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Old 10-05-2009, 05:11 PM   #1 (permalink)
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You know the toughest thing about this is I should have never told my mother what I was doing. She is so unsupportative, not like it would surprise me...she never agrees with anything I do.

Sorry guys...I just had to rant for a minute.
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Old 10-05-2009, 05:21 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Sorry guys...I just had to rant for a minute.
No worries. Some of us have ranted far longer. And it's tough when the person whose support you most need isn't there for you.

Lean on us.
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Old 10-05-2009, 05:39 PM   #3 (permalink)
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I'm so sorry to hear this What's she doing?
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Old 10-05-2009, 05:43 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Honestly? This isn't much of a rant. Feel free to rant on if you need to.

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Don't worry about what others have to say, because I truly believe that most are jealous!!!

My mom just today looked me dead in the face and said "Oh you won't lose any weight because of all the stuff you eat" I said what stuff I'm barely eating anything!! She saw a Tacobell cup and assumed I pigged out on it!! I got a cup of ice when I bought my kids some tacos a few days ago!!!

My mom really wanted the surgery, but she's afraid and she takes it out on me every chance she gets!!!!
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Mine doesn't talk to me at all.

Right there with you in the non-supportive mothers club.

Sorry, and (hugs).

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well at least she is not "pretending to support" in front of people then trying to sabotage ya...


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Old 10-05-2009, 08:23 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Now that I am losing weight, my mother just loves me now, always hated me when I was fat, and sure made me know it too.

Now she call's me pretty, not her plumpgirl. Go Figure!
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Old 10-05-2009, 08:35 PM   #9 (permalink)
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WOW...so it isn't just me!

I called her and asked her to check her messages at lunch because I was going to have my husband call her and let her know how I did through surgery. She said, oh no, you are really doing it. This is so ridiculous, you and I just don't think a like...blah blah blah. I just shut down. I never do anything to her approval. I guess being the child from the first marriage still holds a lot of resentment for her.

I sware I was switched at birth!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Old 10-05-2009, 08:37 PM   #10 (permalink)
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I've always told everyone I was adopted, my mother always was hard on me and treated me so different than her son's.. Last time I got smacked!

Thinks the Apple must have come far from her "Tree"...

But Now I have a daughter, and I always tell her I love you. and always makes sure she knows she is Loved...
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