How Have You Overstepped Your Boundaries Today? - Page 3 - ThinnerTimes

brutherford · 01-20-2005, 04:12 PM

You edited your post on me! I only responded to what I read the first time, but look at you!

You didn't just dip your toe in the water - you went into the deep end! I'm so proud of you, Pam. I know that this is hard for you, and it means so much to me that you've jumped in with both feet. You are brave, strong, and courageous - you're going to be dangerous when you finally figure that out, girlfriend!

Since it is such a big step for you, my advice would be for you to simply get used to these dreams that you have finally bravely shared with the world. Write them down on post-its and put them on your fridge, in the car, the mirror in the bathroom, etc. They are your intentions for your new life and you need to be at peace with them before you can ever expect to successfully complete them.

Love you,
B

brutherford · 01-20-2005, 04:19 PM

It's so good to have you cheering everyone, including yourself

, on! You're right - we can do anything we set our minds to!

So, have you looked at the education requirements to get an entry-level job as a pharmacist? You could probably do it with the education that you currently have. I highly recommend that people attempt to gain some kind of work experience in fields that they're interested in attempting before they embark on time- and money-consuming education. I really though that I wanted to own my own coffee/dessert shop - my in-laws were ready to invest, we were scouting locations, and I decided to step back a little bit and try working in a restaurant before a took the plunge. My in-laws were prepared to move both my husband and I to Vermont so that I could go to culinary school there, but I asked them to give me six months before I made my decision. I got a job as a "Garde Manger" (appetizers, salads, and desserts) in a good restaurant in Hillcrest even though I had no work experience - and in 3 months realized that it wasn't for me. Cooking wasn't the creative experience that I imagined it to be - it's mostly assembly, with only rare glimpses of creativity. Anyway, I'm really glad that I test drove before I bought!

I didn't just say this for you, but for everyone who's expressed interest in going back to school - be sure that you're getting into what you really want. Going back to school as an adult is hard, I won't lie - but if your passion is there, and you know what you want, it makes it so much easier.

You go girls!

brutherford · 01-20-2005, 04:28 PM

How lucky you are to have a husband going through the same journey! How lucky you both are!

Men just don't have the same level of pressure on them in terms of physical appearance that women do. There's pressure, believe me (we have an Advertising degree here at work and I see how that works out), but it's just not as insidious as the pressure exerted on women. There's tons of literature out there about this phenomenon and why it happens; unfortunately, we're not going to be able to fix it any time soon.

Congratulations on the goal of language and photography classes - those are two things that I've always been interested in, but haven't yet followed up on. So many dreams, so little time!

Thank you for joining us Tabitha - and thanks for being another great cheerleader!

brutherford · 01-20-2005, 04:29 PM

WHOOHOO!

You have come a long way baby... and it's so good to see you giving yourself the praise that you deserve. Isn't the whole vein-accessability a HUGE milestone?! It definitely was for me!

Congratulations on all of your successes, Dale!

brutherford · 01-20-2005, 05:06 PM

Taking my first jog around my new neighborhood, being friendly with all of the shopkeepers and residents, jogging into the Post Office to pick up my change of address form and jogging out (getting both appreciative and irritated glances), and getting a few whistles and catcalls while I ran. This is big for me because I usually don't socialize while jogging (because I still feel like the "jogging fat girl") and certainly don't want anyone to recognize me while I'm huffing and puffing.
Being selected by the President of the school out of 10 candidates to go to the yearly "Academy" in Santa Monica. Apparently, some people have waited years to go, but he wants me to go as soon as possible because he has "plans for me."
Making it through my 20th smoke-free day!

Butterfly · 01-22-2005, 12:55 AM

* I have lost 76 pounds in 5 months!
* I was able to shop at Charlotte Russe and actually buy something from there!
* I have increased working out on the Elliptical machine from 2 minutes to 30 minutes!
* I have had to re-size my wedding ring from a size 9 to a size 7!
* ~ Most importantly ~ my family and I just had our "adoption" interview on Wednesday afternoon to allow Bill and I to adopt each other's kids! We'll be getting the results in a few weeks, but we are confident that we are getting the recommendation to make it "official".

Blueyz · 01-22-2005, 10:01 AM

You are just so full of positive energy and I can hear your excitement of your new life in your posts. You, too have come a long way and are doing awesome. Keep up that strength of yours...you are doing so awesome!!!!

Blueyz · 01-22-2005, 10:05 AM

I am so happy for your success especially the adoption part. I hope all goes well with it. That will be so cool for you and Bill. I know how you feel because we want my husband to be able to adopt 2 of my kids. It is very difficult to get my ex to approve it.

Good luck to you...I hope it is a smooth process.

Big hugs~

bridgetgirl · 01-23-2005, 08:49 PM

I overstepped my boundaries, I met a guy who is really into me, who treats me like the princess I always thought I was.... he asked me to be his "girlfriend" I accepted, and know it's going to be okay. I know I deserve this and I can give myself to him emotionally and not be afraid of rejection, afraid of messing it all up.

I over stepped by finally going after the second job I wanted, and tey satisfying my entrepranuery (sp?) spirit... meet a new Mary Kay consultant! i am going out on a limb here and Im not going to be afraid of failing... I will be great at it, girlfriends and make up, what can be more fun that?

School starts tomorrow and I am terrified..... I hope I will over step my boundaries and actually make it through my first day..... hmmmmmm I hope I can over step alot more boundaries this week.

I really appreciate this thread Barb, its kind of like a secret dare to myself (well between me and y'all-100 of my closest friends

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sandi · 01-23-2005, 09:13 PM

You're gonna do fine tomorrow!!! You're gorgeous, you've already got that part down pat!! And makeup, how fun is that gonna be!! WOOHOO~

And your new "boy" friend, is so neat!! He's got a beautiful smile too and seems to be a very kind, nice, sweet person, and all of that counts in the end!!
I wish you the very best in all these new exciting boundaries that I expect you to step OVER!!!!! YOU GO GIRL!!!

{{{HUGS}}}