carrie68

Over the last fews months I have found that my emotions are completely out of control. I cry on an almost daily basis, mostly for no reason at all. God forbid the slightest thing go wrong and it is like the flood gates open! I lost it at work last week and couldn't get myself together. This is the second time that has happened. So embarrassing! I spoke to my Dr about this hoping this was common. He suggested that I see the shrink that I saw before surgery. I am so devastated about this. I was taking Lexapro but just stopped because of the side effects, I haven't noticed any difference yet. I really didn't care for the Dr I saw before surgery and wouldn't want to see him again.

I have a friend who has suggested therapy several times. I have had a lot of personal loss the past few years and I am not sure I ever dealt with any of it. I am hoping that this is just all of that catching up with me. I am not a person who likes to share things about myself and the thought of going to a shrink makes me sick to my stomach. I just can't. My friend has offered to be a sounding board and let me get it all out. I don't know what to do. I just thought my life was going to be so much different after this surgery. I am worse than ever! I don't even leave my house unless I have to. I look in the mirror and see the same person I saw 70 lbs ago. I don't feel any smaller.

I am hoping to find someone that can tell me this is all normal.

bezobraz

Yap, it is all normal!

When we loose weight that rapidly hormones (estrogen and such) that are stored in fat flood into our system making us very emotional.

Very, very common and YES it goes away in time.

You also need time to get used to smaller you. Our mind needs to catch up with our shrinking body. It gets easier with time.

Hang on, it gets better!
-tonya

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Surgery: 5/5/2008, 100 lb lost October 27 2008, Wonderland Desember 22 2008

4 months out 232 lb (9/4/2008)
5 months out 221 lb (10/5/2008)
7 months out 200 lb (12/9/2008)
8 months out 198 lb (01/6/2009)
10 months out 186 lb (03/07/2009)
12 months out 179 lb (05/05/2009)
15 months out 168 lb (08/28/2009)

Axel

I'm not a psychologist, but...you're not crazy as Bezobraz said. However I might add that you might consider therapy.

If you're scared about privacy, all therapists, whether social worker, psychologist, psychiatrist or counselor, they're all have ethics and rules and regulations. They cannot, under law, discuss anything without your written consent.

Another thing is that all of the "shrinks" you are dealing with have heard everything before...seriously. I know this sounds awful, but you're not special. Everyone has something going on with them and it's just the degree of what it is.

One more thing is that Lexapro has a nasty withdraw (well, any anti-depressant really). If you just stopped it, you might be having withdraw symptoms.

Hope it helps...
*hugs*

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Angst + Negativity + Skepticism = Axel

Highest = 264 lbs
October 21, 2009 (surgery) = 253 lbs
October 26, 2009 = 244 lbs
November 10, 2009 = 230 lbs

Josephine

It's definitely the hormones doing this to you because of the rapid weight loss.

However, if you've suffered a lot of loss plus had WLS in the last couple years, you DEFINITELY need to talk to someone and get it all out. Most people don't go to a psychologist because they're crazy, they go because they're SANE and they know they need someone to talk to. They're not there to judge you or make you feel bad. Their job is to ask you questions, and just keep asking you questions until YOU figure out who you are, what you want, and where you're going, so you can grow and learn from that.

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