Why him? - Page 2 - ThinnerTimes

Jeanie · 09-29-2008, 10:22 AM

I'm so sorry you and your family has to go thru this. Only time can heal.

Vim&Vigour · 09-29-2008, 10:31 AM

Dearest Dawn,
My heartfelt sympathy to you, your daughter and family.
There is never a real explanation for "why him". For those who have faith, we take comfort in that all things happen for a reason, not necessarily immediately understandable or identifiable to us. "Thankfully" your son-in-law was killed nearly immediately (as I understand it) thus not having to endure continued pain. Mercifully his wife was there to hold him. Those horrendous yet precious final moments together. It seems so desperately unfair. And yet, God only seems to give us the burdens we are able to carry. May you and your daughter find a strong new beginning together. Her nursing career will be even more special through her intimate knowledge of loss and nurture. Just imagine how many people she will be able to help once she has had time to heal herself. I hope you can have time and space to deal with your tragic situation.
Be strong, call upon us and mind how you cope - increase your protein and stay away from the fridge. It will be hard not to snack when stressed, but do the best you can for yourself - you cannot be strong for others if you are not caring for your own needs first.
Thinking of you and keeping you in my prayers.
Vim

Grammy O · 09-29-2008, 10:34 AM

Dawn,

I am so sorry for your loss. There are no other words to offer you and your daughter, just be there for her. I know how hard this is and that no one will know what to say or do.

One of my sisters lost her husband in a boating accident, she was holding him in her lap and her 2 young children (then 10 and 8) were watching also. It has been about 12 years, but the pain is still there from time to time.

I pray that God helps to heal the hurt and fill the sense of loss with peace.

SueRN · 09-29-2008, 10:53 AM

Dawn,
you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Death at any age is hard when it's someone you love. There is nothing to say other than that your are sorry for the loss and how much you love your daughter. Just be there for here. My cousin's husband was older, 37, but took his own life by shooting himself and leaving my cousin and their 2 young daughters behind. Death can be senseless and cruel. She really had a hard time because his family blamed her for it all. So of course she blamed herself too. And like some of the others said, people will say all kinds of stupid things because they are trying to find something to say. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. Just let you and your daughter go through all the stages of grieving and support each other. Again, my thoughts and prayers are with you (HUGS!) and I am truly sorry for your loss. Sue

Paula08 · 09-29-2008, 12:11 PM

I am so sorry for the loss of your son in law. I pray that your daughter finds the strength to push through this hard time. She has a tough road ahead but with the support of her family surely she will work way through. Only love from people you care about and time can heal wounds so huge. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Hugs
Paula

sassy37 · 09-29-2008, 12:42 PM

My goodness how tragic . Im very sorry for you and your families loss , your poor daughter
It took me a very very long time to try and get some normality back in my life after loosing my mum , that was only 18 months ago
U all especially your daughter will go through the greiving process , wish every emotion possible u will all feel .
Anger , heartache , resentment, stress , depression , anxiety , and lots more ,
Time is a healer , we never forget , but we accept we have to get on with our lives eventually.
Our loved ones never leave us , they guide us ever day .
Best Regards
Sas xxxx

Toony · 09-29-2008, 01:43 PM

Thinking of you, your daughter and son-in-law... wishing I could do SOMETHING for you all!

PRAYERS...

katie

Noonie · 09-29-2008, 01:46 PM

Dear Dawn,
May i firstly say how sorry i am to hear such sad news, I know how you are all feeling and its hard. My brother was killed in a car accident 5 years ago and we still miss him very dearly, he was only 31 years old and the only boy in the house. My parents have been devastated by his early parting and infact have never been the same since. To make matters worse it was my mums brothers son who was driving and speed was to blame he survived the accident but never seen the greif we all suffered so he seems to have erased this part of his life completely and now manages to live life like nothing ever happened still out driving and at crazy speeds....
You will all face a rollercoaster of emotions and all i can say is that its tough but support one another that is so important and you all need time to grieve as this is necessary to move on, time allows you to cope with the loss but time does not allow you to accept the loss, we still talk fondly about my brother every day he is so close to us all as im sure your son in law will be to you and your family.
My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Love Noonie X

sassy37 · 09-29-2008, 01:54 PM

I gained 3 stone after I lost my mum in a short time due to comfort eating & depression
That was 42 pounds ...
Most of us with weight problems eat for comfort eh

LizzieShell · 09-29-2008, 03:53 PM

for your loss, my prayers go out to you and your family.