Originally Posted by butterfly2b

As a "new-be" this is one of the most outrageous threads I have read thus far.

I was introduced to the board because I am a patient of Dr. Callery's. I was told it would be informational and cover a lot of questions that would come up along the way. I have been relieved to know that my journey is not unique. I have posted a little, primarily because it is in my nature to be quiet and reserved. I have learned a lot about early post op & old timer issues - the one that stands out in my mind is grazing on Peperidge Farm cookies all day instead of eating healthily. I used to to excatly THAT 24 years ago - it scared the &*#! out of me that I could be doing that again in a year. But it also reminded me a what a hard journey this is and will continue to be. My take away - no one is perfect, no one.

One of the complex issues of obesity is that we all got there for different reasons. The very people who now enjoy the light hearted posts now may have greatly enjoyed the get to know you posts that went around in 2004. Different people need different things from this forum, & for some it may be as simple as socialization. (Don't forget, we the obese are isolated from many parts of society and relationships becasue of our appearance.) BUT, everyone comes to GPS in their own time and to talking about their weight issues when it is emotionally safe for them. This posting and some of the responses lack a sense of humilty and brotherhood that I usually encounter when reading here. Sadly to me, some of the responses have a mean tone that do nothing to support the forum community.

Originally Posted by butterfly2b

As a "new-be" this is one of the most outrageous threads I have read thus far.

I was introduced to the board because I am a patient of Dr. Callery's. I was told it would be informational and cover a lot of questions that would come up along the way. I have been relieved to know that my journey is not unique. I have posted a little, primarily because it is in my nature to be quiet and reserved. I have learned a lot about early post op & old timer issues - the one that stands out in my mind is grazing on Peperidge Farm cookies all day instead of eating healthily. I used to to excatly THAT 24 years ago - it scared the &*#! out of me that I could be doing that again in a year. But it also reminded me a what a hard journey this is and will continue to be. My take away - no one is perfect, no one.

One of the complex issues of obesity is that we all got there for different reasons. The very people who now enjoy the light hearted posts now may have greatly enjoyed the get to know you posts that went around in 2004. Different people need different things from this forum, & for some it may be as simple as socialization. (Don't forget, we the obese are isolated from many parts of society and relationships becasue of our appearance.) BUT, everyone comes to GPS in their own time and to talking about their weight issues when it is emotionally safe for them. This posting and some of the responses lack a sense of humilty and brotherhood that I usually encounter when reading here. Sadly to me, some of the responses have a mean tone that do nothing to support the forum community.

Originally Posted by JenBear7

I can proudly say I am a newbie.. been reading here for a while, positing for a couple weeks... I can tell who the regulars are because I have read a great deal of the posts here (old & new)..Maybe intolerance of seeing the same posts, or unrelated questions is a stage of WLS..

I havent had it yet, and I feel it very useful to know that the scale doesnt always move, or that you are going to need chapstick in the hosp, or that just about everybody's hair falls out.. or that someone is excited because they are in a smaller size jeans... or people actually get to stop taking certain meds... or even when people are having a rough time with other parts of their lives..

I chose this forum to "park my pre-op butt at" because even the people who had been around forever seemed to answer the questions of everyone without treating them like outsiders... everyone is friendly & helpful.. and the feeling of comraderie on this site is apparent.. even to us outsiders ( )

I think it is all relevant... and if people want to play.. then people probably need to play. I would say that there are probably people with fake lives, but most of us probably get out of bed and go to work every day.. and deal with enough "real" bs that signing into a forum to hear how so and so is doing is a release in and of itself.. and its nice to know you arent the only one in the world feeling a certain way (even the silly posts!)

I think when people have knowledge in a certain area they are very eager to help.. the hernia may not be getting the responses this time, but I bet if someone had the same experience.. they will chime in.

I am sure you feel like you have answered the same posts a million times.. and I would say to you.. THANKS!!! You have probably made someone feel less alone, or less afraid, or more comfortable with whats happening or not happening .. those same million times.. and that is priceless...

Just my newbie two cents.. (I may be new.. but Im not shy )

Originally Posted by butterfly2b

As a "new-be" this is one of the most outrageous threads I have read thus far... This posting and some of the responses lack a sense of humilty and brotherhood that I usually encounter when reading here. Sadly to me, some of the responses have a mean tone that do nothing to support the forum community.

Originally Posted by Gina in NY

Doesn't matter what you can eat, just matters what you do eat.

Originally Posted by SDphotogrl99

I understand what you are saying but don't read into it that much. Robin is one of the most light hearted people I know. Read her posting you will be able to see that. I think she is just trying to say that she wishes the threads that people post who are in need of help should get just as many if not more responses back as the one like "the person below me".

Originally Posted by eyesthatkissu

Originally Posted by eyesthatkissu

Originally Posted by SDphotogrl99

I know I have done it before on here too. Man oh man was it drama on that thread! lol But sometimes you just have to say what you feel and not everyone is going to like it. Oh well Its just one persons opinion I don't know why some seem to take it so personal. But you know what I don't care. I am going to say what I think and not everyone is going to agree I am ok with that. I know you are too Keep on keepin on girl

Originally Posted by eyesthatkissu

Originally Posted by Wildeblnde34

Yeah a can of worms.lol. But, I think you clarified yourself. The bigger can came from a certain response that was posted to your original thread. Although I appreciate honesty and straight-forwardness sometimes, the way something is "put out there" is offensive.