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Old 06-25-2009, 12:34 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Default I'm Losing My job After 19 Years

I have worked at the same company all my adult life. Literally- I was 17 when I started in the mailroom and have worked for several different departments from customer service to my current role as a data analyst. Now after what will be 19 years (July 2nd) I will no longer have a job as of November 15th 2009. I am so numb right now; I really don’t know what I feel. I’m scared, angry and sad all at once and can not turn to my old friend food.

When I came home yesterday I just sat on the couch and thought I want a Whooper or a bacon cheeseburger. I decided to go to the gym to work out the frustrations. I then just found myself sore and numb. I keep hearing from people how this will be a blessing in disguise. All I can think about is how hard it will be to find any job, let alone one that pays as well as this one did. I have my kids, my wife and a new house to take care of. Suddenly just being fat seems like a small problem and the weight I have lost seems so insignificant.

I don’t think I am asking for answers I am just trying to vent. I know there are no answers and nothing anyone can say to make me feel better. Today I would settle for just feeling something- anything but numb.
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Old 06-25-2009, 12:41 PM   #2 (permalink)
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WOW I'm sorry to hear that. I've been at my job for 13 & with the economy you never know. I hope that you are able to find a job soon. Start looking now, and if something comes along snag it RIGHT away!
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Old 06-25-2009, 12:51 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Oh, I'm sorry. I don't have any advice to offer, but I hope things work out for you.

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Old 06-25-2009, 12:56 PM   #4 (permalink)
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I am so sorry that you are losing your job and I know how tough it is out there. You have done so well on your weight loss and I will pray that you will get a job real soon. Good Luck!!
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Old 06-25-2009, 02:22 PM   #5 (permalink)
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I can relate..but not on the same job for that many years. But it sucks no matter what. It is scary, starting over again. I'm glad I did even though it was a long and hard process. Like everything else in my life...nothing came easy

I have you in my thoughts ((((((((((hugs)))))))))))
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How horrible.....especially after 17 years...

Are they offering any kind of severence package? Are you eligible for any re-training? Is the company itself closing down or re-locating?

Your mind is pretty numb right now....and pretty soon you will go through the whole roller coaster of emotions...denial, anger, fear, etc....

I know it's cold-comfort but at least you got a few months notice to start planning....
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Old 06-26-2009, 05:20 PM   #7 (permalink)
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I know exactly how you feel. I was laid off in August 07 after 23 years with my newspaper. I'm the sole breadwinner and I was devastated at first. I was very lucky that I got a severance package that tided us over. Unemployment checks didn't even cover the mortgage. But, I had a new, much better job 5 months later. One thing you have going for you is that you've got a lot of warning -- I had to leave the building that day and no one in management thought to lay in a supply of boxes for all the layoffs.

It feels like your world ended, but I'm am so happy I got out when I did. Journalism is imploding and I got the last good job. Polish up your resume, hit the online job sites, and get ready for a new job. Hit up anyone you know at other companies. Find sites that post jobs in your field.

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I'm so sorry. I know scary that is! Just stay positive and keep pushing forward. You WILL make it and succeed. There is a plan for you...just gotta find it.
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I feel for ya. I just got laid off from my job that I was at for 12 years.
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