Morning food after 2 wks. Is it normal to feel blue? - ThinnerTimes

thinkthin · 10-26-2006, 09:53 AM

Hey everyone,
I've been doing okay for the last 2 wks. I know i've been over doing it a little, but mostly i feel fine.
The only pain i have is when i try to pick up my 18 month old. Not to bad though, i just feel winded at times.
Anyway, these last 2 days i have had a hard time dealing with food. I am only on baby food and clear liquids if i want. It seems like i am morning the idea of not having food. Why is that? I want to eat like everyone else. I did blend a chicken breast to eat b/c i won't eat jarred meats. Is this feeling normal? I also have only seen about a 20 lb. weight loss. Should it be more? Should i be weighing myself everyday? My friends call me for a daily update on my weight loss and i think it's messing with my head.
Should i also be exercising? I do take a daily walk around the block with the baby. Why am i feeling like this? Is it normal to feel like cheating?

LisaM · 10-26-2006, 10:00 AM

If you had lost your best friend, would you think it was OK to grieve? Well, if you're like most of us, you just lost your best friend--food was always there for all of us, soothing every emotional bump in the road. I know that the cookies in the cupboard yelled my name, so food talked to us, too...

You also have a little bit of what we call "buyer's remorse." You wonder if you did the right thing, and can't imagine living the rest of your life like you are now. The good news is, as the weight drops off, you'll start wondering how you could have ever eaten the amounts you did before. And, as you wade into the decisions about what you can and can't eat later on, you'll begin to feel better.

I think most of us went through the emotions that you're going through right now, and your exercise sounds right to me--but I would refrain from picking your 18-month-old up as much as you can. As those who've herniated their surgery sites can tell you, there is very good reason for the prohibition against picking up more than ten pounds for the first four to six weeks. I also know it's easier said than done when you have a little one, but you must be careful so you can remain healthy and keep exercising.

Try to weigh less often - your friends ARE messing with your head, but tell them you'll only be weighing once a week, or better, once a month. And comparing your 20 pound loss to what other people have lost in the same amount of time is a quick ticket to the looney bin. You'll lose at the rate that your body will let it go, and what that will be is anyone's guess. And yes, everyone on the forum has wondered the same thing about their own weight loss, too. You're incredibly normal!

MiladyB · 10-26-2006, 10:05 AM

Everything you are feeling is totally normal! I remember having the same feelings at that time. First of all your hormones are majorly shifting. It is not uncommon to have "blue" feelings about this time. I remember being so irritable and would cry at the drop of a hat. Pretty much major pms type things. At 2 weeks all I wanted to do was eat normal! I was so sick of the bariatric products my surgeon had me on and I wanted to chew SO BAD!!

A 20 lb weight loss is great! That's what I lost my first 2 weeks. Personally I would recommend just staying away from the scale. Kindly ask those calling you for a daily update to "Bug-Off"! It isn't helping you and basicly the daily scale weighing does more mental harm than good. I weigh myself once a week. No more often than that. At your stage I only weighed at my post-op checks which for me were every 2-3 weeks. That was often enough. If you need to hide your scale! Ask someone to take it out of the house! Concentrate more on how you are feeling not what the scale says. Are your clothes fitting different? Are your rings getting loose? If you have to measure something, do your measurements!

You do need to exercise but what you are doing is good for your stage. The important thing right now is to move. Try to get out a walk daily 15-30 min if you can. But STOP if you feel pain or get tired. Just do what you can. What is important right now is trying to set up habits. You will lose no matter what, right now. Even if you don't do much. But it will come to a point that your weight loss will start to depend more and more on what you are eating and how much you are exercising. So now is the time to start to set up those good habits.

Take it easy on yourself. Please try not to stress and beat yourself up. The emotional part of this journey is a rough one. It isn't easy. But with support and time you'll get through it and feel better and better.

kittens4 · 10-26-2006, 11:27 AM

Hi there! Well, I am 3 days out, so don't have those feelings yet...but I do think a 20 lb loss is awesome! I am amazed at how satisfied I am with the diet. I'm not looking forward to going back to work next week, because I know it'll be harder to incorporate all the liquid and protein and things in there. You get busy and hours go by before you realize you haven't drank! That will take some getting used to, but I'll force myself. The walking is great. That's what they told me to do...the goal is to be walking 30 mins a day 30 days after surgery...you work up to that slowly. You'll be fine. I am on a diet that goes in stages...not sure how that differs from yours. I had 1-2 days of the clear liquid thing, and am now on full liquids. Still, it's good! I have 1/2 cup of cream of wheat with 1/2 cup of milk for breakfast..then 1/2 cup of protein shake at 10am, then 1/2 cup of cream soup for lunch, 1/2 cup ff yogurt, then another 1/2 cup of protein shake, then another 1/2 cup of soup and 1/2 cup of sf pudding for dinner. and another 1/2 cup of protein for snack! I also toss in a sf fudge bar too! So far, so good. It's easier knowing each week I progress to a new food! After this stage, I go to pureed stuff, then, then soft mechanical, and then soft, and then regular! Woohoo! By Thanksgiving I should be up for a bit of turkey...but up real small...and some mashed potatoes! I'm excited about that! I'm sure they'll be some regret, but in the long run, I know I'll be so much happier and healthier for doing this. Hang in there. Sounds like you are doing great!

kwiktrip · 10-26-2006, 11:28 AM

i was told not to weigh myself for the first 6 months if possible cuz i would lose inches first then pounds. but if i had to weigh mysefl to do it once a month. i only had my surgery Oct. 10 . i too miss food this is normal . and watching tv doesnt help with all their delicious food comercials. hope things get better for you . i was told things get better every day and so far that statement is true.

VanessaSFL · 10-26-2006, 12:31 PM

I still morn certian food at 19 months out.It is very normal.
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bloomer001 · 10-26-2006, 01:46 PM

said it, I just thought I would tell you again. I felt the same things!! Actually about 6 or 7 days after surgery I was on this very same sight, asking those very same questions. I actually began crying, not just a little but for almost 3 days straight. My friends thought I was nuts! I wish I could help more, but all I can say is I felt the same way, so you are not alone. I can't explain it but one day you will just wake up and relise that you have been feeling ok for a few days, and then it's all down hill after that!

And remember, everyone here is on your side, these are some of the best people you will meet and they will always be here to cheer you up and listen when you just need to vent!

thinkthin · 10-26-2006, 04:15 PM

Thank you all for all your kind words of encouragement. You really don't realize how much food rules your life. I felt the need to crunch today, so i took one of my daughters baby pretzels and crunched and chewed on it and then spit it out.
I do feel like cheating and have a little bit. I know it is bad, but i just had to! I am afraid that i will develop bad habits with this so i guess i need to train myself to just stop! I was fine and then my emontions just hit me really hard yesterday! I feel more tired this week compared to my 1st week home, but i guess i am just over doing it. I had my mom and husband home with me last week. Now i am pretty much on my own. I try to pick and choose to pick up the baby. Being a full time mom is so difficult at times b/c you never clock in or out, it's 24/7!
Sometimes i feel like my friends think of me as the poster child for bypass surgery. Some of them don't understand b/c they are naturally thin. The one friend who is over weight like me, is the one really pestering me about how much wgt. i've lost. Everyone wants me to do well, but they are curious i guess. I turned down going to a lunch playdate today. For me right now, there is just too much temptation. Anyone else feel like that?
Are we supposed to be eating 3 meals with 3 snacks in between?
I can't wait for mushy's. I am only 2 weeks out. I had surgery on 10/11 and the surgeon is really strict. I think i need to look into going for some nutrionist couseling. What do you all think?