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lealphachienne · 09-21-2005, 10:25 PM

If you're going out, you better bring me along too. I've been all cooped up with the move and finishing up some schoolwork. I'm ready to shake it. It has been months!

Gladitsme · 09-22-2005, 09:41 AM

Bridget,

Listen to Donna! Wow what words of wisdom. You deserve a man who will respect the sanctity of marriage, and I'm glad you have chosen to respect yourself this way.

Realtor Linda · 09-22-2005, 09:51 AM

I agree with Donna too, honey. She took the time and said some things that really make sence. It hurts....it should hurt because you have a big heart and you love hard. Nothing wrong with that my dear.

This too will pass.
Love ya!

bridgetgirl · 09-22-2005, 10:12 AM

Donna Donna Donna: Thank you very much for your wisdom. I agree with what you said 100%. I do care for him, its not my intent to NEVER see him again-sure I will still go out on dates with him, be his friend until he leaves. But it wont be "boy friend girlfriend" type of thing anymore, just casual friendship. Im okay with it, really I am because I know I deserve more, and I refuse to settle for less.

Last night he came over, we talked it over with Isaiah (who adores Stan) that he was going to have to leave, because of his job, etc etc-he took it pretty well, for now. Also last night and this mrorning Stan keep bringing up stuff about us being together and not being together, that we can be together forever-buy a house together, live together without being married. I told him that just doesnt work for me.

Regarding the marriage thing, people change their mind all the time, whose to say he wont? But Im not holding my breath. If Im available in 3 years cool, if Im not good for me. He beleives that I will find the one to marry, before his return on 3 years. He says he will visit, again Im not holding my breath.

Peckale: I agree with you as well, I have to force him to wear a seatbelt. I really feel as though he doesnt believe in much, he is aware of the negative impact that could happen on anything he does.. i.e. wont wear a seatbelt because he knew someone who got trapped in theirs and was seriosly injured.. well who doesnt know someone like that? But then again, I know many more who died as a result of NOT wearing one. Then he says 50% of marriages ended in divorce.. okay? What about the 50% that dont? Geez!

So Im doing good n stuff all in all, I really appreciate all of your encouragement.. Nancy and Rain

Thanks bunches!

Now I have to work on me, its weird how easily I find it to befriend women and have friends for life-but I am really shy about approaching a man.. ugh! How I hate this, I would much rather be set up. Head up, chest out, smile big and say HELLO! And were off!

katlover66 · 09-22-2005, 10:17 AM

Bridget,
Listen to what you said. Stan seems to look at the negative side of everything. Negativity helped get us MO. You need positive in your life and your boys lives.

Pixie · 09-22-2005, 04:24 PM

I have no advice, or words of wisdom, just a *hug* to offer.

bridgetgirl · 09-22-2005, 04:33 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pixie

I have no advice, or words of wisdom, just a *hug* to offer.

Too flippin cute! Thanks chicken!

Alleusion · 09-22-2005, 04:43 PM

Oh honey, I know just what you mean. Except, growing up as a military brat had me so ingrained in the military life-style that I couldn't see myself out of it. So, since they won't let you go to boot camp 8 months pregnant, I married into the navy. 10 years later, what do I have to show for it? Two kids and a husband in Iraq. As he is so fond of telling me, a wife wasn't issued with his sea bag and this is something I knew would happen when we got married. It doesn't make it any easier.

I think you've made the right decision. 6 months is a long time (standard navy deployment). 3 years is a lifetime to a child, and when in a relationship, it's forever. Also, when they did the statistics saying that 50% of all marriages end in divorce, they didn't count the marriages that had lasted for many many years. The only ones that were counted were the ones that had started and ended during the study period. So the little old couple that had been married for 70 years didn't get counted into the equation.

How old is your baby? And you can call me any time for some single-ish mom girl talk

feliciaespinoza · 09-22-2005, 05:32 PM

Awww Bridgy....I am so sorry hey we (Jeanie and I) know a REALLY HOT guy that works at McGregors DONT WE JEANIE!!! he was a gentleman and all and he had the most beautiful eyes you should really come with us on Saturday we can go there and Hook it up Guarantee you wont be disappointed....hehehe. An you are totally not a burden honey we are all here for one another in good times and bad so we will just fill in your time with happy things and help you get through your heartache but I also think you are totally doing the right thing.

bridgetgirl · 09-22-2005, 05:45 PM

I was married to a guy in the Navy, and the fact that he went on deployment twice didnt bother me in the least. I can handle that.

I guess what it boils down to is I miss family, and I feel a bit let down cuz I hoped I could have one with him. Hes a great guy. What eill more than likely wind up happening is, I will go back to PA to be with my family. My mom, dad, step mom, sis and niece are there. I guess Im tired of being alone.

Flea: I dont mind going to MacGregors at all, that place is cool n stuff. But as far as a hook up, Im so not looking forward to dating. I think Im just gonna chill for now, watch the sceneary.... lol. Thanks for the offer though, sweetie pie! (Nice eyes huh

) Shoot maybe I dont know what the heck I want... lol. Im a martian.

I will talk to you savy peeps later n stuff! Much love~