Hey Cindy,
I had an abdominoplasty (the skin and muscle tightening as well) a yr ago, and one of the most annoying things about it is the "Ken Doll" syndrome. That was the very long lasting puffiness of my groin! (hence, the Ken Doll thing - just picture it) ;)
Actually, the swelling of everything lasted pretty long - about 6 months. Oh sure, it was still very cool, and you could tell my tummy and waist was smaller, but there was still swelling. I also wore the binder for quite awhile - made me feel better.
And the numbness of the area - I still have numb feelings if I touch around the front of my tummy - close to the incision. It's kind of weird, 'cos I feel my touch, but it's just a little tingly. Doc said that so many nerve endings were cut, that it would indeed feel numb, if not always a little bit.
But it's wonderful! And if I ever think that maybe it's not a whole lot different than I was prior to the TT, all I have to do is look at the "before" photos, and I'm amazed that I really looked that way!
Also, a very cool site all about the surgery etc, is
http://www.tuckthattummy.com/
Good Luck Cindy!