Thank you for venting here about your struggle. As you can tell, you're not alone, albeit that's some consolation it's also very sad huh?
I'm relieved, after reading some other posters' reactions to my responses, that the tone of my responses didn't come across as meanspirited. The written medium is a tricky one, as we all know!
I've talked to many women over the years about weight and the reasons for obesity. One said that she used to be such a flirt and now that she's married to a great guy and isn't a "slut" (her word, not mine), she's afraid to lose weight. Because she's afraid she might be a "slut" again. Her husband loves her, she loves her life, but the fear from years ago still affects her.
So we're not alone. For those of us not able to read this thread right now, I'm sorry...I know how it feels, and it's a good choice. Because sometimes this stuff just has to be shelved. And then when it comes out you wish you could shove it back on the shelf!!!!!
Hugs to all the posters, your strength and empathy are admirable.
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. After reading your post I can see you are a woman of intelligence, courage and strength. The first thing you need to do is to stop thinking of yourself as damaged goods, the more you think of yourself that way the more power this has over you. The goal is for you to regain the power, and for some seeing a therapist does it. You have gone to great lengths to have this surgery to do what? You did it to regain the power over food. I would love to tell you it’s going to get better or easier but I can’t tell you that and no one can, it’s your own personal journey. I can tell you that your life is too valuable to let ANYONE have control over you. I’m sorry if this comes across as harsh that was not my intent.
Deborah 
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