I get that it's not a 24-hour a day thing
Ah, I get the old equation in a relationship, "The person with the least interest holds the most power..." I really do. Because I have been more interested for a long time. It is a control thing, or at least it is to a certain extent... not necessarily intentionally.
However, I just told my husband I am staying in Montana for a while longer. I genuinely planned on heading for home on Monday, but I am so stinking angry with him for not trying over all these years, even when he said he would. And I'm even angrier with myself for accepting it when he simply stopped trying time after time. I've got some serious issues I have to work through, and I've got the time to work through them, and I'm taking it. And not to be petty, but right now, I want him to miss me. A lot.
He is getting tested by a medical doctor, and has an appointment with a psychologist, and he is supporting me financially while I'm trying to get my head back on straight. He's a good man, and he's making every visible effort right now to do the right things, to say the right things. But I know if I go back to him this week, a year from now I'll be in the same place. And I won't do that--we deserve better. I miss my home. I miss my stuff. I miss my husband. But every instinct I have says to stay away for a while.
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Lisa M
Lap RNY - 9/26/05
surgery/ lowest/ goal
Weight: 303/ 137/ 150
BMI: 56/ 25.1/ 27.4
Now in maintenance stage, with desired weight range: 150-153 pounds
Current weight: 143 Updated 7/16/08
"Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself." Harvey Fierstein
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Doesn't matter what you can eat, just matters what you do eat.
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