Pat, interesting post.
I think what we are talking about is our inner self coming out. And it is an adjustment, for sure.
My experience has been the total opposite of yours. Prior to my surgery I was a bit reactive, resolute that I was right, assertive more than I should have been. Now, six months post op (on Octobe 9), I am very laid back, most stuff just doesn't bother me anymore, and, according to my husband, I am much easier to live with. I attributed that to my beng happier with myself, but maybe it's more than that - maybe it's because inside I was calm and laid back, but my outer body triggered my assertiveness. Not sure if I'm making sense here,b ut that's the only way I can explain it.
I have to say, too, about the attention. I don't like it. I would prefer if people were just normal with me, like the new people in my life since I lost most of my weight (I work for the local Hospice organization, and I aquajog). The new people only know me as I am today, and they don't make a fuss (thank goodness).
Next week I will be visiting my family in CT, and those folks haven't seen me since October of last year. There will be a lot of fussing, and I will probably enjoy that! I know my teenage grandsons will be even more happy to see me than usual.
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