j.marie

I agree.

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marie


Surgery July.29.09
Start: 298
D.O.S: 262
Current: 206
TOTAL LOST: 92

SanDiegoWM

Don't give up. I got married to a man while fat. I am still married to that man now thin. It hard to find a relationship kind of man when the world is pushing one night stands and sex just for sex sake. Use this time to try to understand why you want the attention so much that might uncover something to work on so you can have a greatest relationship of your life.
I would suggest reading "act like a lady think like a man" by Steve Harvey It will make you laugh and maybe give you a different perspective.
Also loved "when food is love" I discovered stuff about myself but also shed many tears.
Hope this helps a little. Tomorrow is another day.

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San Diego Woman
WLS on 8/28/07
272/144/135-150
Highest/Current/Goal

"There is nothing that wastes the body like worry, and one who has ANY FAITH in GOD should be ASHAMED to worry about anything whatsoever." Mahatma Gandhi

staraex

LOL so so true! my bf is black and he has noooooo discrimination!!!


again, very true. Work on yourself and everything will fall into place for you. when I was pushing 250lbs, I had the mindset of "I can get any guy I want because I have the right attitude" and perhaps it wasn't entiiiirely true, lol, but I had my pick of the bunch and a lot of times sat back and said to myself: "damn, how'd I score THAT one?!". So, put yourself out there with your head held high and throw in some sex appeal!!!

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~Tara~


Surgery Date: 11/5/08

244/130/135
Highest/Current/Goal

One-der-land: 12/14/08

Century Club: 5/28/09

Goal Achieved: 7/18/09

Current Weightloss: 114 lbs.

Pho

Yea I gotta tell you... Do not seek validation from men. I get so angry at my friend because she doesn't think she is worth being loved. It's all bad news when you try so hard to get attn from guys and lower the views about yourself just to try to feel wanted.


Being a guy of roughly the same age I can say I had/have the same problem as you. I'm still working thru it. So I also understand where you are coming from. Try to work out your mental image of yourself and things will hopefully fall into place. That's what I'm working on and hopefully it works too!

good luck on getting outta your funk!

PS - guys like almost anything and everything. I can honestly say I'm attracted to almost everyone haha I think every women has something great about them.

jkadiva

I look at it like this.. those same men that didn't pay attention to you will pay attention to you when your skinny. Y would we want a man that only likes us for our appearance. You are the same person, whether plus size or skinny. You have to love yourself and show confidence in yourself and thats when you will find the right man to give you attention. I'm lucky to have found mine while still being plus size. He loves me for me and when I told him about the surgery, he said he will support me in my decision. Please remember why you are having the surgery, not for others but for yourself.

Love yourself and others will follow.

Vetty

I hope I can ge there! Everything makes such sense and I totally see what I need to do I jus thop I am strong enoug too!

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VETTY


I am sick of being the president of the Pretty face club!!

10/2/2009 Called to ask insurance what’s the "new" process
10/8/2009 Case Manager was assigned
10/13/2009 Medical director agreed to accept my medical evaluation from the first time I tried for bariatric surgery
10/14/2009 Case Manager and orthopedic doc. Proved I had a co-morbid condition
10/23/2009 Quit Smoking
11/14/2009 WLS Seminar

longing4thin

If you are looking for a soul mate I met my hubby on eharmony.com. Only later to learn that we WORKED together! I thought he was way to geeky to date in real life but apparently he only needed 1 date to win me over!

Good luck!

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Krista
Weight
Highest/date of Surgery/Current/Goal
279/271/257/170

Surgery 11/2/09
Dr. Bock in Bellevue WA

Vetty

No way My uncle Steve and His new wife met on eharmony how crazy hmm that is a thought. I think that is so great! How long have you been married

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VETTY


I am sick of being the president of the Pretty face club!!

10/2/2009 Called to ask insurance what’s the "new" process
10/8/2009 Case Manager was assigned
10/13/2009 Medical director agreed to accept my medical evaluation from the first time I tried for bariatric surgery
10/14/2009 Case Manager and orthopedic doc. Proved I had a co-morbid condition
10/23/2009 Quit Smoking
11/14/2009 WLS Seminar