Vetty

Lately I have been angry because I interact with men and they dont give me the attention I want or feel I need. I get angry and think well if I was skinny then these men would have no issue giving the attention I want. Yes, anyone can just go out and have a one night stand but dont want that right now. Sometimes I think that its the intimacy I miss not just the sex. I miss the Good morning how's your day $hit. Maybe I am just too needy,. I just hate that people treat me so different beause I am fat. I have a lot going for myself yet because I am fat I am some how not worthy of them or their time.
I know if they dont feel I am worth it then its better they are not in my life I just hate that NO ONE is out there. Sorry all I am in a funk

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VETTY


I am sick of being the president of the Pretty face club!!

10/2/2009 Called to ask insurance what’s the "new" process
10/8/2009 Case Manager was assigned
10/13/2009 Medical director agreed to accept my medical evaluation from the first time I tried for bariatric surgery
10/14/2009 Case Manager and orthopedic doc. Proved I had a co-morbid condition
10/23/2009 Quit Smoking
11/14/2009 WLS Seminar

Josephine

You look beautiful. Date black men. They appreciate the curves. And be confident and sexy. People respond to that.

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Vetty

Thank you! I swear girl I am so needy I got all hurt that no one had responded ha ha ha wow I am a real piece of work ha ha ha! I lack confidence. I wish it was something you could buy at the store he he he! I pray that by eting the surery I will look at myself in a better light!

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VETTY


I am sick of being the president of the Pretty face club!!

10/2/2009 Called to ask insurance what’s the "new" process
10/8/2009 Case Manager was assigned
10/13/2009 Medical director agreed to accept my medical evaluation from the first time I tried for bariatric surgery
10/14/2009 Case Manager and orthopedic doc. Proved I had a co-morbid condition
10/23/2009 Quit Smoking
11/14/2009 WLS Seminar

Laureate

Hey Vetty,

Sorry about your funk. Men are frustrating beings, but there are a few good ones out there.

One thing's for sure -- you deserve some attention. Don't put up with those who can't muster some civility -- and even a little adoration.

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Terri
Over 50 BMI Member No. 9

Cigna approval for LAP RNY surgery: 9/4/09
Pre-op consult: 10/15/09
Pre-op tests: 10/21/09
Surgery date: 10/26/09!!

Highest weight: 319
Surgery weight: 287
Current weight: 269
Goal weight: To be determined, but probably 175ish
Other goals: To get back on the tennis court and back in my kayak again!

Highlandlass

Hi Vetty, One thing I'd like to say is that you might have to work on your self esteem a bit. Men are strange, I totally agree, but we are our own worst critics. If you don't really like yourself and your body, you will give off that vibe and people will pick up on it. After losing the weight you will still be the same person you are now, just in different packaging. I did the same thing - blamed my weight when people weren't nice to me, or when my husband was grumpy, or when I was sick and people didn't believe me, or.....well in lots of different scenarios. Before even thinking I was eligible for the surgery I had to really look inside myself and believe in myself and know that I am worthy of love, friendship, health and so much more. I have a lot to give and will do it even better once I am healthier, but not if I beat myself up. Contemplate on your positive assets. I really understand that you want intimacy and caring, but first care about yourself and love yourself.

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*** Rhonda ***

Highest weight - 292
Height - 5' 8"
Weight on date of surgery (15.6.09)- 270.5
Today - 224.5
First Goal - to be in Onederland

Vetty

Thank you I appreciate it! I think I have allowed my weight to get the best of me. Its like I seek validation from a man! IDK What a mess huh?!

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VETTY


I am sick of being the president of the Pretty face club!!

10/2/2009 Called to ask insurance what’s the "new" process
10/8/2009 Case Manager was assigned
10/13/2009 Medical director agreed to accept my medical evaluation from the first time I tried for bariatric surgery
10/14/2009 Case Manager and orthopedic doc. Proved I had a co-morbid condition
10/23/2009 Quit Smoking
11/14/2009 WLS Seminar

Highlandlass

No, you are not a mess, just a normal person wanting what we all want - a close personal relationship based on love and mutual respect. After 39 years of marriage I sometimes still look for that (hahaha) but have learned that I am made up from many different labels (wife, mom, grandmother, sister, friend......you get it) and I have to do the best I can at each of these roles and to really love the way I am and if I don't like something about myself I have to change it - no one else can. Its all in maturing and getting in touch with yourself....its not easy and I don't think its every finished until we are finished ... a lifelong learning process. Just start slowly, and please don't ever think that the weight loss is going to be a magic potion that will change your whole life - its a tool and is very helpful, but you have work to do, as we all do.

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*** Rhonda ***

Highest weight - 292
Height - 5' 8"
Weight on date of surgery (15.6.09)- 270.5
Today - 224.5
First Goal - to be in Onederland

BrowningBabe

Sometimes being thin and curvy comes with its own curse too. When my weight was down, I had my share of men who just wanted in my pants but did everything to make you think they wanted a serious relationship with you. And they would play that game as long as it took to get what they wanted then all of a sudden they weren't ready for a relationship. Boy, I've had my share of those! When I met my now husband, I was on the down swing of my usual yo yo'ing weight loss. I had some extra on me and lost another 30 pounds while dating him. We married and I've added on 80 pounds. I know he's a good man though because he has treated me the same, no matter what my weight was...whether my weight was up or down. Finding men like that are just getting harder and harder to find unfortunately. ~ Chris

Vetty

THANK YOU ALL! I really dont think tht the WL will change my mental life per se it is me who has too. I think by losing weight i will have a little bit more confidence then I have now. I toally realize it is not a quick fix or answer to all my problems I just hope it has a positive effect on my life. I so need to work on me mentally first! I guss a man soould really be the last o my worries he he he

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VETTY


I am sick of being the president of the Pretty face club!!

10/2/2009 Called to ask insurance what’s the "new" process
10/8/2009 Case Manager was assigned
10/13/2009 Medical director agreed to accept my medical evaluation from the first time I tried for bariatric surgery
10/14/2009 Case Manager and orthopedic doc. Proved I had a co-morbid condition
10/23/2009 Quit Smoking
11/14/2009 WLS Seminar

jerseygrl684

Ok ready, I thought this was about weight with men. I thought "ok, i'm fat so people don't want me". No, it was my self-confidence and attitude. I lost weight, became more confident aka became more desireable.

Ultimately guys don't pay attention to anything as long as you don't have a penis, I think they are pretty much attracted to any women.. It is however the attitude and the confidence you project that they notice more.

Ever wonder how some really really ugly girls (no offense) have these boyfriends all the time? I used to be like WTF?? But they have the confidence that we sometimes lack.

Fyi, men arent any easier to deal with fat or skinny. Trust me.

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Age: 25/5ft 2 .Lap RNY- 11.26.07
248/227-highest & day of surgery
109(eek)-current


Let's cure her with sunshine and puppies!- HOUSE

hit my doctor goal 6/30/08/100lbs lost *5.23.08/ONEDERLAND 1.5.08