Guess who's got a boyfriend...(kinda long) - Page 2 - ThinnerTimes

Midntsgirl · 11-10-2005, 03:34 PM

Well, it was kind of in the cards for us. We knew years ago that we were "meant to be". HOWEVER...there may be trouble in Paradise. Here's my problem...he's an over the road truck driver so he's gone an awful lot. I've gotten used to the attention I've been getting and had NEVER gotten before. I'm afraid that if he's not around to pay attention to me that I may stray. As a matter of fact, before we made the "commitment" to eachother, I had already made plans to have dinner with someone else, and went. I feel badly to a point...because if he isn't even requesting a load to come out here to be with me, it shows me that I'm already not that important to him. He promised me that he was going to get off the road and take a job out here, but now he's telling me that trucking is in his blood and he's been driving for 15 years...etc etc etc. He's already breaking his promises. WHAT DO I DO???

bridgetgirl · 11-10-2005, 03:38 PM

Read "He's just not that into you" and "You arent them into him either".

feliciaespinoza · 11-10-2005, 03:48 PM

Lets go get us some Lil' Bill at Renegades...lol....Kidding of course we have to stick true to the thread here...I am sorry to hear that I have a ex-boyfriend who used to drive trucks long distance and he just started driving again and its hard to keep in contact all the time cause of the mountain and cell phones and all I think that if he truly wants to be with you he will get off the road cause him driving will be like a long distance relationship and well those dont always work that well so hang in there and things will hopefully get better or you will find out soon enough I am sure. Do what your heart tells you honey and we are all here for ya.

Midntsgirl · 11-10-2005, 03:51 PM

Well, already read "He's just not that into you.", but haven't heard about the other one. Now, I DID tell him I was still going out to dinner with the other guy, and he was ok with it...as long as it was only dinner. I told him he needed to make his decision and that I would support him to the best of my ability, but I was also honest with him and told him my fears. We'll just have to wait and see what happens.

Jeanie · 11-10-2005, 04:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Midntsgirl

Well, already read "He's just not that into you.", but haven't heard about the other one. Now, I DID tell him I was still going out to dinner with the other guy, and he was ok with it...as long as it was only dinner. I told him he needed to make his decision and that I would support him to the best of my ability, but I was also honest with him and told him my fears. We'll just have to wait and see what happens.

Here is the problem I have if the guy I was dating told me that he was going to dinner with another woman because he already made the plans before we had a "commitment" I will tell him to stay with her. I'm sorry but there is no way in hell that I would say OK even if it was "just" dinner. If it was a friend it would be one thing but a date..........I don't think so.

If he's not willing to give up trucking long distance for you and the girls then he's not worth your love. It's not like you are asking him to give it up all together. You are just asking him to stay local. Nothing wrong with that.
I hope that he comes to his senses and realizes what he might lose (again) if he doesn't want to bend a little!

Americanwoman397 · 11-11-2005, 06:44 AM

You know Brenda my thoughts are if he is breaking his promise now and not going to be here when you need him then you can't wait around. When my ex made the decision that he wanted me back and wasn't going to let me slip through his fingers again he said he was ready to move back and 2 or 3 weeks later he drove from Tx to San Diego with everything he had to be with me. He left his parents and his best friend to give us our 2nd try. He has to be able to give you want you need and want. You should be the most important thing to him or at least that is what I think.

I know now and I tell my hubby I still need to know that you want me and that you feel lucky to have and that I'm the most important thing to you. With us we are in the 100% comfortable stage so all the walls come down and I still get that. It is important to know that you both know how lucky you are to have each other and you never forget to show it.

Just my 2 cents

Midntsgirl · 11-28-2005, 09:26 PM

Well, hello again all. Here it is Monday, November 28, 2005 and I should be the happiest woman in the world...but I'm not! George and I broke up on Thanksgiving morning...FOR GOOD! There was SO MUCH DRAMA going on in my life and the drama I was getting from him was just adding more and more stress to my life...and I might have said some REALLY stupid things. Let me start from the beginning...On Wednesday night (the 16th), George and I had a little arguement on the phone. He was going to spend the weekend in Phoenix and I kept teasing him about wether or not he was going to go visit his ex while he was in town. He got angry with me for asking the same question over and over again...and hung up on me. I didn't hear from him again until the following Monday. Well, on Saturday, Nov 19, I was on my way to the movies with a friend when my car broke down. There I was stranded in downtown on 4th and F with a broke a$$ car, and no money to fix it. (It gets better) My friend and I pushed it down 4th Ave and found a spot in front of Hooters, where we parked until my brother came and thought he fixed it. So, (after missing the movie) I was driving my friend back home, and when we got off the freeway I noticed the car was smoking again. We parked in a McDonald's parking lot and went in to notify the manager that we broke down and would not be returning until late Sunday afternoon to get it. "No problem" said the manager. BUT, Sunday when I went to get my car, it was gone. It had been towed. Impounded. Couldn't get it out till Monday. Now my car is broke AND impounded...and I had no money to get it out or fix it. I was up the creek without a paddle to say the least. Well, George called me Monday and we were at it again. This time because I was angry with him for not calling me for 4 days and he was angry with me because I asked him if he had seen HER while he wasn't speaking to me. Well, my brother (the knight in shining armor) bailed my butt out of impound, my best friend bought the parts needed to fix the car, and my brother and I played mechanic in the middle of the ghetto for 5 hours. Got the car running, but now George's truck broke down in Phoenix. (How convienient, I thought) Over the next two days he and I spoke a few times. They didn't know what was wrong with the truck, they hadn't looked at the truck, he wasn't going to be here on Wednesday like we had been planning...STRESS, DRAMA!! Then, he was going to rent a car and drive out here. Then he wasn't. Then they fixed the truck, but it broke again. So, there I was...on this emotional rollar coaster for almost a week...and Wednesday evening I kinda said, "Maybe this long distance relationship thing isn't for me. I don't do this very well. I can't handle this. I have enough stress in my life"...you know things I probably shouldn't have said. Well, Thursday morning he called me. Said he shouldn't have gotten involved with someone (me) so soon after breaking up with someone else, I was right about the long distance relationships not working, and his Aunt was on her way to pick him up for Thanksgiving and his ex was going to be there. Oh and he wanted his freedom back. So...here I am. Single again. Lonely. Heartbroken. Depressed. And I keep thinking those desperate, overweight woman's thoughts..."maybe if I call him and tell him I'm sorry and I was wrong, we can go back to where we were before"...but I know that's NOT going to happen. I guess it's back to the drawing board. Thanks for listening. Sorry this was soooooo long! And I really thought it was going to work this time. I know...I know...it was a BAD idea!!

Americanwoman397 · 11-29-2005, 08:01 AM

I'm sorry that I couldn't really talk yesterday when you were online. I got so caught up in work we had a crazy day around here.

Brenda you know if he is not able to understand the emotions you are and were going through with all of this then maybe he is not the guy you thought he was. Are you able to go to therapy? The reason I ask is because for me it has always helped to have someone to talk to that you feel comfortable with. I hope by asking that you don't think I'm stepping over the line. If you do I'm very very sorry but if you would like help finding someone I'll ask Nancy the woman I see to recommend someone in your area.

Take it one day at a time you know I'm a true believer in you are never given more than you can handle. I'm sure right now you don't feel that way. You are worth so much more than he wanted to give you. If you want to talk send me a pm or a yahoo message and I'll give you my number. I'm off today at 4:30 so you can call any time after that. Keep your head up girl.

Jeanie · 11-29-2005, 08:32 AM

Brenda I'm sorry that it didn't work out the way you wanted. It seems that life is so unfair sometimes. I know what it feels like to be heart broken, as my boyfriend broke up with me a few weeks ago. It hurts, and you just wonder why! At least I know that it was nothing that I did wrong. It's all his issues. You know you can call me anytime. We need to get together again sometime soon!