A Cry for Help... - Page 2 - ThinnerTimes

Gina in NY · 03-15-2007, 07:34 PM

How much can one person handle?

You used food for how many years? And you had surgery how many months ago?? Are you actually suprised that the old habits are still there?

You just start over - again. Not the first time, not the last. Write it down - plan it out - talk it out. Fill up your water bottle first thing in the morning - do your work-outs - say no out loud when you reach for food. You know all the tricks. And understand how much you have going on. You can't be perfect - just be good enough, okay?

We love you. 5 pounds is a very small amount to have to re-do. It isn't 50! You caught it early and you're looking it square in the face.

You know I love you and I know from my toes to my graying roots that you will get through this - you will lose the 5. You will lose 30 more. Maybe not as fast as you once hoped, but it will happen. You have all you need inside you right now to succeed at this. Forgive yourself, do your best, don't take it all so seriously. Think of your heath first.

If you're reaching for a cookie, imagine me giving you the hairy eye-ball and drink some water. Use whatever tools you have.

And know sister - no matter what - that I love you as do many of us here.

Mavisavis · 03-15-2007, 07:52 PM

Zen.....I wanna say I love ya girl....and I hear ya. It is basically an everyday struggle for me. The only answer Ihave based on my experience so far is to keep trying to find little ways to help you combat it......friends, activities, beverages, Church, exercise, journaling.....anything you think might help you. Then try to find a balance somewhere between finding yourself accountable.....yet not beating yourself up. It's so hard, that is why so many people fall away and don't achieve what they wanted to. It's so hard....and I totally am with you.

Mavisavis · 03-15-2007, 07:54 PM

Andrew......hand holding is so important. I found myself one and am so happy that Jen has too. I think it's great that you are here learning about what she goes through....and helping support others along the way.

AlabamaChick · 03-15-2007, 08:19 PM

Zen, I don't have any great advice to give you honey because I am still struggling with my journey too. I DO know the only reason I do not have the same food issues is because it's a struggle each day for me to even eat what I DO need, much less something I don't. So, I feel in a way that is "saving" me so to speak. But I do wonder if maybe your expectations are a little high too and maybe your body is telling you it does not need to be such a low weight? Maybe you should reevaluate your position and see if the numbers are just enough to make you crazy and do some adjusting so you don't feel so defeated. I'm not saying you are doing this, but it's just a suggestion. Keep your chin up sweetie. I love you........you have always been here for me!

LisaBoston · 03-15-2007, 11:23 PM

Zen, don't have much advice to offer, but wanted to say how proud I am of you for posting here. Being able to see it and write about it, is a good step.

You have come a long way girl, and there is still lots of fight in there, so keep on going.

Stress is a real kicker....gives me trouble everytime I go there, and you definately have your hands full....remember to take care of yourself in there!

Hang in there sweetie....keep us posted.

ajmoe · 03-15-2007, 11:55 PM

Zen I don't really have advice either, I am just starting out and can easily see this same thing happening to me.
You are strong and have taken a great step by coming here admiting that your scared and confused and need help.
I would say that you are highly stressed out. And like Andrew said you are probably grabbing food to wind down with. I know for me the only time I used to give myself to sit for a second and relax was the time that I ate. So it created an addictive reaction to food. Food always calmed me. I don't know if this is happening to you but with your hectic schedule it is possible. Try if possible to create a time of day when you can wind down maybe even a few times. For me sitting still means that I am not getting something done so I try journaling. Find something that you enjoy that you can sit down and do. My mom sits down and knits. Whatever calms you that is not food.

You are being very hard on yourself. Give yourself a break. Remember our bodies have changed and are changing much faster than our minds.

Good luck, I will be thinking about you.

AlabamaChick · 03-16-2007, 06:00 AM

I got a spiffy idea!!!! If the cookies are haunting you......give yourself one day or maybe even two days that you can have a certain amount of cookies and that way when you look at those cookies, you at least have a goal set to get to where you can have some instead of feeling like you are not supposed to have any and that way you can talk to yourself and say........Today is NOT Monday or Saturday..BUT I can have one when it is! That will help keep you from feeling so guilty about eating them and it may help you to not eat them every day. Just an idea. Maybe it will work!

Tawanda · 03-16-2007, 11:32 AM

I'm sorry you're having a rough time this week.

It sounds like you are handling a barrelful of stressful problems and it's no wonder you are struggling right now. But you know what? It's OKAY to take a mini step backward. You are human, as we all are and as you can see from reading the replies, we all love you, no matter if you have one of those damn Samoas. Geez. Please don't beat yourself up over this.

This last year has been a wild one and I have days that I want a french fry, rather than a veggie...it's going to happen. It doesn't mean I'm bad, and it doesn't mean it's the end of the world. It just is what it is.

Have you thought about looking into the local library for some self-help books? My support group studies them and they have really helped me to identify my head hunger and emotional eating problems. I don't always follow the rules, but it definitely helps to understand and identify what's happening with me.

I think you're just hitting a speed bump and you'll be over it soon. When I get these bad cravings going I make a special point of fixing myself some really posh appetizers (healthy, of course). I go all out, use dill sprigs and cut cherry tomatoes into cute designs and such. For some reason, if I make these look really special, I feel like I'm treating myself to a really extravagant thing. I don't care about a cookie when I have a really appealing appetizer available. It works for me. And....because it takes more time and effort to prepare, it gets my mind off of the stupid cookie.

Hang in there, girlie....you're doing terrific and I am really, really proud of you!!!

rivercanyon · 03-16-2007, 04:32 PM

Zen hang in there girl. Be proud of how far you have come. Stress is a tough one but I don't think we can rid our lives of it so we are going to have to learn how to deal with it. I wish I knew the answer to how. I need that answer too.

Be proud of how far you have come and you never never want to go back there again. Keep posting it always helps to write it down.

Dave T in SD · 03-16-2007, 04:43 PM

Hey Zen,
Love ya sis...

Hate you are going through this.
I haven't lost any weight for almost 3-4 months myself...

I think I figured it out...I've been grazing!

Well, today I decided that this just wouldn't do...So I'm going back to the beginning where I was watching what I was eating, choosing good stuff and not the bad (well according to my daughter, I have it backwards...Hohos are good, carrots & other veggies & fruit are bad!! LOL)

I am dedicating my self back to the 3 month period and stopping the madness!!!