What on earth is going on around here? - Page 12 - ThinnerTimes

gottaloseit · 01-15-2007, 11:12 AM

Wow, I too just spent an hour reading this thread and I just wanted to put my 2 cents in too. I am new here and when I first came, I posted about eating string cheese when I shouldn't have and was afraid it would get stuck. Well, I got a few responses that told me I was going to be fine and that others had done the same thing. I was happy to know that I could come here for information. I usually like to just read but if I have something to add like for someone that is in the same boat as me, I will add what I know.

I had never seen this bickering before and actually did not like seeing all you guys fighting, but life goes on. I will still be here asking for insight and I will FOR SURE POST IN THE RIGHT PLACE!!

Dave T in SD · 01-15-2007, 03:11 PM

What an interesting post.
I'm one of those guys that read and digest more than post any more.
People that know me know why.

I'm glad to have all the "Old-Post-opers" are here as I really enjoy the information they give.
The newbies are wonderful...I was once a newbie and was treated with love and understanding...
Not all questions were answered, but as I look back, I found that they had posts before me and my questions were answered when I looked back in those posts.

You guys don't know what this place has ment to me over the last 9 months since my surgery and even when I was a post-oper.
I'm glad you are all here and keeping it lively!!

LauraLee · 01-15-2007, 05:03 PM

CANT WE ALL JUST GET ALONG????

Ok...I just spent alot of time catching up on all this drama. I NEVER post anymore and this is actually why, but I had to post and say something here!

First of all...I fully understand where Robin and Bridg are coming from and could not agree with them more.

When I was first looking into WLS, I came here and was literally addicted to the site. I researched on here, I made friends on here and loved coming on here and talking with Bridg and Robin, Dara, watergirl, Jeanine, and Irela and her husband Bill just to name a few and many other regulars whom are no longer here posting! What a bundle of knowledge and help they all were to me and I could not have asked for better help. Bridg, you were one who came to see me in the hospital and I will forever remember that. I appreciated it then and still do to this day.

There is 12 pages here of nonsense , B.S. and drama. The whole point of this thread has literally been thrown out the window. Robin and Bridg did not post anything to hurt anyones feelings. If yall take it that way, then you have some personal issues that you need to deal with outside of this forrum. EVERYONE here needs get get back into focus as to why we are all here, and that is to help eachother out with out WLS issues and struggles and challenges. Thats including pre-op, post-op and us long termers as well.

Stop posting mean, rude and vindictive comments about eachother. This is not a soap opera so please do not make it one. Move on from this thread and lets all be nice to eachtother and help one another out with love and concern!

eyesthatkissu · 01-15-2007, 05:10 PM

I love you Laurabelle!

LauraLee · 01-15-2007, 05:11 PM

Love you too Rah Rah!!!

newbetterme · 01-15-2007, 05:41 PM

I have just read all the post to this thread and it saddens me. Im not taking anyone’s side as I can understand all points of view. I can only give my point of view. I know when I first started on the forum 2 years ago I didnt post much just read info. I used to get upset cause I thought there was a clique. I soon realized that it was just my insecure vision of what I though I was seeing. The only reason I wasnt part of the "clique" was I chose not to be. Reality there was no “clique”, just a group of people getting to know each other.

In the beginning I got a lot of information about what to expect at the hospital and after. In the general support meetings I enjoy listening to the problems of the long term post-op people cause I knew one day I would be there to. I still attend the early support meetings once in while when I need to reconnect with a healthier mind set for using the tool that I have been given. Even now at a little over two years out I still get a lot from readying post about the emotion trial that those that are further out than me are going through cause again I will be there one day myself.

Whether you are pre-op, newbie gbs or long term we all have something to offer each other. Yes I can lie to myself about my food choices or my behavior but every once in awhile I read a post on here that puts me in check and makes me think. Sometimes its from someone who has recently had surgery and is excited about the changes they are going through, these make me remember how excited I was and how grateful I am to have had this life change procedure. Sometimes its from a long-term who is struggling with the emotional trials of just being us. These to help me as I can identify with them and know I am not alone or I read how they are coping so that if I too begin down that road I have a point of reference to fall back on.

No we will not always agree on everything and yes sometimes we will misunderstand a post since we are not face to face with that person and do not have the benefit of tone of voice or body language. Please take a moment to leave the computer and come back and re-read the post as sometimes even a few minutes away might make it seem different. If you feel the need to post in anger please take the few extra min to collect your thoughts and then try posting. These few extra min might make the difference between constructive comments and just plain nastiness.

eyesthatkissu · 01-15-2007, 05:43 PM

Eloquently said Deb... and I love your avatar...

newbetterme · 01-15-2007, 05:45 PM

thanks robin...boy my spelling needs work though

porshh951 · 01-15-2007, 07:59 PM

wow im very shocked at some of the responses.

I've been reading this forum for awhile now and finally registered. I think its a great place for support and for encouragement. I won't personally get offended if no one reponds to one of my posts/and or threads cause honestly its not that important. What is important is I try and help others where I can.

I think this is a great place and have recieved nothing but, warm welcome.

porshh951 · 01-15-2007, 08:01 PM

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Originally Posted by newbetterme

I have just read all the post to this thread and it saddens me. Im not taking anyone’s side as I can understand all points of view. I can only give my point of view. I know when I first started on the forum 2 years ago I didnt post much just read info. I used to get upset cause I thought there was a clique. I soon realized that it was just my insecure vision of what I though I was seeing. The only reason I wasnt part of the "clique" was I chose not to be. Reality there was no “clique”, just a group of people getting to know each other.

In the beginning I got a lot of information about what to expect at the hospital and after. In the general support meetings I enjoy listening to the problems of the long term post-op people cause I knew one day I would be there to. I still attend the early support meetings once in while when I need to reconnect with a healthier mind set for using the tool that I have been given. Even now at a little over two years out I still get a lot from readying post about the emotion trial that those that are further out than me are going through cause again I will be there one day myself.

Whether you are pre-op, newbie gbs or long term we all have something to offer each other. Yes I can lie to myself about my food choices or my behavior but every once in awhile I read a post on here that puts me in check and makes me think. Sometimes its from someone who has recently had surgery and is excited about the changes they are going through, these make me remember how excited I was and how grateful I am to have had this life change procedure. Sometimes its from a long-term who is struggling with the emotional trials of just being us. These to help me as I can identify with them and know I am not alone or I read how they are coping so that if I too begin down that road I have a point of reference to fall back on.

No we will not always agree on everything and yes sometimes we will misunderstand a post since we are not face to face with that person and do not have the benefit of tone of voice or body language. Please take a moment to leave the computer and come back and re-read the post as sometimes even a few minutes away might make it seem different. If you feel the need to post in anger please take the few extra min to collect your thoughts and then try posting. These few extra min might make the difference between constructive comments and just plain nastiness.

well said.