What on earth is going on around here? - Page 2 - ThinnerTimes

eyesthatkissu · 01-13-2007, 03:58 PM

I know you do... that's why your my best friend... I don't socialize with dummies.

bridgetgirl · 01-13-2007, 04:03 PM

I love ya 'Ree.

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Originally Posted by lealphachienne

I for one like the useless dribble on this board.

I have noticed that, and it amazes me. At one time, you were one of the "go to " people here (and Tracy was the vitamin guru)..... much like Dyann and Duckie are now. You are one of the smartest, wisest and most well informed people I have ever met!
An extraordinary wealth of information. I miss your insightful posts, the posts that get people to refocus or rething negative behavior. Come back to us Marie..... follow the light. Ha ha.

Well I say if you like posting the silly stuff, put it under the appropriate catagory... most people like to generalize all the time. Put it under social I suppose.

lealphachienne · 01-13-2007, 04:06 PM

Yes...actually...I think we need more flame topics...that always gets the truth out!

I have never left...I just pick and chose more carefully where I might of be of benefit...besides, you're the Queen...or wait...was that Robin?????

bridgetgirl · 01-13-2007, 04:07 PM

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Originally Posted by lealphachienne

Yes...actually...I think we need more flame topics...that always gets the truth out!

I have never left...I just pick and chose more carefully where I might of be of benefit...besides, you're the Queen...or wait...was that Robin?????

ROFLMAO! Im the queen I will always be the Queen! ha ha ha

What cha doing tonight? Im gonna call ya.. brrrrrring!

Duckie · 01-13-2007, 04:09 PM

Well, don't be offended by what I have to say! I feel that a lot of the "fun" posts are needed. Yes, most of them are mindless but hell, you can't be serious 100% of the time.
I find that people that can relate to a "serious" post do so! I can't relate, at all, to the hernia question cuz I don't have one. Never have. Yes, as a nurse I automatically think.. hmm... call your doctor but her doctor has been putting it off and I have no idea what's going on. People honestly have to use their own judgement when they have a medical issue. I/We can't be diagnosing medical issues over the computer. I made a LONG< LONG post about this before. If I CAN offer advice I will. I just choose not to sometimes out of fear of getting myself in trouble. I could lose my nursing license if someone thought I gave them bad information and decided to pursue that. This is why I hold my tongue a lot of the times.
I have enough stress in my life that sometimes I just want to sign on and LAUGH. Laugh with these wonderful friends i have made. If I feel they are screwing up I WILL tell them. Most people know by now that I say what I feel. Ask the dude that we all thought should wait for surgery.

I guess I'm feeling the "us vs. them" thing based on your posts. The long term post oppers vs. the shorter term. I feel that WE ARE helping each other. If there is some insightful information that we are missing by all means fill us in.
I'm done.

eyesthatkissu · 01-13-2007, 04:10 PM

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Originally Posted by lealphachienne

Yes...actually...I think we need more flame topics...that always gets the truth out!

I have never left...I just pick and chose more carefully where I might of be of benefit...besides, you're the Queen...or wait...was that Robin?????

OMG Ree I can't believe you just said that! HAHAHAHAHA I think I'm going to die!!!! It was Bridget... but then I think it was suppossed to be me, but I beleive I there was a coux (sp?) and I was overthrown. Or maybe I stepped down, I can't recall. Now I think I'm more of the court jester!

But yes Ree you are simply one of the smartest, strongest and most insightful women I have ever met. You always called me to the mat when I was not taking responsibility for what I had done to enable myself in my MO. I think that future generations would benefit greatly from that same tough love. Please don't silence the lioness!

Alleusion · 01-13-2007, 04:11 PM

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because I can only come up with so many ways to say "way to go!" and "happy birthday," and "welcome to the forum."

Honestly, I don't even post those things on social and art forums I belong to.

I joined the forum about a week after I decided to have the surgery. I had done a google search on WLS forums and this was the first site on the list. I didn't even have Dr. C or Dr. Potts do my surgery. Back in May of 05 this forums was instrumental in helping me through my journey.

But now. . .I rarely post. I see what Robin and Bridget are saying. We've become a bunch of cheerleaders, and when someone tries to point out the real issue, they either get jumped on or the topic completely dies.

The point is, we need to be real. I didn't get fat by talking about my issues and dealing with the emotional pain I was in. And when the time came to be real, trust me, I didn't want it. But like ripping off a band-aid, it hurts in the beginning, but the pain goes away and you heal.

The problem comes alot of times by the way we choose to deal with what's going on. Bridget is correct in some people thinking that the harder you smile and be happy about things, the more you hope people won't notice what's wrong. It's why I don't post my issues here anymore. I don't want or need a cheerleader telling me that everything is okay. If you knew what was going on in my life, you'd know it's not okay. I go to my support meetings so I can look Bridget in the eyes as she sees through the smile and asks me how I'm dealing with it. Going out drinking all the time after surgery, eating too much, too little, the wrong foods....IT'S NOT OKAY DAMNIT.

No one is telling anyone else how to post, or what they should or shouldn't post. But maybe that we should think about what we're posting, and where we're putting it. Maybe we should think about why we're here and what we hope to gain by being here. I'm didn't come here to make friends, but it happened. And I appreciate them more for being real to me instead of my personal cheerleader.

bridgetgirl · 01-13-2007, 04:12 PM

no no no, it doesnt have anything to do with us vs them at all, no popular and unpopular people.

I just dont understand all the non sense posting and how out of control it seems to get..... how the silly stuff gets more attention than issues that need better attention.

sigh, I think I am out of words with regard to this.. its getting twisted already.

Ciao!

eyesthatkissu · 01-13-2007, 04:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Duckie

Well, don't be offended by what I have to say! I feel that a lot of the "fun" posts are needed. Yes, most of them are mindless but hell, you can't be serious 100% of the time.
I find that people that can relate to a "serious" post do so! I can't relate, at all, to the hernia question cuz I don't have one. Never have. Yes, as a nurse I automatically think.. hmm... call your doctor but her doctor has been putting it off and I have no idea what's going on. People honestly have to use their own judgement when they have a medical issue. I/We can't be diagnosing medical issues over the computer. I made a LONG< LONG post about this before. If I CAN offer advice I will. I just choose not to sometimes out of fear of getting myself in trouble. I could lose my nursing license if someone thought I gave them bad information and decided to pursue that. This is why I hold my tongue a lot of the times.
I have enough stress in my life that sometimes I just want to sign on and LAUGH. Laugh with these wonderful friends i have made. If I feel they are screwing up I WILL tell them. Most people know by now that I say what I feel. Ask the dude that we all thought should wait for surgery.

I guess I'm feeling the "us vs. them" thing based on your posts. The long term post oppers vs. the shorter term. I feel that WE ARE helping each other. If there is some insightful information that we are missing by all means fill us in.
I'm done.

You are so sweet. But that's not what I meant at all. I don't want them to stop, I just want the other more important posts to be answered as well. I said I enjoyed them myself. I think Bridgets right about maybe putting them in the correct category. And there is no Us vs. Them, I just want everyone to get the help they need, and I'm afraid that's not happening as it should.

Blueyz · 01-13-2007, 04:16 PM

I answered the hernia question because I have been there and done that. I think sometimes people don't want to take the advice that is given, but if it is thrown out there, well it can be taken or ignored. I agree with what you are saying Robin as I have shared my experiences on numerous occaisions. One of which is the topic about Plastic Surgery and how I know from experience that we should wait until we stabilize weight. I don't post on numerous posts to say it over and over because I want to be mean, I do it because I CARE and I KNOW that our bodies continue to change after a year out. I wouldn't want anyone to waste money and have to go back in for more PS later. I have posted this so many times and noticed I never get much of a response, so I just move forward. I figure, I can share what happened to me and then move on. Take it or leave it. I always try to pay it forward and hopefully someone will be able to solve a problem or worry less if something they are asking is normal. I have been blessed with the support of so many lovely people here and hope that everyone knows how much I really do appreciate it.