My advice: "slap them biotches upside the head!"
Wow. WIth friends like them hon, who need enemies? Your REAL friends would never believe such untruths hon. {{{{{{{{{{Tawanda}}}}}}}}}}}

lds98m · 02-07-2007, 11:10 AM

Girlfriend,

Your family and friends know you. Its a shame people feel the need to judge others. To me that is a sign of insecurity in them.

For me its just the oppisite. The people around me now never saw me big and when I tell them I used to be fat I actually get called a lier! I just giggle at them. I have nothing to prove to anybody.

I just dont care to listen to negitive people.

gottaloseit · 02-07-2007, 11:32 AM

Jealousy I say! You have lost all this weight by yourself and we all know it, too bad they are too jealous of your weight loss to admire you! Go go Girl!

JenBear7 · 02-07-2007, 11:40 AM

YOU know you arent on drugs, and YOU know you didnt do WLS (WOW!!.. I am way impressed btw!).. So.. if people (notice I omitted the word friends) telling other people what they think YOU are doing.. then they need to get a clue. I would hope your true friends KNOW you, and are supportive, and would at least give you the curtesy of asking first.. AND.. he who smelt it dealt it right? Maybe they are on drugs.. and trying to get everyone reaction before they "come out"!

(Just kidding.. but.. Although it is easy for me to sit here and say shrug it off.. I KNOW its not easy girl.. ) {{HUGS}} Take care of you (I need to get your secrets by the way for my mom! who is losing with diet and excercise!)..

Grnize · 02-07-2007, 11:52 AM

Get a new set of friends. I keep all individuals at a distance that are not supportive of me right now. I am strong but not that strong and I am really sensitive about the weight loss, hanging skin and other issue we face. You dont need any and I mean any negative feedback from anyone including family. Step and find support here or with new friends.

Keep you head up.. Oh yeah You do not have to justify your actions to nobody. You work and pay your own darn bills. Remember that you answer to the almight only....

newlife4me · 02-07-2007, 12:06 PM

Start your own danged rumor. Lets see.....tell em you are really a secret agent (006) and you were marooned on an island for 4 months with your really hot pilot and you were only able to eat fish, fruit and local wild veggies and for entertainment, well......I probably should stop here, you get the idea....dopes......I say it doesn't matter what they think.....you are still who you are and you still have worked very hard to get where you are......what they "THINK" means squat.....

JenBear7 · 02-07-2007, 12:08 PM

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Originally Posted by newlife4me

Start your own danged rumor. Lets see.....tell em you are really a secret agent (006) and you were marooned on an island for 4 months with your really hot pilot and you were only able to eat fish, fruit and local wild veggies and for entertainment, well......I probably should stop here, you get the idea....dopes......I say it doesn't matter what they think.....you are still who you are and you still have worked very hard to get where you are......what they "THINK" means squat.....

Or that you were on Survivor... but Shhh.. cant say anything til it airs! *Grins* oh the rumors you could start!

CeeCee · 02-07-2007, 12:34 PM

Just tell one of those "friends"- or better yet, arrange for them to overhear you tell a real friend that your "condition" hasn't been considered contagious since the 1940's, so anyone you've talked to in the last few weeks should be okay...