BobF4

In an ideal world, Bridget, I would certainly do that. But, when I scheduled my seminar, they said there was only space for attendees : no others (spouses, children, loved ones, etc.) allowed.

I do plan on including Michele (my wife) in any and all meetings, etc. that I possibly can. I would never want to exclude her at all.

bridgetgirl

Dude, that is so not cool. If it were me, I would bring her anyway. Have her call and register it for her herself. Best luck no matter what happens.

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BobF4

A good thought, but, in all honesty, given her attitude towards the surgery right now, it might not be the best idea in the world.

Grammy O

Kind of strange that they wouldn't allow a spouse or other half to attend the meeting! I've not ever heard of that. Doctor's know that we are in need of support and we would most definately want our spouses to be fully aware of what will happen, how our live's will change and for our spouses to be able to ask whatever question that they may have that will comfort them.

My hubby has been with me to EVERY meeting, doctor's appointment. This helped him to understand the procedure and how he can best help me through this journey.

I understand that you can explain things to her but it is not the same. Maybe there is something that she needs to hear and not coming from you but from the doctors and/or or their staff and other patients that have been through it all.

I don't know what I would do without him there beside me all the way.

I too would just take her, that is if she would go, even if you have to stand up through the whole seminar!

Good luck to you.

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BobF4

Thanks Grammy. I may just take her, if I can at all get away with it. Supposedly, it's due to limited space in the meeting room at the hospital that they limit to patients only.

And, again, even if I can't sneak her into the seminar, I do plan on fully including her in any and all further meetings, appointments, visits, etc. that she has time to attend, job not withstanding.

TracyGirl

Congratulations Bob on taking the first steps in improving your life. While my hubby wasn't as negative as your wife, he was not 100% behind me. He was just scared. He wasn't able to attend the seminar with me either, and it was hard to pass the information on. This is a pretty big deal, and they love us, that's where a lot of the fear comes from. My recommendation is research, research, research and pass that info along to her. I kind of force-fed my hubby the info. While he wasn't 100% on board w/me having the surgery I did (he wanted me to do a lap-band, thought it would be "safer") I still did what I felt was right for me and my health. I'm now two months post-op and he's being VERY supportive in so many ways. From changing his eating habits to going on walks with me or watching the kids so I can go to the gym. I think once he saw that I was going to be okay, he kind of changed his tune. As the weight has come off, it's also kind of nice to get that "look" again like he used to give me before I got so heavy. LOL

Best of luck to you! Keep us posted!

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Godsblessedme

you have to do this for you. No one else! you need to explain that to her and if she chooses not to accept that so be it. Sounds like she is really jealous of what your outcome could be. alot of spouses will sabatoge and try to make you screw it up. i'm so sorry

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Highest weight 268
Surgery Date: 12/18/07 Lap RNY
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mommyandmatt

I have to say my hubby is not behind me 100% He is worried. he is the reason i have not had the surgery sooner. I finaly said I need thid and I have to be healthy for you and the kids. He has agreed to attend the classes with. Our surgen actulay request that spouses come with but with him being military getting time off is not so easy. I know for my husband its "not natural" and does not want to see any thing happen to me. I finaly put my foot down ans said I had to do this for ME!!! I think a long sit down with your wife would do both of you good. Its better to get things out in the open. Then maybe you can see why she is so upset.

Hope this helps

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judijo

My husband thought I would never finish the classes (for my insurance to pay, they required I go to a 6 mo. nutrition class) and he thought I would never see the surgeon. But once it came down to the date, he was OK with it. He really thought it was just one of my hair-brained half-baked schemes. My dad was another story...but I digress.

It was 2 Sundays before my surgery, and 60 Minutes had a segment on GBS. He watched it, heard about the "cure" most WLS has for diabetes2 and hypertension, and he was sold. He has been the perfect nurse during my healing, and he is there as support whenever I need it.

Oh, yeah...my blood sugar is perfect, and my blood pressure is only up when I eat too much salt, but NEVER above 90 diastolic, and I am barely 5 weeks post-op!

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RNY 4.29.08
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KathyV

Briget,
Thanks for sharing. No 10 year old should have to witness that. Good thing though you were there to save your mother.
Kathyv