Another crap shoot day.... - Page 2 - ThinnerTimes

LizardQueen · 05-04-2005, 11:36 AM

I am so sorry you are having such a tough time right now. It's great you got him some help, but maybe you should go talk to someone about how you are feeling. Alcoholics do a lot of damage to the people they love. You got him some help, now try to focus on yourself for awhile. If you want to stay together you need to find the tools to help you live with a recovering alcoholic. If not I know you can make it on your own no matter where you live. You are a winner and you are strong and YOU CAN DO WHATEVER MAKES YOU HAPPY!!!

Amber

Karen Wright · 05-04-2005, 01:36 PM

Sending prayers your way, Marie and definately for your husband too.

lealphachienne · 05-04-2005, 04:55 PM

Just found out that his health plan won't cover the treatment. I just maxed out 3 credit cards to pay for it all. I certainly hope this works out. If it doesn't, I guess I'll be paying for this for a very long time. God, it hurts to give out the numbers. There goes my whole safety net financially.

bridgetgirl · 05-04-2005, 05:20 PM

It will all work out, dont worry sugar pea! They always do... I love your face!

Dara · 05-04-2005, 05:38 PM

Marie:

What is money and "security" without happiness, health and love? I'm sure that if an oncologist told you to max out three credit cards to save the life of someone you love, you would do it, right? Well, that's EXACTLY what you've done. The money you're paying to fix the "cancer" eating away in your hubby is saving his life.

Hope for the best. Sometimes we make the best investment possible and don't even realize it. We invest in people...in our loved ones.

I'm hoping for the best for both of you.

anthrgdgrl · 05-04-2005, 07:39 PM

Eloquently stated Dara.

lealphachienne · 05-06-2005, 08:41 AM

Had a good visit with the man last night at the hospital. He confessed all his sins. I won't go into details here, but he has done some pretty stupid things that I didn't know about. He was honest and didn't try to beg or apologize. He cancelled the money for the program up there. I've found a good list of treatment programs down here that will be more affordable. We discussed about a temporary seperation so he can work on himself and I can focus on myself. No details of that yet. Taking it one day at a time.

Anyhow, I got my first grade back on my first English assignment. I got a "B". Glad I got a quick response from the professor. Everything's done via email. I was nervous at first that he wouldn't get it back in time for my next assignment. Not allowed to submit the next assignment until the previous one is returned. Figured that it might get lost in cyber space.

watergirl · 05-06-2005, 09:13 AM

Congratulations on your well deserved B! At your level, that's impressive.

Great idea to take care of self before you take care of Hubby!

Kristen · 05-06-2005, 10:50 AM

Hi Marie,

I know we haven't met but I wanted to tell you I'm in your corner, thinking all the good thoughts I can muster!

Good wishes in everthing,

Kristen

lealphachienne · 05-07-2005, 04:26 PM

He checke out of the hospital. He could of stayed until Monday, but he didn't want to. He wanted me to pick him up. I asked if he was ready for intensive rehab. He said no. He'll do it on his own. Then I told him that he can't come home until he checks into a program.

So, I don't know where it's going to go from here. He's very angry. I don't know if he'll show up on my doorstep. He doesn't have the house keys or a car. I just pray that he'll go find a hotel, not drink, and cool off a bit and hopefully think more rationally. I know it's a long shot, but maybe he might change his mind before he does permanent damage.

Pray that I stay strong and not give in.