Has this happened to you? - Page 2 - ThinnerTimes

lala46205 · 06-19-2008, 04:02 PM

i have to say i had a very similar situation before my surgery i am almost 3 weeks post op now..actually i had more than 1..it is a lot diferent after surgery...you cant eat and your body and mind will know it..yes you will want to but you cant and if you even tried it would probably be the last time you tried...i think you will be fine...i definetly over did it when i was supposed to be on liquids for 2 weeks before at times..but hey it happens..you will be fine good luck and stay w/this support group its very helpful!

Debs · 06-19-2008, 05:40 PM

I think that is a worry of every pre-op person, it is so easy to take that extra piece of chicken with nothing to say stop. After surgery we will have our little friend (pouch) keeping us honest. I for one need that. Deb

Momof3 · 06-19-2008, 06:03 PM

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Originally Posted by SoCalFashionista

So I'm fairly conflicted with something that happened to me last night. I had a get together with some coworkers to celebrate the going away of one of the gals that I work with. Normally I'm extremely good about not snacking when I see things at the buffet table, or even having more than a glass of red wine, but I don't know what came over me last night. I hadn't really eaten much other than a salad with some grilled chicken at about 10 that morning so maybe that's what it was but when I had a piece of chicken at the going away somehow it turned into 2 pieces... and potatoes... and a soda. Sans the soda you wouldn't normally think grilled chicken and skinless potatoes doesn't sound too bad. Well before I continue know that everything I ate WAS FRIED!

I am PreOp so sadly I can get away with more because my body doesn't make me feel like I want to die if I eat the wrong thing but when I got home last night and I looked at how the perfectly fitted black dress pants I wore out of the house were now digging into me, I felt like I failed. I broke down. My husband told me that I don't need to be too hard on myself because I can take this mistake and use it to better my life. I love my husband, I do with my entire heart, but far be it for me to be a little cynical every now and again because he doesn't understand what being fat is. I married the man that no one thought I deserved. Extremely fit and gorgeous, with only one visible flaw... an overweight wife. I hear what he says but didn't really pay attention to it. Again cynical not because I think he's crazy.

Here's my dilema, I felt like I lost my will power completely last night. I weighed myself when I woke up this morning and hadn't even gained an ounce so I shouldn't be too upset. But at the same time, I'm worried that that may be something that carries over after I have my surgery. I know we all have our moments of weakness, but it's my weakness that got me to the weight I am now. Does anyone who has had the surgery have moments like this? I really need advice about this becasue I don't want this to be something that constantly weighs on my mind. Any thoughts would be great.

I havent read any of the replies so I dont know what others have said BUT...dont beat yourself up for being HUMAN. It's not about being FAT. You were hungry, so you ate. Yes, it wasnt the best choice if you are on a pre-op diet, or trying to lose weight to get approved, but tomorrow is another day, you'll get a chance to compensate for your mistake. I think you ate b/c you were HUNGRY, even skinny people get hungry, you didnt eat b/c you were fat and emotional eating

And about the husband, HONEY!! You are NOT the only flaw your husband has....he apparently has NO flaws, he loves you for YOU, not some number on a scale. You are not defined by how big you are or what size you wear. A good person, or a bad person is not dependant on their BMI!! Again, stop selling yourself short.

This too shall pass, trust me. After surgery, you wont make that mistake, well, not more than once LOL

Cheer up, there are a lot of wonderful people here who know exactly how you feel and know you are selling yourself short and will support you however necessary!!

((I'd try a liver cleanse from GNC for awhile too...it helps your body rid itself of fat deposited in the liver...I took it all during my pre op diet and my surgeon said my liver was NORMAL....go figure, 350# woman with a NORMAL liver.....now why cant my gut follow suit? :sigh:

Anyway......I repeat, stop being so hard on yourself and go give the hubby of yours a big ole smooch and realize you DO deserve him....

Marella · 06-19-2008, 06:11 PM

Before, my tool was 'will power'-- NOT! I wouldn't have ballooned to 349 if I had that!

Did I know proper nutrition... not really. I grew up on 'cleaning your plate because there's starving children in the world' food, I went to functions where there was ALWAYS food. Family holidays -- food, food and food. Mom made me feel better, by cooking my favorite impossible calorie white flowered, butter drenched, cholesterol ridden, cream cheese and potato filled pirogies AND I could eat 20 before I'm satisfied and then I could eat 5 more. And then there's stuffed cabbage!

Do I know how to cook? Sure do, from scratch every day.

My new best friend -- pouch the grouch -- if I don't know when to say when, pouch does and won't take more that it wants, cuz up it comes!

At 7 weeks post-op, it doesn't even bother me to cook for my family. I enjoy the cooking, but I am no longer grazing (eating while cooking) AND to their horror, they're eating HEALTHY damn it!

Will I miss my ethnic cooking? perhaps -- so I plan to have an 8 x 10 picture of me at 344 hanging on my fridge at all times, from now until way after maintenance begins. I need all of the willpower I can must to keep my pouch a grouch as long as I live and not teach it to be tolerant.

It's a One Day At A Time type thing! Forever Oscar!

Josephine · 06-20-2008, 04:46 AM

Food will always be there tempting you. Hopefully your pouch will give you the strength to find out how to say no for the rest of your life, because you WANT a chance at life.

SoCalFashionista · 06-20-2008, 09:04 AM

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Originally Posted by frantastic_one

Great words of wisdom posted above! Please try to stop beating yourself up--the past is history. What you did was out of habit and head hunger--something you'll be working on over the next months/years. You tripped and you recognized it and you'll learn from it. What was the trigger that made you do it? For me it is having access to it when I am still craving carbs and sugar--for you it could be another trigger. Think about it so you'll be aware the next time the situation pops up again.

You're going to do great!

It's hard to say what triggered it. I was hungry and honestly knew the whole time that it was a bad idea it was just like I completely ignored that little voice telling me to stop. Sadly, part of me really looks forward to getting sick if that were to happen postop. It's exactly like when the waiter comes out and tells you "be careful the plate is really hot" I know it's hot but how hot? Never fail you still touch it to see exactly what he meant by "Hot" and you

burn your finger. With certain food I know that it's off limits but it seams in a social situation somehow the food becomes acceptable.

SoCalFashionista · 06-20-2008, 09:08 AM

Thank you all so much for the words of encouragement. It's so awesome to have found this group.

Josephine · 06-20-2008, 10:03 AM

I just ate the icing off two pieces of cake.. just in a flash.. a matter of seconds.. then screamed and threw the whole cake away. I don't even know how it happened. It's my first mess up since I started writing down every morsel I put into my mouth June 9th.

I'm so stupid. It happened before I could stop it. God I wanna kick myself for not having a better protein snack. I knew we'd be having dinner late tonight and I let myself get hungry. I should have thrown that cake away days ago after the birthday party. I'm so mad at myself.

You're not the only one Beth.

SoCalFashionista · 06-20-2008, 10:36 AM

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Originally Posted by Josephine

I just ate the icing off two pieces of cake.. just in a flash.. a matter of seconds.. then screamed and threw the whole cake away. I don't even know how it happened. It's my first mess up since I started writing down every morsel I put into my mouth June 9th.

I'm so stupid. It happened before I could stop it. God I wanna kick myself for not having a better protein snack. I knew we'd be having dinner late tonight and I let myself get hungry. I should have thrown that cake away days ago after the birthday party. I'm so mad at myself.

You're not the only one Beth.

Sweetheart don't be that hard on yourself. I was starting to think the same thing and that's why I posted the thread. But everyone here on TT has helped me to realize that we're all human and make mistakes. Though this happend to you don't let this be a reason to fall off of the wagon. You can do this!!

tsunami27 · 07-08-2008, 07:50 PM

I too have problems sometimes (okay, that's a lie... often) with "cheating". Except I don't weigh my self afterwards, or even in the following days...it sucks & it's sad, but what I do is think of how all of those people were watching "that fat girl" mow down the buffet. Mind you, I by NO means do this on purpose, it's just like, the only thing I can think of...that's a HUGE reason why I'm SO hoping to get the surgery....aside from I don't want to, it will not be an option to pig out!! So I feel you girl!! We SoCal girlies just gotta be strong!!

BTW....I'm also right there with you on being the "what is he doing with her?" wife of a gorgeous hot-bodied husband...but just wait, soon we'll be the ones getting all of the rubbernecks!!