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Old 05-25-2005, 01:56 PM   #1 (permalink)
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I sincerely apologize for my “outburst” yesterday. I feel I misused the board, and not particularly happy with myself. I realize if I’m going to do this, I can’t do it alone, and just like everyone else here, I need and appreciate your support. I’ve been under a lot of stress lately with school, the insurance company, and my son. He’s stressing because of school as well. It’s just wrong when a kid wakes up in the morning and starts crying due to the demands of high school. It’s simply not fair, and it tears me apart. It felt like everything was piling on top of me, and let my depression “demons” get the best of me.

Those “demons” told me the fight for the surgery is useless. Being told wls is not covered was like being hit in the stomach. I felt I was stopped cold before I could even get started. After some self reflection, I can do one of two things; roll over as I’ve always done, or take a stand and do something about it.

I’ve been put down, kicked down, and told to stay down. I can’t do it anymore. I refuse to succumb to the “rules and regulations” of anything, much less an insurance company telling me what’s good for me. I refuse to take s$#t from others, why should I take it from them?

What I’m saying is if I really want this, I have to stand up and defend what I believe I deserve. With that said, I will use my speaking skills and talent to be a voice in wls. I suppose you can say I’m going to be an activist. I’m redesigning my web site, and may add this to it as well. Any chance I get, I will talk to educate people about obesity, and about the unfair practices, games and discrimination insurance companies play towards obese people who need wls.

I've a few ideas I will share soon. Let's just say I plan to rattle cages!
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Old 05-25-2005, 02:06 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Good for you and welcome back!

We've all had to fight for this surgery. Some of us had to battle our PCP's and other the insurance company while still more had to battle both our PCP and insurance,

Hell my PCP sent me home in tears more then once.

We're hear for you. Stay strong and don't be afraid to vent. We know where you're going and were you're coming from.

Eventually you will have your surgery.

Just always keep in mind that the goal of the insurance company is to try and make you give up and go away.
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Old 05-25-2005, 02:09 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Default Wow! Baron, I think I love you Man!

Way to turn it around and speak from your heart! I so admire you! Count me in as number one in your fan club!

Go Baron, Go Baron, Go Baron!
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Old 05-25-2005, 03:02 PM   #4 (permalink)
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I am so glad that you decided to stick in there and fight. YOU DID NOT MISUSE THIS BOARD. That is what we are here for, to listen when you need to vent. Please don't ever feel that way. Keep us posted on what is happening with you.
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Old 05-25-2005, 04:17 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Baron,

I'm glad you felt safe to vent here. It's an extremley frustrating process, and I am fortunate to have 2 different insurance coverages -- one from my work, one from my husband's. Does your wife work? If so, can she get you covered on her insurance from work?

Keep up the good fight!
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