Getting a little worried - ThinnerTimes

DebK · 06-21-2007, 11:13 AM

I think this has been the worst week since surgery for me. I am seeing the scale climb up instead of down. It is really depressing me and I am turning back to old habits of comforting myself with food, the only difference is that the choices aren't quite so bad, but I am eating more than normal. I am having a lot of trouble with constipation as it has been more than a week since my last bm (started Miralax yesterday). I am sure that has something to do with it, but instead of keeping all of this in, I thought I could use some support. I weighed in at 177 this morning. That is four pounds this week and I haven't been stuffing myself. HELP!!!

There are a lot of changes going on for me right now. I just got a great new job offer, but things at the current job are a little uncomfortable. I can't wait for my last day to get here which is July 5th. Things with the DH aren't going very well either. I read a lot of posts about marital issues after surgery and I definitely feel like I am fighting a losing battle with him. Our marriage is so off track and I don't know what to do to get it back on or even if I should.

Any words of wisdom would be appreciated. THANKS!!!

CeeCee · 06-21-2007, 12:15 PM

I'm sorry you're having such a hard time! It sounds like it is time to go back to basics: protein & water.

Next- change it up! What have you been doing for exercise? Do something different! It's summer- drag that bike out of storage!

Now, it sounds like you're a bit too down! Have you thought about counseling, perhaps even couples counseling? If you can't get DH to go, go by yourself. It sounds like you've got a lot of stuff going on, and talking to someone could help. (And I'll bet you knew someone would say this!

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Take care of yourself, and keep coming back here! We're an ear to bend and a shoulder to lean on!

BethBaugh · 06-21-2007, 01:46 PM

I find myself getting "hungry" when I'm bored as well as when I'm stressed....so I've got a few projects going on...paint a room...sculpt with clay....try beading just get something new to do to take your mind off things...I used to eat when I watched TV now.....I bead.

HUGGS cause I know how you feel. Kick it up a notch in the exercise gets the ol endorphins flowing.

Beth B. in TN

Gina in NY · 06-21-2007, 02:50 PM

Wait - this is too weird. I weigh 177, just got a new job offer, things getting weird at new job and trouble with DH. But thank god, I am not constipated!

Yea - so I'd say this is just life happening all around you.

The stuff with the const. has to be fixed - you're holding on to stuff and it has to go! More water, some prunes - you know - whatever works. Don't the recommend Aloe Vera Juice or something? That could easily explain the weight - you're retaining water too I'd bet.

As for DH - you know - if it is damaging, get out. If it is dead, do what you have to do to find out if there is hope. It is heartbreaking but a dear friend of mine just told me - you have to be honest. I tend to sort of act like I'm okay with him when I'm not. Doesn't help.

Counceling is always great. Always helps me.

You do what you need to do to stay successful. Don't just sit still and suffer - find resources.
Good luck dear.

LyndasRoom · 06-21-2007, 02:57 PM

Honey, the whole world will look a little better once you get a good ole bm over with. I'm so sorry you're having troubles. Eating thru anxiety / boredom...anything...is one of my old things that keeps rearing it's ugly head. I got a knifty knitter, like a couple folks here recommended, and it keeps my hands busy..oh yeah and Pogo games... The job, well that'll be resolved in a couple weeks, then they can have their weirdness all to themselves. The thing with your DH...hardest part is deciding what you really want. It sounds like there are so many things going on that they're feeding off one another. I don't have any answers, but I want you to know I'm sending you ((hugs))).

Alleusion · 06-21-2007, 05:00 PM

I think the constipation is probably a good culprit of the weight gain. Think on a few other things as well, are you taking in more sodium than usual? How's your monthly cycle looking?

I gained a few pounds about a month ago and freaked out over it. When I sat back and really looked at what I'd been eating and what was going on in my life, I realized what it was. Aunt Flo can cause a few pounds of fluctuation here and there, even if she's never done it before. And the sodium is a HUGE issue.

I saw someone mentioned trying to drink more water. If you can handle it, try a banana or half of one. The potassium in the nanner can help with water weight issues.

As for the DH. Oh lordy don't get me started there. Hiding the way you're feeling is probably one of the worst avenues you could take. If he's the kind of guy that handles conversation well, talk to him. See if he's feeling like there's something off, and see if there isn't something you could do together to pull through. Maybe have a vacation at home, have a picnic on the living room floor in front of a movie you both want to see. Or something....but don't let it fester.

DebK · 06-21-2007, 06:42 PM

for all of your supportive posts!! I came home and exercised which I haven't done in a while and am really going to keep track of what I put in my mouth!!

I hope I can report a small loss tomorrow, but I will keep plugging away at it.

Thanks for your suggestions with the husband too!! Just to give a little background, we have been married almost 16 years and the last 6 have been really hard due to the uncovering of an affair. I have known since 2001(the affair was in 1996), but it still eats away at me a little each day. I was scared to put that on here as my folks don't know and it would really hurt them. I guess in a way, I have tried to hold things together so that I don't disappoint anyone by a failure. If there is anyone that has shared a similar experience, I sure would love to chat. For some reason, it is really bugging me again.

PennyJ · 06-21-2007, 07:43 PM

Hey. First off, you are not now - nor have you ever been, a failure. You are an amazing woman with intelligence, wit, and beauty. So #1) Quit beating yourself up!!!! Your time with the crazy "DW" boss is almost at an end - you can do anything for a couple more weeks!!! Then it's back to the big P where you know it will be good. We can do the gym together!!! Hec, you're gonna be 50 feet from my office...think of the miles we'll travel just chatting with each other all day!!

Well, you know care for both you and DH. I'll be behind you 100% with whatever - but seriously, try the counseling thing again. Could be it's all back out because before you turned to food to get you through - now you can't, not fully anyway. Then, well, cross that bridge when you get to it. I made it through my divorce - only slightly worse for wear....and no regrets because I tried...and Dufus didn't. No matter what - believe in yourself. You can DO ANYTHING you want - you're empowered now! Well - I gotta run - there's a Lunesta winning the battle with my bloodstream right now...feel like a 10 day drunk! I love ya like my sister!!!! See you tomorrow at lunch!

DebK · 06-21-2007, 08:01 PM

Penny, I can't tell you how much I am looking forward to working together again!!! You have to be so sick of listening to me and my issues...I think the next two weeks are going to be about the longest of my life. I have had such a hard time at this job, things have got to get better, right???