Another crap shoot day.... - Page 3 - ThinnerTimes

Blueyz · 05-07-2005, 04:29 PM

Marie~

I am praying for you to stay strong! I know it is very hard...."tough love" is how I see it. I hope your husband is able to help himself through this.

watergirl · 05-07-2005, 07:41 PM

Marie, You've got my prayers to stay strong - strong as an old oak tree! You can do it! Come walking with us tomorrow at 7:00 a.m. Miramar Lake. Same place. Okay?

lealphachienne · 05-07-2005, 09:03 PM

I was thinking the same thing Kim. Since I'm not sleeping well, I'm sure to be up at that time.

JohnsWife4Life · 05-08-2005, 04:04 AM

I lived with an alcoholic, he beat me. I was not an alcoholic, but I had my own addictions. One thing I know for sure Marie, is that it doesn't matter if he recovers at home or in patient, the will and desire have to be there first, his own, your will for him to sober up doesn't make that his will. I think I would allow him to come home and let him attempt to recover his way. I don't think it is fair to put him out, and then also he may be so far gone that this only gives him an excuse to get drunk. I am about to post on my own thread about my husband, and his addiction, yeah, a new one.

I wish you well Marie, I know it is a tough decision, but you need to look at the big picture, not just the small frame.

Thoughts and Prayers,

JohnsWife4Life · 05-08-2005, 08:36 AM

I see you survived the night Marie, the first of many on a long road ahead. I get alot of things straight in my head (if that is possible) in the wee hours of the night. This has always been my time. About 02 or 03 in the morning, things seem to bubble up, bubble over, and fizzle out all in the wee hours. I should go walking even, it is a gorgeous day out here in the desert. The silence stills the calm, this has to be where they first saw the "purple mountains". I love mornings here, the birds are all chirping. I wish I knew what to say to you and such, to make you feel better, but sometimes we have to ride it out alone.

eyesthatkissu · 05-08-2005, 10:46 AM

My hubby... as you all know, Chris... suffered from an alcohol addiction. It was terrible. Wondering where he was, and how to clean up all the messes he left behind in his drunken stupor. The one thing he always had though was a work ethic. At least he never lost a job due to his addiction. But I do know what it's like to try everything to get someone to change, for their own benifit. And usually their desire to self destruct far outweighs any logical thinking. Once he gets to the crux of why he thinks so little of himself the better off you both will be. And chances are he can find those answers in treatment. This is a terrible thing to go through and my thoughts are with you.... much love...

katlover66 · 05-08-2005, 01:15 PM

Marie,
May I suggest you go to an ALANON meeting. My husband's ex wife is a meth addict. Due to her destructive behavior and constant brain washing of the kids we went to a couple of the meeting for family members addicted to drugs. I can't remember what if was called, it was like Alanon. this may help you deal with this in whole.

lealphachienne · 05-08-2005, 09:35 PM

I went for the walk with Kim. Almost finished the next English assignment. Not quite, my brain melted by the last page. I had a phone call from hubby. At least he's still alive. He's holed up at some hotel. He says he's looking into getting treatment. I told him when he finds one, then I can take him there. Until then, I didn't want to see him. He didn't say anything more. At least he didn't beg to come home. One day at a time, but the days seem soooo loooong.

katlover66 · 05-09-2005, 07:45 AM

Marie,
Hang in there, it's for the best and you know that. He almost died on you and he continues to self destruct. Really consider and Alanon meeting. He doesn't have to bring you down with him. Remeber you have a new lease on life. You lost the weight your beautiful and you don't need somebody with NO Self Asteem bringing you down.

watergirl · 05-09-2005, 07:59 AM

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Originally Posted by lealphachienne

I went for the walk with Kim. Almost finished the next English assignment. Not quite, my brain melted by the last page. I had a phone call from hubby. At least he's still alive. He's holed up at some hotel. He says he's looking into getting treatment. I told him when he finds one, then I can take him there. Until then, I didn't want to see him. He didn't say anything more. At least he didn't beg to come home. One day at a time, but the days seem soooo loooong.

Marie, first off, I've got chills running down my body because I'm so proud of you. First for getting out of the house and walking 8 miles yesterday morning. YOU SO ROCK! I'm proud because this took courage to get out of the house and do something for YOU! For YOUR health! Great way to burn off some of that stress that you're dealing with! Congratulations!

Second, that you almost finished that horrid English assignment! God Bless you for that! I can only imagine how hard that must have been to stay focused through all of this! Way to GO!

Third, you didn't give in! You are a ROCK! Stay strong Girl! I'm so proud of you!

Call me any time!