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cherrypita · 07-02-2009, 09:47 AM

i just wanted to ask anyone and everyone about this. i have felt regret and fear since waking up from my surgery am i the only one or is this somewhat common. this is a question that i really need answered.... i fear that i will not be able to eat what i should and be able to continue to take multivitamins for the rest of my life. it sends me into full on freak out mode everyday since surgery......please answer!!!!

thank you

batiekall05 · 07-02-2009, 09:55 AM

How far out are you? I will tell you that I 100% felt the same way that you do the first few weeks. Then, when the weight started coming off and I was able to tolerate different foods, the fear was GONE! Now I can HONESTLY say this has been the best decision I've EVER made!

When I woke up from surgery, honestly, my first thought was "shit! I can't go back now! What have I done to myself?"

It gets better dear! Hang in there!

poet_kelly · 07-02-2009, 09:59 AM

Lots of people having moments when they regret the surgery. I know I did. Occasionally I still do. Like when I eat something and get nauseous. Most days, though, I believe this surgery was the best thing I ever did. Despite the problems, I'm healthier than I've ever been.

It's true that you will have to eat carefully and take vitamins for the rest of your life. That is a big thing. By getting the surgery, you made a huge committment to your health. You'll have to follow through on that. I look at it more as an inconvenience than anything else. If others can manage it, you can too.

Kelly

SweetSouthern · 07-02-2009, 10:02 AM

I did the same thing. I cried for a week or more lying in my bed wondering what the heck I had done to myself. It was horrible. It's called "Buyer's Remorse". You'll get over it and start to love your pouch AND the weight falling off your body! Just hang on, it gets better. I have to say though I still do get upset, but at myself, sometimes because I let it get to the point of having to have the surgery instead of doing it on my own and controlling it before it got to out of control. I think that is normal with everyone too though. But if ya think about, why would anyone look forward to having their insides chopped apart and put back together because of something they were doing to themself? If asked to stand, I don't think many people would stand up. So, you get the picture. But you will get better and you will learn your new pouch and its limits and you will enjoy the benefits of it greatly!

cherrypita · 07-02-2009, 01:23 PM

i am 13 days post op. i did not have to pay my insurance is really good and as long as it was deemed " medically necessary " it was covered 100%. so no buyers remorse here. just remorse. so i dont know what i am feeling exactly. one minute im like ok its done get healthy and happy then the next minute its what the hell did you do you werent that fat. the things you have to do now why couldnt you do it before....things like that

tinxy · 07-02-2009, 01:31 PM

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Originally Posted by cherrypita

i just wanted to ask anyone and everyone about this. i have felt regret and fear since waking up from my surgery am i the only one or is this somewhat common. this is a question that i really need answered.... i fear that i will not be able to eat what i should and be able to continue to take multivitamins for the rest of my life. it sends me into full on freak out mode everyday since surgery......please answer!!!!

thank you

hi cherrypita =)
i know exactally how your feeling im 12 days post op and i had such a bad day today i cried for hours, i dont even know why.
I make myself worse though i read things that contridict the information i was given regarding post op diet and this confuses me and makes the whole situation worse.
Im sure in a few weeks we will be doin just fine and forget all about these early stages its all still so new and so much change its only natural to feel this way.... well thats what i tell myself anyway

fisher1000 · 07-02-2009, 01:43 PM

I think we ALL go through this to a degree...and on a daily basis it fluctuates from "why the hell did I do that" to "why the hell didn't I do it ten years ago?"

Believe me, the emotional roller coaster you are on is way harder to deal with than the actual surgery, but as you hit weight loss milestones, it will get easier, and life will get more fun, and you'll stop wondering what you've done to yourself.

Just know that normalcy doesn't come back in one fell swoop--you build up to it, and it just takes awhile. The best thing you can do is get the feelings out, whether it's jumping on here and sharing with everybody, beating the pillows on your bed, or riding down the road with Metallica turned all the way up. (Which is what I did---well, DO!)

But if you really need a definite answer, whether you felt as if you were big enough or not big enough--you still did this to save your life. In the long run, when you are obese, you are virtually guaranteed risks and problems, at least now you've done something to help keep that from happening.

In essence, you've become a hero for yourself. Believe in that.

-Mike

cherrypita · 07-02-2009, 01:46 PM

thank you fisher1000 that made me feel good.............................for now and will again later thanks again

smashlh79 · 07-02-2009, 08:32 PM

I am 10 days out and still struggling... I got the first complement on me losing weight today and a good job for doing what I needed to do to get healthy again and then all of this past "hell week" was worth it! I too feel regret for not trying harder to do it on my own but you know what? I would have never been successful. I am scared of what the future holds but I do truly believe everything happens for a reason and I have to take comfort in that. I did what I did because I needed help and there is no shame in that! Its not easy no matter what anyone said but nothing good is ever easy! For what its worth and not condesinding at all but I am proud of you for recognizing how important your health is and doing something soo scary that could and probably will save your life.
Ashley

cherrypita · 07-02-2009, 09:13 PM

thank you to you all. your words have made me feel better for now... i know i will have to read and re-read all your comments for who knows how long. but it has helped me realize things will get better....