The Tears Are Falling - Page 2 - ThinnerTimes - Gastric Bypass Forum, Lap Band Forum, and Vertical Sleeve Gastrectomy Forum

Aomiel · 10-18-2009, 05:17 AM

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Originally Posted by deeteeceecee

Now that the day has come I can't understand why I am so scared. I just don't want to leave my children and husband. I have been praying. I need therapy..I am so afraid..

Nah...you don't need therapy. You're being absolutely normal. All surgery has its risks and it would be foolish not to acknowledge that...but it's possible there is also an undercurrent of fear/insecurity underneath because you know that your life is going to change and that unknown causes anxiety. Again...normal.

My surgery is in about 3 weeks. So I'm preparing the best I can by eating healthy 'now', not only to make it a bit easier for the doctor during surgery, but easier for my body. I'm not going to ignore the very real risks that come with any surgery...even the minor ones so I'm preparing for a less positive outcome as well.

My husband was a widower with a 4 and 5 year old when I met him. Their mom died of breast cancer when they were just short of their 2nd and 3rd birthdays. She took the time to tape her depositions for the malpractice suit, but it never occurred to her to leave a tape for her two boys. Neither remember her. Neither will ever know how much their mother loved them. We can tell them, but it's not the same as if she had.

So I'm writing letters to my children and husband and tucking them away in my little safe that contains our important papers. The only way my husband and children will see these letters is if something happens to me...and if something happens, I want them to know without a doubt how much I loved them. That's not morbid. It's being realistic and being prepared.

From a mental standpoint, I believe everything will be fine and I know that the prognosis for my future having had the surgery is far more positive than if I continue to be morbidly obese with all of the medical problems associated with that.

Prepare for all scenarios...but focus on the positive.

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deeteeceecee · 10-18-2009, 09:08 AM

Thanks to everyone for everthing that you have said. I am doing ok right now. I don't know how i will feel later. My husband nerves are now up. He is going crazy about any little thing. I am not going to get mad at him because I know that he is just worried about me an he don't want to tell me. I am praying that everything will be ok. I am glad I am part of TT Family.

P.S. I will post pictures when I return home...

Aviator · 10-18-2009, 09:09 AM

I certainly was afraid. Anyone who isn't before such a life altering event, must not have a pulse.

You're new life is just around the corner.

deeteeceecee · 10-18-2009, 09:17 AM

Thanks Aviator,

Everyone is telling me that it is normal to be afraid. I am just trying to calm my nerves so when I go in my blood pressure is not up. I don't even have high blood pressure but some time when I get upset it goes up.

I will keep everyone updated..Thanks for everything!!

Aviator · 10-18-2009, 09:22 AM

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Originally Posted by deeteeceecee

Thanks Aviator,

Everyone is telling me that it is normal to be afraid. I am just trying to calm my nerves so when I go in my blood pressure is not up. I don't even have high blood pressure but some time when I get upset it goes up.

I will keep everyone updated..Thanks for everything!!

...of Aviator's Log Book to see where my head was pre-op and immediately post op. We have been there, and are with you.

ardita · 10-19-2009, 11:23 AM

Today is your day and we are all pulling for you. Good luck and let us know how you are doing as soon a you are able.

katzz87 · 10-19-2009, 12:17 PM

to hear how everything went.

This is the beginning of a new life-style...so exciting!

Highlandlass · 10-19-2009, 01:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Hychap2009

Hi Deeteeceecee

I read on here over and over again where people have these scary thoughts, and I know its frightning. My surgery is on Monday also. I've been thinking all kinds of things, I've even had some awful dreams. However, is it not the truth that up until now our lives have been less than wonderful, I may be generalising, but I have to put my trust in God and know that he has given the knowledge and skill to these surgeons to help us change our lives for the better, giving us a better chance - quality of life - a SECOND chance. We are only human so what we are feeling must be normal - the idea of WLS was pretty scarey from day one - So are many things in this life. The inspiration is seeing how many of our fellow TT'ers are sitting on the LOSERS bench. Our space is there waiting. Best wishes and God's blessing and protection for Monday.

Don't want to hijack this thread, but wanted to say to hychap2009 that we are waiting to hear about her too.

ardita · 10-19-2009, 02:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Highlandlass

Don't want to hijack this thread, but wanted to say to hychap2009 that we are waiting to hear about her too.

Hychap's date was changed again, to yesterday. She reported for surgery...and was sent home and told they would redschedule her in 4 weeks. She is very down about it. I assume it is because of the cold she was recovering from.

Highlandlass · 10-19-2009, 02:19 PM

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Originally Posted by ardita

Hychap's date was changed again, to yesterday. She reported for surgery...and was sent home and told they would redschedule her in 4 weeks. She is very down about it. I assume it is because of the cold she was recovering from.

Thank you Ardita for letting us know. I wouldn't have written anything had I known. I feel badly for her - but everything comes round in its own time. Going in with a cold would not be healthy. Poor girl was so pumped. Sorry to hear it. Thanks again.