bridgetgirl

I decided today to cut things off with Stan. Im trying to be strong about it, but its starting to "hurt" a little. Everything bewteen he and I is GREAT! SUPER! WONDERFUL even.... but I found out he's leaving for 3 years, not 2 and I really do not want to have a long distance relationship. In my heart I know it wont work its too great of a distance as well as time. I want more for myself. I dont see him asking me to marry him or anything like that, so I feel its best to move on.

All I want to do is grow old with someone, white picket fence, yada yada yada... but it always falls through. <sigh>

I dont have a best friend or anyone to talk to about these things without feeling like a burden, so I just wanted to put it out there, to kind of get it off my chest because my heart is just aching.

Do you guys have any thoughts on this? Am I being too hasty? Im sad. Thanks pals!

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J.Bridget Fisher aka koi-pea
2/9/04 lap 5'11"
298/172

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"People will argue with you that getting what you want in life isn’t something you can learn, if you’re destined to be one of the worlds winners as opposed to one of its perpetual whiners, its because you have been born with the right talents and temperament and have a big dose of self-esteem, ambition, and good judgment." Kate White

pambragg

Chicken,
I'm sorry that this is happening. You have seemed so happy with him. Personally, I think that doing it now will be less painful than putting it off til he leaves. Just my opinion. I will keep you in my thoughts. Remember, what doesn't kill us makes us stronger. Big hugs to you.

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Pam
Open 7/7/04 Dr Callery
333/130/150.........20 lbs below goal now!!
Start/current/goal
TT done 7/19/06
BMI pre-op 57.2
BMI now 21.6....OMG...I'm freaking "normal"

"You are the only one who can make the difference. Whatever your dream is, go for it."

Realtor Linda

Bridget....where are you? I want to call you but cannot find your work #

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Linda
Surgery January 6, 2006

130 lbs gone


I am not afraid of storms, for I am learning how to sail my ship.

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~~Robin~~

~~Dr. C was impressed by me!~~
315/150/165 ..... -112 inches, From a size 32 to a size 10. Below Goal :P 165 pounds no longer linger on my ass!
October, 24 2005

Sometimes I feel like all I am doing is rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic
And in the end it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. -Abraham Lincoln

Jeanie

WOW! I'm so sorry, but I don't blame you for doing it now. I tried a long distance thing once and it didn't work. No fault of my own, but out of sight out of (his) mind. Stan is a cool guy, and if it was meant to be then it will be. Just know that you are no burden. You can call me when ever you want, anytime day or night. I'm here for you.

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Lap Dr. Callery
July 7, 2004
Savanna Annmarie was born on 10/14/2008

Gladitsme

Bridget,

Hey darling, no burden at all. I understand your reasons, and I'm here for ya. Three years is a very long time, and you're not just dealing with yourself, you've got to think about your boys too. I'm sorry you're hurting, and wish I could hug you and make it all better.

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Nancy
7/19/05 Lap RNY Dr.Callery


Just call me SisterBear!

bridgetgirl

Pam, Linda, Robin, Meatball and Nancy, thank you so much stapler sisters for your words. Its hard, I havent cried..... yet!

I want more is all........... alright put the word out, Im back on the market! (Holly moly-i HATE dating! errrrrrrrrrrr)

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J.Bridget Fisher aka koi-pea
2/9/04 lap 5'11"
298/172

Find me on face book using this email; bridgetgirl@msn.com

"People will argue with you that getting what you want in life isn’t something you can learn, if you’re destined to be one of the worlds winners as opposed to one of its perpetual whiners, its because you have been born with the right talents and temperament and have a big dose of self-esteem, ambition, and good judgment." Kate White

CiCi

You and me both, bridge! I hate it! But, your perfect man is still out there somewhere! Prolly right around the corner... all you have to do is smile!

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T r a c i
RNY LAP March 30, 2005
244 pre-op / 121 current and holding!

Jeanie

Looks like we will be single together AGAIN, or STILL for me.

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Lap Dr. Callery
July 7, 2004
Savanna Annmarie was born on 10/14/2008

lealphachienne

I grew up a military brat. It was hard to see my mom go through with my dad leaving for a year or two at a time overseas. It put a lot of strain on their marriage. Everytime he came home, it was like starting their relationship all over again. They eventually divorced. Even when the distance is shorter, it's still distance. A lot can change in those 3 years. Heck, look how much many of us have changed in just one year!

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Marie
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