My wife sucks - Page 3 - ThinnerTimes

bezobraz · 04-24-2008, 12:39 PM

That definitely SUCKS!!! But you have to talk to her. Find a moment when both of you have good chunk of time and not rushing out anywhere and get her talk. All people like to talk especially woman. Keep asking her questions and hopefully you might get a clue about what is going on.

Your wife is acting aggressively and often it is a sign of fear. Question is what is it she is afraid off exactly? Our fears are usually very much self centered. For example she might think that after you loose weight you will look good and feel confident and will leave with younger and better looking woman. May be you should see a professional help from a psychologist.

Good luck!
Tonya

Gladitsme · 04-24-2008, 12:57 PM

How long ago did she have surgery? I hope you are taking care of yourself during this situation. Let us know how you're doing and if there's anything we can do to help, just say the word!

suemaca · 04-24-2008, 01:40 PM

Well poor you-sounds like shes in a right old bate about something-you will have to have it out with her, I suspect. However try not to start with the usual attack"YOU ARE....." try the "I feel really low at the moment and really need support>>" I suspect. but could be totally wrong here that she is just NOT a carer-they DO exist my friends husband dispairs of his wife(my friend)when hes sick-shes such a b---! she just hates doing the "caring" bit. Not everyone is cut out to be one, loving wife or not.
The other thing that occured to me was WHATS going on in her working life-is it al too much for her?
Just a thought

Alleusion · 04-24-2008, 02:31 PM

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Originally Posted by bezobraz

Your wife is acting aggressively and often it is a sign of fear. Question is what is it she is afraid off exactly? Our fears are usually very much self centered. For example she might think that after you loose weight you will look good and feel confident and will leave with younger and better looking woman. May be you should see a professional help from a psychologist.

Good luck!
Tonya

I don't think I could have said it any better. It could be she's afraid of something. Maybe that you'll do better than she will, or that you'll find someone else. You won't know unless you try to discuss it. I know that it's going to be hard to try to talk to her about anything right now, but for the sake of your relationship, you HAVE to try. Personally, I have trouble talking to people about issues that matter to me, or are emotionally difficult to talk about. I have found, however that it's easier to write it out. Can you write her a letter, or an email. This way, you can get out everything you want to say without being cut off, or without getting into an argument.

Momof3 · 04-24-2008, 02:39 PM

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Originally Posted by coptergirl

and you can only fit one in the trunk of your car at a time...oh wait...I have an SUV...I think I can fit more if we fold them really nice-like

I'll bring my van, the seats fold into the floor....we can carry quite a few that way..

T-T · 04-24-2008, 02:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Momof3

I'll bring my van, the seats fold into the floor....we can carry quite a few that way..

I'm sorry. These comments made me CACKLE out loud!

Scott, I have to agree. SHe sounds jealous or afraid of something. Try to get her to talk about it. DO NOT put yourself in harms way however to make HER more comfortable right now. YOU are the one that just had major surgery.

Hang in there. Vent to us. We are all here to support you.

(UH.. I WAS TRANSCRIBING FOR DUCKIE

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Duckie · 04-24-2008, 02:48 PM

UH..what he said I said.

Momof3 · 04-24-2008, 02:55 PM

I think you hit the nail on the head...she's afraid, insecure and a smidge jealous....

blkmercedes · 04-29-2008, 02:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Momof3

I think you hit the nail on the head...she's afraid, insecure and a smidge jealous....

I couldn't have said it better!

wilbzbooboo · 05-09-2008, 02:21 PM

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Originally Posted by VTMoondog

I'm at my wits end.....
Ive been home now from surgery for a week and a half. I've stayed out of her way, i've done a ton of housework, I hole myself up in my man-cave, I try not to make messes, I don't say boo to her unless i'm spoken to......and still I keep getting yelled at, and for what, nothing. I simply say...Hey Tammie, and I get "WHAT!!!!!" back in my face....as if i've been whining for her for hours or something, and thats not the case.
What sucks more about this is that she has had this f'ing surgery, and knows what i'm going thru. She actually resents that I've had it too...like it was something only she could have, and now cannot have it as her own personal thing. I dont get it.
SHe's home this week on school vacation. I've already been told by her, that she is used to me being at work on these vacations, and having me around puts a cramp in that, and that I should understand her not being pleased with me around.......hello????? I'm your husband, did you not marry me cuz' you like me, and i'm ok to have around????
This moring at 7a, the dog came in our room and was wuffling for something, I nudged her, to find out if he's been let out....and again, I got yelled at for waking her up. I was then told that If I only left the house for a few hours, everything would be ok. I complied, and left in the car...well, at this point driving isnt that comfortable, and so I came back....I'm now sitting here writing this, and feeling really lousy that my spouse is such a s@$thead.......
This sucks.....

I am really feeling for you, I pray for your situation and i will beg God to bless you and help you.Tonight ,i'll put you in my prayers :and tommorow and so on

. I'll pray for healing in your family

Jerry from Downey,Ca.