The Tears Are Falling - ThinnerTimes - Gastric Bypass Forum, Lap Band Forum, and Vertical Sleeve Gastrectomy Forum

deeteeceecee · 10-16-2009, 07:50 AM

Hello TT Family,

I am having surgery on Monday. Yesterday I began to cry off and on all day..I have wanted to have Lap Rny since 2007. Now that the day has come I can't understand why I am so scared. I just don't want to leave my children and husband. I think it is normal to have fears. But I don't know if how I feel is over the top. My doctor told me that he will take good care of me. That I shouldn't worry about bad things just focus on the new life I am going to have. He said that being over a 100 pounds over weight is more of a risk than surgery is. He said he wants me to keep busy and Monday will be here Before I know it. I told him that is easier said than done.

I am trying to think happy thoughts..But my nerves are up..I am going to clean out my Closets to keep busy and focus on great thoughts. I have been praying. I need therapy..I am so afraid..

BrandnewMe · 10-16-2009, 07:58 AM

It is normal to be scared! It's surgery! I went through all the "what ifs" prior to surgery plus my mom (God love her) was going about them out loud too so it was a difficult time.

It's actually good that you're a little scared. It means that you are aware this is something big. Here are some questions to ask yourself:

1. Do you trust your doc? If so, put the surgery in his hands. He will do a great job I'm sure.

2. Are you ready for the new way of life? I bet you are! Put any thoughts of failure out of your head for now. It's not going to happen. I was so afraid of failure because that's what always happened when I went on a diet. But guess what? This isn't a diet! This is a new lifestyle and you have been physically changed to make it work.

The hardest person on you is you! Put some trust in yourself for the next 2 days that you have made the right decision and it's not necessarily going to be easy but you will learn how to make it work for you.

We are all here for you! Hang in there!

deeteeceecee · 10-16-2009, 09:22 AM

Thanks Brandnewme,

I do trust my surgeon. I am ready for a change. You are right about at time I was thinking can I change and will LAP Rny not work for me. Due to every diet I have tried has not worked or maybe I didn't work with it. I am goin to keep my spirts lefted and pray that everything works out for me..I am ready to walk at the zoo and not have to leave early because me knees and back hurt..

Thanks again.

Karlos · 10-16-2009, 09:42 AM

Your fears are completely normal so stop beating yourself up about it.

Your team have assessed the risks and they believe you are good to go.

In three days it will be done, you will wake up with a chance to get the life you desire and deserve and look back at this moment and giggle into your beef broth.

In a couple of months none of your clothes will fit and you'll start to hear people tell you how fantastic you look all the time.

Now breath take a step back and ask yourself are you ready for a chance to live like you've never lived, and you will be ready.

I know you will be fine so Tuesday or Wednesday I expect to see you back here telling us you can't stop farting, feel a little sore, but are through the worst and ready to rock the world.

Good luck babe xxxxx Hugs sent

Jeanie · 10-16-2009, 09:46 AM

Totally normal to have these fears. I cried A LOT just before my WLS.

You should try and plan some fun family things to do to keep your mind off of it. Just think about how much easier it will be to play w/your kids. All will be fine! Please make sure that someone updates us on you when you are outta surgery on Monday.

Shetaz0028 · 10-16-2009, 10:52 AM

The fears are perfectly normal. Look what the wonderful people before me said. I was not so much scared for me but, for my hubby and how he was gonna make it while I was in the hospital for 2 days.

All of my tears have happened after surgery. From the "what have I done" to the horrid rampaging hormones.

deeteeceecee · 10-16-2009, 02:26 PM

I just wanted to say thank you to everyone. I feel better..I have been washing,talking on the phone,and looking at tv to keep my mind on happy thoughts. I will keep all of you updated.

Karlos you had me laughing so hard.I had to show my friend your post. I have also planned family fun weekend to keep me busy..

Hychap2009 · 10-16-2009, 02:58 PM

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Originally Posted by deeteeceecee

Hello TT Family,

I am having surgery on Monday. Yesterday I began to cry off and on all day..I have wanted to have Lap Rny since 2007. Now that the day has come I can't understand why I am so scared. I just don't want to leave my children and husband. I think it is normal to have fears. But I don't know if how I feel is over the top. My doctor told me that he will take good care of me. That I shouldn't worry about bad things just focus on the new life I am going to have. He said that being over a 100 pounds over weight is more of a risk than surgery is. He said he wants me to keep busy and Monday will be here Before I know it. I told him that is easier said than done.

I am trying to think happy thoughts..But my nerves are up..I am going to clean out my Closets to keep busy and focus on great thoughts. I have been praying. I need therapy..I am so afraid..

Hi Deeteeceecee

I read on here over and over again where people have these scary thoughts, and I know its frightning. My surgery is on Monday also. I've been thinking all kinds of things, I've even had some awful dreams. However, is it not the truth that up until now our lives have been less than wonderful, I may be generalising, but I have to put my trust in God and know that he has given the knowledge and skill to these surgeons to help us change our lives for the better, giving us a better chance - quality of life - a SECOND chance. We are only human so what we are feeling must be normal - the idea of WLS was pretty scarey from day one - So are many things in this life. The inspiration is seeing how many of our fellow TT'ers are sitting on the LOSERS bench. Our space is there waiting. Best wishes and God's blessing and protection for Monday.

Karlos · 10-16-2009, 03:26 PM

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Originally Posted by deeteeceecee

I just wanted to say thank you to everyone. I feel better..I have been washing,talking on the phone,and looking at tv to keep my mind on happy thoughts. I will keep all of you updated.

Karlos you had me laughing so hard.I had to show my friend your post. I have also planned family fun weekend to keep me busy..

Make sure you get lots of photos so we can all be gobsmacked at your before and afters in a hundred pounds or so time

Laureate · 10-16-2009, 05:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Karlos

Your fears are completely normal so stop beating yourself up about it.

Your team have assessed the risks and they believe you are good to go.

In three days it will be done, you will wake up with a chance to get the life you desire and deserve and look back at this moment and giggle into your beef broth.

In a couple of months none of your clothes will fit and you'll start to hear people tell you how fantastic you look all the time.

Now breath take a step back and ask yourself are you ready for a chance to live like you've never lived, and you will be ready.

I know you will be fine so Tuesday or Wednesday I expect to see you back here telling us you can't stop farting, feel a little sore, but are through the worst and ready to rock the world.

Good luck babe xxxxx Hugs sent

Good god, Karl, I think I'm in love. You have a future in motivational speaking!