A little OT, need to vent and experienced a bit of a lightbulb moment! - ThinnerTimes

NewMel06 · 12-03-2006, 03:34 PM

Hi Everyone,
I had sort or a light bulb moment today. A little off topic here-my husband found out he didn't make 1st class Petty Officer in the Navy again (we are going on like 9 times now) So, I was talking about it to my sister, really really upset about this. I was complaining that my husband isn't trying hard enough and that I feel let down..... went into deeper issues of how my husband spends money... and self control with that. I was telling my sister that since I had GBS, that there are things in my marriage that I once would have put up with but now I' m not and not sure of why this is. She answers back, it's self control. YOu have to exercise self control in the way you eat so you are more aware when your husband or someone else isn't using self control. Such a simple statement, but so true. Why didn't I think of this before? So it put things into perspective for me as far as the changes in my life or at least in the way I think or react to certain things. I am still feeling so devastated over my husband not making his advancement. To those who don't understand how it all works, they take a test, then once the test is graded, certain questions are thrown out based on everyone getting them right or wrong and then the score is calculated with various items in their record and once they know the scores and how many they want to advance in each rate they set the score for advancement. So, though my husband scored really high(in the top 5%,) they only advanced 3%. So he didn't make it. Part of my thinks I'm being too hard on him and part of me thinks he isn't trying hard enough. All the same I am really upset, yet another advancement cycle and no advancement means no raise! A raise we could really use right now since I am not working. Thanks for listening to the rant. It helps to vent so I'm not venting this to DH.