http://www.thinnertimesforum.com/ The emotional support is for those who seek or wish to provide emotional or psychological support. en Fri, 20 Nov 2009 21:29:41 GMT vBulletin 60 http://www.thinnertimesforum.com/images/misc/rss.jpg http://www.thinnertimesforum.com/ http://www.thinnertimesforum.com/emotional-support/40742-omg-omg-im-approved-baby.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 20:29:12 GMT wHOO! hOO! i AM getting the best Christmas present EVER!!!! :D wHOO! hOO! i AM getting the best Christmas present EVER!!!! :D ]]> Emotional Support divinemommy http://www.thinnertimesforum.com/emotional-support/40742-omg-omg-im-approved-baby.html http://www.thinnertimesforum.com/emotional-support/40736-fatty-liver.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 18:22:44 GMT I went to see my Surgeon today and he mentioned to me that my liver enzymes were elevated. He also said there was a possibility, that if it's too large he would have to switch to open, or postpone for another 2 weeks. Historicly he said he hasn't had any issues but wanted to make me aware that it's a possibility. Now I have to admit, (and I did to him), that I have not followed the diet exactly. I stayed away from carbs, but some of the days my fat was above 10g. He did say it shouldn't be a problem but really wanted to make me aware that we might have to postpone. So I did tell him that I don't want the open.

I opted to stick with the Monday surgery and take my chances. I am starting to have second thoughts. Maybe I should call him and postpone for two weeks? I know it's my decision, but if any of you have had any experience with this please chime in. I feel some shame over the not keeping my fat intake down. On the other hand I didn't even notice till like a week ago. Then I started to cut back but not down to 10g's.

I am to be on nothing but shakes today and tomorrow and Sunday I start my clear liquid and the beautiful bowel cleansing process. ]]> Emotional Support dswofford http://www.thinnertimesforum.com/emotional-support/40736-fatty-liver.html http://www.thinnertimesforum.com/emotional-support/40732-normal.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 14:18:34 GMT I had surgery Tueday 11/17. It went great, I came homeWednesday- realy just slept. All day yesterday I tried really hard to get everything in. I drank 4oz of a protein shake, 4 oz skim milk, 16 oz water and that is all I could manage. ( Oh, I Also took 2 multi vitamins and 2 calcium pills) My... I had surgery Tueday 11/17. It went great, I came homeWednesday- realy just slept. All day yesterday I tried really hard to get everything in. I drank 4oz of a protein shake, 4 oz skim milk, 16 oz water and that is all I could manage. ( Oh, I Also took 2 multi vitamins and 2 calcium pills)

My new stomach is growling so bad that it almost hurts. My doctor is very strict about only"eating" liquids the first two weeks. I see a lot of people on here are able to eat, cottage cheese, pureed soups, etc... Oh well it is less than 2 weeks until my follow up appointent- I will keep sipping away. I never thought I would be excited to eat cottage cheese. ]]> Emotional Support djjmak http://www.thinnertimesforum.com/emotional-support/40732-normal.html http://www.thinnertimesforum.com/emotional-support/40722-going-alone.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 04:29:41 GMT I have read through the forum. I haven't seen my situation. I have even searched the internet....nothing.

I have decided not to tell ANY ONE that I am having surgery. I have been going through the process for two years and managed to keep my plan to myself. I took my time, so that I could try a few last ditch efforts to lose the weight on my own, and also to make sure that I was really ready for the lifestyle change, and that I was ready to accept all the risks. I am.

My request was finally submitted to my insurance agency last week. Waiting to see if I get approved, but I think that I will. In the meantime, I find myself in a unique situation. I have not told a soul about my plan. Not friends, not family, not work, NO ONE. Only the doc's office knows (after all this time) what I am up to, and I am just another patient to them.

So, my question is....
Has anyone ever gone through this process completely alone? I am so private that I cannot imagine sharing this with anyone that I know, or even my family, who are all skinny and 3000 miles away, and would never understand. My doc's office requires a person to be on site during surgery, and to attend a last education group. So far, I have attended all the groups by myself.

My plan is to hire some one to attend the last mandatory education group with me, and to hire the same person to pick me up from surgery. I really have no other way to do this.

I have no problem taking all the time that i need from work. I can tell them that I am having surgery, and have alluded to some health problems, so that they won't be surprised.

It will be tricky, getting to surgery, getting home from surgery, finding a care taker for a few days, and then getting back on my feet without anyone knowing that I did this. I think that I can do it, but I would like to know that some one else has succeded before me.

I have read lots of threads where folks said that they did not tell anyone, but then added, except my family, or my close friend, or one or two follks at work.

I swear, in two years, I have not told ANYONE. And I don't plan to tell anyone now that I am in the home stretch. But now I have told all of you.

Am I the only one?

J ]]> Emotional Support jozie http://www.thinnertimesforum.com/emotional-support/40722-going-alone.html http://www.thinnertimesforum.com/emotional-support/40715-how-much-too-much.html Thu, 19 Nov 2009 20:50:06 GMT I adore my surgeon and have great confidence in the medical knowledge of the staff. But outside of my health, the program I picked has very little else I can praise. Without going into all the sorted details things like phone calls and emails are not returned, countless faxes lost, and worst... I adore my surgeon and have great confidence in the medical knowledge of the staff. But outside of my health, the program I picked has very little else I can praise. Without going into all the sorted details things like phone calls and emails are not returned, countless faxes lost, and worst communication I have ever seen - have all been issues. When I go for appointments, I am finding myself waiting for 2-4 hours before the appointment and then at least an hour, maybe more for 30 minutes of face to face time with the medical or nutrition staff. The other day I went for 7 week post up visit and I waited for 3 hours and had to leave without seeing my surgeon (who I haven't seen since the day after my surgery) or the nutritionist because I needed to get back to work.

I am truly disappointed and frustrated in the team, but I am less concerned for me at this point because thankfully, I am 7 weeks post op and recovering very well. However my husband is now choosing a surgeon and procedure for himself and now we are wondering if we are crazy to continue a relationship with a team who is such and administrate mess and really isn't all that concerned with how it affects their patients.

So my question is....is this very common for programs? Is it like this everywhere? ]]> Emotional Support Photo_Girl http://www.thinnertimesforum.com/emotional-support/40715-how-much-too-much.html http://www.thinnertimesforum.com/emotional-support/40661-rough-day.html Wed, 18 Nov 2009 02:13:11 GMT So, today was quite the emotional up and down day. I took the initiative, after putting it off for quite sometime because I didnt think I could mentally or physically handle it. I ended my 16 month relationship with the boyfriend. Some of you know it's been rocky for a little bit and lately i've been so unhappy i think it was partly making me physically ill.

It's not easy, I feel like a failure, I hate the dating world and I don't want to throw myself back out there. Wanna talk about emotional eating? I've had to really buckle down and face my issues head on. My vice tonight, soy ice cream sandwiches from Tofutti. I've got an endoscopy and balloon dilation again tomorrow and in all reality, I need to focus on MYSELF.

I don't want pity, I do however want your hot mid-20s sons/grandsons. Thank you. :)

Oh and here's a few pics from halloween 09. My dig camera broke and kel-mistymee thankfully took my memory card for me and extracted my pics. I love her and her hubs for it :)

ThinnerTimes - Gastric Bypass Forum, Lap Band Forum, and Vertical Sleeve Gastrectomy Forum - jerseygrl684's Album: Halloween 2009 Late ]]> Emotional Support jerseygrl684 http://www.thinnertimesforum.com/emotional-support/40661-rough-day.html http://www.thinnertimesforum.com/emotional-support/40636-help-im-not-sure-how-react.html Tue, 17 Nov 2009 16:50:12 GMT So the other day my Aunt, one that I really respect and value her opinion, called and said that she'd found out about some diet that some of her peers had tried. They had been successful in losing like 40 lbs and keeping it off. She said she wanted me to try it before having the surgery. I stupidly agreed. I haven't started it yet, I am having real anxiety about it b/c I feel like I am going to lose yet again to have feelings of depression when I don't keep it off. I am not sure I want to do this, also I don't think she realizes that I need to lose the weight of a whole person not just 40 lbs! My aunt has never been obese so I'm not sure she understands all the ins and outs of this struggle with weight. I don't want to be disrespectful to her yet I don't know how to make her understand that I am going to have this surgery either way or another!! ]]> Emotional Support divinemommy http://www.thinnertimesforum.com/emotional-support/40636-help-im-not-sure-how-react.html http://www.thinnertimesforum.com/emotional-support/40607-need-emotional-support.html Mon, 16 Nov 2009 17:46:36 GMT Hi all I had RNY last Wednesday and am not doing as well as I thought I would...I am exhausted all the time I get lightheaded walking from one room to another I still have pain in my gut and a knot that has appeared..all I want to do is cry and I know that it is not helping but I really don't know what else to do...I always knew that it was going to be rough but I guess I always saw the end result and never paid attention to how hard it would be to get there.I need help anyone have any tips or advice that will help me make this ride a little easier I would appreciate it.:( ]]> Emotional Support pamela1123 http://www.thinnertimesforum.com/emotional-support/40607-need-emotional-support.html http://www.thinnertimesforum.com/emotional-support/40598-def-not-easy-way-out.html Mon, 16 Nov 2009 12:48:06 GMT I have been reading a lot of different websites with people's opinion on RNY.... I have also seen places where non obese people call it the easy way out... Well... I have now learned... there is NOTHING easy about it.
I am known as determined and I can tell you... my will has been tested... I thought it would be moderately difficult... 6 days out of surgery and I can tell you this is probably the most difficult thing I have ever done! Right now... every day is a challenge.
I have had pain... which ironically is low today...
I have not once gotten enough liquids- I thought I did.
However, am convinced today I will get 64 ounces.
I have gagged Carafate- which I have to take 4 times a day for 30 days. Then again, the old me would have never been able to take it period!
I have yet to start protein shakes- because my body was not ready. I will try this afternoon. I need to get through this nausea.
I have lived on cottage cheese and applesauce and lemonade- Crystal Lite.
I have walked around my flat but the reality is... All I want to do is sleep.
I am freezing one minute and hot the next... No- I do not have a fever.
Every time I see a pizza commercial- I want to break the TV and eat it... Last night I had a dream about donuts- and thankfully woke up thinking how silly that was... even a donut hole will kill me.
I desperately want a bubble bath and I know I cannot have one for a few more weeks...
However... at the end of the day... I know the first week or three are the worst. This is why I am taking Lexapro.
I am also thankful to be off of blood pressure medication.

I guess my point of this is... wow am I surprised at the challenge.
I will gladly be there to support anyone who is in need because I can tell you the e-mails from my friends who have had this... have come at the perfect time. Success does depend on ones' self but is also impacted by others that have been through this!

Here is to 64 ounces of fluid today and hopefully at least 1-2 protein drinks! ]]> Emotional Support no_more_big_order http://www.thinnertimesforum.com/emotional-support/40598-def-not-easy-way-out.html http://www.thinnertimesforum.com/emotional-support/40589-i-have-food-control-issue-help.html Mon, 16 Nov 2009 01:50:54 GMT Hey guys, its so nice to have ya'll to talk to.

Ok, so I'm been trying to eat smaller portions and possibly healthier food. But when I look over and see my boyfriends portions and what he eats I'm getting jealous. I have even went to the point of fussing with him telling him to stop eating so much, so I can have some the next day. Its so hard not to get mad with him, even when I try not to. Its not that I miss eating more or eating the wrong types of food, its just that I don't want anyone else around me to do it either.

And since we live together its hard not watch him eat, being envious. He is the most supportive man ever, but he kepts telling me that I can 't be mad with him, which is true.

Do you have any suggestions on how I can ease the pain, or not be so jealous? Or will this issue go away at some point? I don't want to feel this way forever.... ]]> Emotional Support jkadiva http://www.thinnertimesforum.com/emotional-support/40589-i-have-food-control-issue-help.html http://www.thinnertimesforum.com/emotional-support/40588-36-hours-until-surgery.html Mon, 16 Nov 2009 01:43:00 GMT I check in at 6am the day after tomorow. I have my entire day planned out tomorow. Working in the am. chugging my mag citrate on the way home from work. pretty much plan on not feeling good the rest of the day. Before I know it, it will al be over with and I can start my new life. I check in at 6am the day after tomorow. I have my entire day planned out tomorow. Working in the am. chugging my mag citrate on the way home from work. pretty much plan on not feeling good the rest of the day.

Before I know it, it will al be over with and I can start my new life. ]]> Emotional Support djjmak http://www.thinnertimesforum.com/emotional-support/40588-36-hours-until-surgery.html http://www.thinnertimesforum.com/emotional-support/40567-were-your-parents-supportive-wls.html Sun, 15 Nov 2009 05:02:46 GMT I was very suprised when I told my mom and dad- they both didn't have a single negative thing to say... I was a little dissapointed when I asked my mom if she could come stay for a week ( I would even pay for her gas) she told me no.

That was a big bummer- not sure why she would't do it- We have 4 kids age 10-15 and I would like things to run smooth while I am in the hospital- we have a daughter who has some health problems and I think my husband can use some help while I am recovering ( I know I will not get the benefit of a long recovery- but I would at least like to have a day or two after I get home from the hospital)

Oh well- my husband and I managed to have all 4 kids without either set of parents coming to help- we will get through this..... I need to remember this is all self inflicted- I am choosing to have the surgery ]]> Emotional Support djjmak http://www.thinnertimesforum.com/emotional-support/40567-were-your-parents-supportive-wls.html http://www.thinnertimesforum.com/emotional-support/40563-protein-my-urine.html Sun, 15 Nov 2009 03:18:57 GMT I went to the doctor on Tuesday because I have not been feeling well since my surgery. I know it has only been 6, almost 7 weeks but, I really feel so drained. Long story short, I am spilling a very high amount of protein in my urine. I was sent for labs and when they came back, my doctor called... I went to the doctor on Tuesday because I have not been feeling well since my surgery. I know it has only been 6, almost 7 weeks but, I really feel so drained. Long story short, I am spilling a very high amount of protein in my urine. I was sent for labs and when they came back, my doctor called and told me that I will be having an appointment with the kidney specialist this coming up week and, he would be scheduling me for a kidney biopsy. I had a lot of protein in my urine about 2 years ago. The doctor I saw at that time told me, "lose weight and avoid high protein diets". My question is, has anyone else had this problem? Did it clear up with surgery? I am so unbelievably scared at this point. I kind of want to hear that this can happen without it being serious. Of course, I will do whatever I have to do but, I am freaking out a little bit here. ]]> Emotional Support momgreen http://www.thinnertimesforum.com/emotional-support/40563-protein-my-urine.html http://www.thinnertimesforum.com/emotional-support/40553-yesterday-over.html Sat, 14 Nov 2009 14:33:49 GMT First of all, I am a student and I was in the process of getting prepared for my surgery on the 17th. So I was working hard to get all my assignments out of the way so I didn’t fall behind and my phone rang. It was the girl at my surgeon’s office. To my surprise she said we need to schedule a day... First of all, I am a student and I was in the process of getting prepared for my surgery on the 17th. So I was working hard to get all my assignments out of the way so I didn’t fall behind and my phone rang. It was the girl at my surgeon’s office. To my surprise she said we need to schedule a day for surgery. Confused was the first emotion as I said you already set the date for the 17th at 11:30am. She got quiet and then said, well let me get this figured out and I will give you a call back. After I finished one assignment I decided to give them a call back. Come to find out they had all these requirements that I should have done this past week that didn’t get done. On top of that the girl who gave me the date didn’t do any of the next steps that were required. I was LIVID! I rearranged my son’s birthday party, been on this stupid diet that I have to continue for another week, and rushed around and paid extra to my PCP to have my medical records sent to the surgeon quicker just to name a few. When they first told me, I had to get off the phone before I started to yell at the girl on the phone. I called back when I was calmer.

Then, at my Son’s early birthday party, everyone had pizza and cake. I ate my chicken and had that pumpkin protein shake so I was half way happy. I said out loud, (my mistake), that I wish I could have a piece of pizza and boy that cake sure did look good. My Mother says that after the surgery I am not going to be able to eat anything like that so I better get used to it. I got very defensive and said I can have a bite if I want to the only difference is that I will have to stop when I am full. I just wouldn’t be able to sit and eat the whole pizza. I guess I was hoping for a different kind of support. More like I know it sucks but it will be over soon. Not that I plan to engage in eating pizza and cake on a regular basis but maybe every now and again?? Please tell me if I am wrong. I don’t know for sure because I haven’t had the surgery yet.
Normally these two situations would have caused me to sit and eat until I was numb. I am proud to say I didn’t do it. I didn’t smoke either.

Thanks for letting me vent! ]]> Emotional Support dswofford http://www.thinnertimesforum.com/emotional-support/40553-yesterday-over.html http://www.thinnertimesforum.com/emotional-support/40549-needing-help.html Sat, 14 Nov 2009 07:32:30 GMT Well hopefully I get this right. Where do i start. My Name is Nancy and i am in need of help. I am such a mess right now and i dont know what to do. My father died in June and since then i have just feel there is no light at the end of the tunnel. I dont work and needless to say I dont... Well hopefully I get this right.

Where do i start.
My Name is Nancy and i am in need of help.
I am such a mess right now and i dont know what to do.
My father died in June and since then i have just feel there is no light at the end of the tunnel.

I dont work and needless to say I dont do much of anything but wake up everyday and wish i wasnt here.
I have been drinking too much and i know i need to stop and i havent had a drink in 5 days. and well i know its not that much but it's a start.
I am so depressed. The other day we went for a walk and i Had to force myself to do that. while i was in the middle of it I just wanted to go back to the house.
Everyday i tell myself that i need to get off my behind and do something different but it doesnt happen.
I started to go to counsling just one meeting so far.
I just feel so empty inside. I havent gained or lost any more since June. I need to lose another 20 so I can see about having a referral for plastic surgery but i havent done a thing.
I have so may bruises on my legs from falling down that its insane.
Where and how do I get strentgh inside me to get off my behind and change my life.
I want to go to school but i am so scared of not doing good that i do nothing.
Well i gotta go please tell me how to get past this feeling that i am not good enough and do something other then what i am doing now. which is nothing and not living at all.:confused: ]]> Emotional Support nancymorris05 http://www.thinnertimesforum.com/emotional-support/40549-needing-help.html