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Delane · 11-03-2009, 12:54 AM

Do you think you still see yourself though FAT EYE'S? I know I do, and I seriously think it must be part of the obesity desease. My weight is down so much, and I have really done great. I went from a whopping 270 down to 169. Im so close to my 140 goal, ( my doc's goal is 150 ) but I still have those FAT EYE's. Now I will admit that it doesn't happen all the time, because there are moments I have major WOW moments. When I look at myself as a profile it amazes me how slinder I am, I use to be so think. My neck is another place that I just can't get over. I have a neck, and my face is so little. However there are day's that I get dressed for work, or church or just plain everyday things, and I look in the mirror, and all I can see is this FAT chick staring back at me.

The mirror is still my enemy. Do you think we really ever get over it. I hope so. I so want to bask in the joy of all this gift has givin me. Also I want to add that there are people around me that still have fat eye's towards me. Now when I say that, I mean they see and tell me Oh My God you are so skinny, But the thing is they say things like DON'T LOOSE NO MORE WEIGHT. your gonna blow away. They don't realzie that Im still not at a good BMI, or a healty weight. Its like they can't adapt to me being anything but the FAT one.

And my skinny friends are feaking out, because now they are gonna be the heavier ones, and I don't think they now how to handle it. The truth is I have noticed them sub consciously trying to sabatoge me. I know they don't mean to, but its the little things they do or say.

FAT EYE'S do you have them still, and if you do what do you think is the best way to overcome them.

I have overcome so much, but this one really gets me. I can't seem to wrap my arms or eye's around the new skinny me. Thanks

AirForceW1fe · 11-03-2009, 01:22 AM

Yep, totally for me here. I keep wondering when my brain will catch up to my eyes. Down 71lbs in 3 and 1/2 months and while the logical side of my brain sees the difference and there are days I look in the mirror and think "Damn, I almost look normal" There are other days where I look and think "I look exactly the same"

Not rational by any means since I can now fit both my legs into one of my old pairs of jeans but sometimes trying on my old clothes to only have them just fall to the floor helps me to see the difference. Or do the things I could not do. Like without even realizing it I found myself sitting Indian style on the floor tonight playing with the dogs. The only way I could do that pre op is if I physically lifted on leg on top of the other and even then it hurt like hell.

Beth suggested to me to keep an index card of my wow moments and that was the greatest gift she could have given me. I carry it with me everywhere I go. And those times where I still see that really fat girl in the mirror, I pull it out and look at just how far I have come and I am not even 1/3 of the way there yet.

Heck just this morning I think I may have seen the beginnings of a collarbone. If I remember what that sucker looked like!

Delane · 11-03-2009, 01:27 AM

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Originally Posted by AirForceW1fe

Yep, totally for me here. I keep wondering when my brain will catch up to my eyes. Down 71lbs in 3 and 1/2 months and while the logical side of my brain sees the difference and there are days I look in the mirror and think "Damn, I almost look normal" There are other days where I look and think "I look exactly the same"

Not rational by any means since I can now fit both my legs into one of my old pairs of jeans but sometimes trying on my old clothes to only have them just fall to the floor helps me to see the difference. Or do the things I could not do. Like without even realizing it I found myself sitting Indian style on the floor tonight playing with the dogs. The only way I could do that pre op is if I physically lifted on leg on top of the other and even then it hurt like hell.

Beth suggested to me to keep an index card of my wow moments and that was the greatest gift she could have given me. I carry it with me everywhere I go. And those times where I still see that really fat girl in the mirror, I pull it out and look at just how far I have come and I am not even 1/3 of the way there yet.

Heck just this morning I think I may have seen the beginnings of a collarbone. If I remember what that sucker looked like!

I totally agree, I like the index idea. I think I will start that first thing in the am. As for the collarbone, OMG that totally freaks me out everytime I look at myself thats a hugh change I see. Even my feet are smaller. Go figuar that one.

AirForceW1fe · 11-03-2009, 01:37 AM

ROFL at the feet thing. That was one of the first things on me to shrink. I was not quite 2 weeks post op and recovering at my in laws. Went to put my shoes on to go to the grocery store with my mother in law and I sounded like a damn Clydesdale trotting down the hallway! My shoes would slip off with every step. I have gotten some insoles that have allowed me to still wear some of them. Sad realization when you see we even had fat feet!

MustangGirL · 11-03-2009, 01:44 AM

I'm in my 3 month supervised diet right now..and I just recently noticed my head has a roll lol! its probaly always been there but i just noticed it..i told my husband OMG i have a fat head too! Plz tell me this will go away one day??

AirForceW1fe · 11-03-2009, 01:50 AM

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Originally Posted by MustangGirL

I'm in my 3 month supervised diet right now..and I just recently noticed my head has a roll lol! its probaly always been there but i just noticed it..i told my husband OMG i have a fat head too! Plz tell me this will go away one day??

LOL with you not at you hun. Yep it will go away. I had not only a head roll, I had 2 of them and a fantastic hump at the base of the back of my neck to complete the fabulous look. The rolls are completely gone and the hump is almost totally gone now.

Delane · 11-03-2009, 01:54 AM

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Originally Posted by MustangGirL

I'm in my 3 month supervised diet right now..and I just recently noticed my head has a roll lol! its probaly always been there but i just noticed it..i told my husband OMG i have a fat head too! Plz tell me this will go away one day??

It will totally go away, I use to have a double chin, and thought I would have it for life, ITS GONE. I posted some pics of me from Halloween. I will see if I can put some here so you can see my face, and my double chin is gone. I will also try to add some more for you to see.

Oh and Im much smaller now, the last time I took pics, other that halloween was about 2 months ago, Im down about 28 pound since then. I will be posting new ones soon. But anyway take a look at this.

MustangGirL · 11-03-2009, 02:11 AM

WoW u look great..those pics are so encouraging! I'm so looking foward to less head & chin..well less everything lol!

Vikkator · 11-03-2009, 06:42 AM

I've pretty much maintained around 140. When I look in the mirror, I'm shocked, but when I see pix of myself, I still see a roll around the belly (and still feel it) and still think I look overweight. Everyone tells me I'm skinny, but I don't think so.

I don't see myself as a hulking 250 pounds anymore, but I still would like to lose about 10 pounds. Everyone else tells me I need to stay where I am. I certainly don't feel the extra weight, but I sometimes can't identify with being a slim person.

eyesthatkissu · 11-03-2009, 08:16 AM

For awhile there after I hit goal, my mind could not comprehend my size. Everywhere I went with family and friends, I would point to someone in the crowd and ask, "Am I about that size?" It was always someone much larger than what I was. Pretty soon, they would head me off at the pass and just find someone and say, "That's you." It actually helped my mind grasp my weightloss because what I thought I saw in the mirror was not the reality. But it's actually true both ways. Pre-op my eyes saw me as a little chubby... but no where near my 315 morbidly obese self.

And now, below goal, I find that I focus all of my negative energy on wherever I'm still a little too "round". Like my pannus.

Let's face it, we are our own worst enemies always hypercritical, and never as accepting of our own physical flaws as we are of the people we love. Think about it, when's the last time a beloved girlfriend asked us how she looked in that dress and we answered, "Eh... you know you can really see your pannus, maybe just hold your big purse infront of it."