who knew being MO was a blessing in disguise? - ThinnerTimes

bridgetgirl · 03-23-2007, 06:39 PM

This was taken from something I posted about over about a year ago, I wanted to re-share some of it: Marty, Danette, Big Dave, lil Dale, Robin, Jeanie, y'all may remember this!

"God bless the broken road that lead me straight to you!"

My whole life, being fat was tragic. I hated myself, tried to kill myself in high school even.
Here I am today, still MO historically speaking, once MO always MO- if ya dont believe me try getting life insurance despite your 100+ weightloss.

I have found the greatest friends, through being MO.
I had found the greatest job in the world, being MO.
I have the greatest amount of empathy, being MO.
My light shines brighter, because I am MO.
I appreciate what I have now, because of all that I have gained, through my loss.

examples of all that I have gained, throughout my weightloss surgery experience:

Nancy: I wouldnt have work out buddies like you.. who let me drink off the same bottle because I needed it.
Donna: Well I knew you before, but this brought us CLOSE!
Holly: I wouldnt have the apartment I live in today if it werent for boyfriend living here before, I would have never found exactly what I was looking for CHEAP without you.
I have gotten job leads, party ideas, daily inspiration, even a ferret all through this experience alone. Hell many peeps on this board have even gotten panties!
I wouldnt have had a birthday party, a purse party, a candle party, whatever with nearly 50 on my closest pals, that could make it, because I was MO. Parties in the past were about 30, and 2/3 of those peeps have disappeared. I truly have embraced FRIENDSHIP, through the ups and downs, trials and tribulations, the thick and the thin.
I wouldnt have the bestest pals a girl could imagine if it werent for our common fat bond! It amazes me to this day. You know who you are, even if I havent talked to you in weeks, you are always in my heart and forever on my mind.
I wouldnt have met my soul sister Robin, even though she swears we would have met some way, some how.
There is so much I would not have learned, enjoyed or experienced if it werent for our common MO bond.

I just wanted to say thank you to so many of you, that although I cant keep up with every single post and I may not acknowledge everyone I want to, that many of you hold a special place in my heart, and some html on myspace

WHAT HAVE YOU GAINED THROUGH YOUR MO CONNECTIONS?

lealphachienne · 03-23-2007, 10:32 PM

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Originally Posted by bridgetgirl

WHAT HAVE YOU GAINED THROUGH YOUR MO CONNECTIONS?

All of you!!!!!

readyforit · 03-24-2007, 12:49 AM

Thank you for sharing this post again, I didn't even know about T.T. a year ago! Your thoughtful reflections are wonderful.
Being thankful is a very good thing . . .

LisaM · 03-24-2007, 04:08 AM

My first instinct, Bridget, was to say "Nothing! I gained nothing but weight by being MO!" But on reflection, that's not actually true. I gained this place, Thinner Times. I wouldn't have found this place had I not been MO, had the surgery and been searching for answers. I've found answers here to questions I didn't even know I had...and people who begin to care for no other reason than our shared journey through morbid obesity and out the other side. For anyone who reads Spider Robinson, this is my "Callahan's Place," where shared pain is lessened, and shared joy is increased.

JenBear7 · 03-25-2007, 10:12 AM

Being MO.. I have gained everything I have to date. I have been MO my entire life. I have also found my "soul sister" (which is funny because thats what we have decided.. its neat to hear someone else call it that). Some people have soul mates.. I have Carrie. I swear when we were born the paths were laid down for our lives to cross.. thank god we chose the right paths. I would flounder without her!

As MO.. I have gained the ability to be a good judge of character.. and I truly belive that MO people take the time to actually see the "REAL" in people.. and not what the people put out for the rest of the world to see.

I have gained the ability to rise above being "fat", and live my life without constant fear of rejection. Both in business, and my personal life. I think it has made me a much stronger person.. .emotionally. I think it makes us all stronger people..

And.. it gave me the opportunity to totally change my life. How many people get to say that they can change everything about their lives in the span of a couple hours (total surgery time). How blessed am I? To have been MO... and how blessed will I be.. to be "normal".. with the heart of a MO?

SDphotogrl99 · 03-25-2007, 01:45 PM

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Originally Posted by bridgetgirl

Holly: I wouldnt have the apartment I live in today if it werent for boyfriend living here before, I would have never found exactly what I was looking for CHEAP without you.

I am happy it worked out so well for you

CeeCee · 03-25-2007, 02:19 PM

Being MO has made me rise above other people's expectations. My choices were: 1- dig a hole, crawl into it, then drag it in after me, or 2- hold my head up and demand recognition for my smarts, wit, charm and style. (and my humility too!) I chose #2, partly because I have a couple very dear friends who wouldn't let me crawl into that hole when I had it almost completed. I stayed out of that hole because I made a conscious decision. I was NOT going to be ignored,I was not going to use my weight as an excuse to take "the easy way". By being MO and taking that final, irrevocable step to have WLS, I've finally taken control of the most out-of-control part of my life. With or without the weight, I would still have the most wonderful man in the world. With the weight, I had WLS, found this forum, and realized that there are others with my problems, as corny as that sounds. (Fat insulates us soooo much, you know?)

In a weird way that only all of you would understand, being MO has made me a better person

Mavisavis · 03-25-2007, 03:09 PM

Great post Bridget....some ideas are worth rolling back around.

What I gained from being MO............

Compassion- I have all shapes, sizes, walks of life in friends....I adopted special needs kids...rescued dogs.....stuck up for the under dog.....work with people with mental, emotional, and physical challenges.....and I look for the real true value in each person.

Humbleness- I learned that we are all equal inside.

The benefits of humor and laughter- When you're MO people had better genuinely enjoy being around you.

I especially feel grateful for this message board. I had little or no chance of ever running into the awesome folks from this board. I have made so many good friends here. My trip out there was awesome, and I know many of you will be my friends for the long haul. I always have someone I can call or write.

As someone else said, being MO shaped who I am...and I am exactly who I was meant to be.