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Linda Leffel · 07-02-2009, 09:58 PM

Courage is not the absence of fear. It's feeling the fear and moving ahead anyway. John Wayne

You have done a brave and risky thing to save your life. You are human, so you will go up and down about it. But time heals, and will help. Everyday you will get stronger. Remember, those thoughts are just thoughts. Try replacing them when you catch them and change them to "I am getting better and better every day," or whatever positive affirmation you can think of. Soon, it will be true for you.

All the best,
Linda
16 days post op, and loving life!

ClarkeStone · 07-03-2009, 03:46 AM

I really couldnt agree more with the other posters.
I'm 5 days out of my op - and on days 1 and 2 I regretted it a lot, I wish I hadnt made the change in my life. But why?

Let me look at the two paths my life was taking

1. Not having the operation.

I was finding that I spent less time with my friends, was gaining more weight and now binge eating every day. I was paying nearly 40% more for clothes in my size, and was even growing out of them. I was spending around $350 a month just in binge foods like a pizza, curry etc when I really shoudln't.

Losing contact with friends really wasn't great, but I just didnt have the energy to go out with them. I fealt so low about my size that harming myself at one point became a real possibilty

I wasn't upset, I fealt numb, even being around my parte I had lost all sexual drive. I didnt hate myself or others around me, I just "nothinged" everyone.

2. Post op

Currently the reality is that I am a touch unconfrtable, and yes, I dont get to binge on all those foods I love. Thing is though I have hope. I had a cry the other day, im 26 now and it's something I havent done since my 16th birthday. It fealt rather good really, it was joy, and having an emotion inside me was something new, as realistically I hadn't had positive emotion in me for some time.

I'm losing weight quicker than I can count, and now after this short while wearing clothes I stopped getting into about 2 years ago. Even though I'm still big, and will be for some (short) while, i'm getting a little more confident.

I will soon be out of the risk area for heart attack, diabetes and basically early adult death.

I will be able to wear nice designer clothes, or at least clothes from a normal shop without having to look for xxxl etc. I will be able to walk to the shops without being out of breath

I will be able to feel like a sexual being without havign to try hide myself.

I will be able to dance like nobody else dances until 4, 5, 6AM, like I used to.

Now dont get me wrong cherypita, I'm not preaching to you. However.
I'd like you to tell me, have I made the right decision?

without wax

Adam x

Linda Leffel · 07-03-2009, 10:40 PM

Congratulations, Adam. So well said, so touching. I know you will be a fabulous inspiration to us all. You chose life! I can't wait to see pics in some of those designer clothes. Keep up (down?) the good work!
xoxoxo
LL

jennifersmith23 · 07-06-2009, 09:03 PM

Agreed...we did all go through that emotional roller coaster known as hell week...but we made it through. I don't regret for one single minute getting the surgery. I truely believe that it made me who I was always meant to be and that it is the real me I see in the mirror. I have lost 93 lbs...with 10 or so more to go. You will achieve your goals. I won't lie to you, the first few months are rough, but you will get through them and be stronger for it.

Good luck to you,

Baja Big Dog · 07-07-2009, 09:48 AM

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Originally Posted by fisher1000

I think we ALL go through this to a degree...and on a daily basis it fluctuates from "why the hell did I do that" to "why the hell didn't I do it ten years ago?"

Believe me, the emotional roller coaster you are on is way harder to deal with than the actual surgery, but as you hit weight loss milestones, it will get easier, and life will get more fun, and you'll stop wondering what you've done to yourself.

Just know that normalcy doesn't come back in one fell swoop--you build up to it, and it just takes awhile. The best thing you can do is get the feelings out, whether it's jumping on here and sharing with everybody, beating the pillows on your bed, or riding down the road with Metallica turned all the way up. (Which is what I did---well, DO!)

But if you really need a definite answer, whether you felt as if you were big enough or not big enough--you still did this to save your life. In the long run, when you are obese, you are virtually guaranteed risks and problems, at least now you've done something to help keep that from happening.

In essence, you've become a hero for yourself. Believe in that.

-Mike

Fricken Mike...BINGO!!!!!

One thing to remember, if you totally get burned out with loosing weight, and you want to go back to the "OLD" style of eating, and dying prematurely, it is completely obtainable!! Many people have eaten through he pouch, it is easy to do, so remember, when yoiur totally tired of taking vitamins, you can go back!

"In essence, you've become a hero for yourself. Believe in that."

Im quoting Mike above, remember you are your own hero, dont let your self down!!

Shetaz0028 · 07-07-2009, 11:04 AM

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Originally Posted by cherrypita

thank you to you all. your words have made me feel better for now... i know i will have to read and re-read all your comments for who knows how long. but it has helped me realize things will get better....

Don't forget that the fat women carry stockpiles hormones. When you start losing weight those hormones come flying out of the wood work and wreck havoc with our brains. Just like PMS it will pass and you will live.