Move Update - Drama - Page 4 - ThinnerTimes

sdgrrl · 03-04-2007, 11:21 PM

Awww, Whitney,
So sorry Keith showed his ass to you. This downtime is the perfect time to reflect and assess your marriage and the move. Sounds like it's time to go through the boxes and divert the ones that are yours, then take the time to research where you want to go and what you want to do. Know that things won't change--he'll still be wandering, with a better handle on "hooking up" since those are his old stomping ground. How disrespectful of him to do this just as you are moving across the country! I'm so sorry. Life just isn't spreading out smoothly these days.

You just do whatever helps you. He has forfeited his spousal rights, and now your responsibility to yourself is to advocate for yourself, without the tiring job of appeasing his needs. YOU are your priority. pm me, call me, let's meet in the middle--all of it works.

pambragg · 03-05-2007, 08:10 AM

Whit,
Oh sweetie, I am so sorry that you are going thru this. I don't have any magic answers for you. Just keep your faith strong and go where it leads you. You are in my thoughts and prayers darlin'. Big, loving hugs coming your way.

Jeanie · 03-05-2007, 08:26 AM

I'm sorry I haven't posted anything but I don't know what to say. All I can say is you deserve better. Keep you head up you didn't do anything wrong you are the better person, and will always be the better person. I know better things are coming your way. I wish there was something that can take the hurt away but I know only time will make it stop.

Duckie · 03-05-2007, 12:23 PM

Oh whitney! I'm so sorry I have been busy all weekend and didn't see this until now. I wish I lived nearby.. i'd drive over and give you a HUGE HUG!! I will gladly let you have my spongebob room at Cindy's house!
Men suck. I'm so sorry you are going through this. I am glad however that it happened before you got to NY. At least you are surrounded by friends in CA. Take care of yourself hon. Don't focus on the past and what is done... focus on the future. The new "you"-- freshly post op and hot as hell.
I wish I had some wise words. I have none. I am unwise when it comes to relationships. sad but true. Just know I love you honey. {{{{{Whitney}}}}}

mauldinmama · 03-05-2007, 03:16 PM

I know you don't know me, but I believe everything that happens to us happens for a reason. You deserve to be happy and I am sure you have mixed emotions on that right now...but there is a better place and world waiting for you.....and with your strong beliefs it will happen.

This could be a blessing!!!!!!

Tawanda · 03-05-2007, 04:52 PM

Geez, Whitney...I'm so sorry. This sounds like a big mess and I hate to see anybody go through it, much less someone of your beauty and caliber.

Let me tell you from experience that you will be fine. Every time you're reminded of his shortcomings or you have a new challenge to face, just remember to look in a mirror and identify the strong and capable woman you have become.

You will do what you need to do to take care of yourself, and God will be right there beside you to support you through this.

I agree that this could be an excellent chance for you at the rest of your life. Somebody that would cheat on you is not somebody you deserve to spend the rest of your days with. As hard as it is, try to look at this as a challenge to better your life.

And for what it's worth...any telling to the "other woman" won't work. She obviously has littlo or no conscience so telling her anything will just fly over the top of that bimbo's head. Don't waste your breath or energy on her. Instead, focus on what you need, make some new goals and start working towards them.

Remember, this, too, shall pass...

Here's to better days, Whitney...they are coming for you. (((((YOU)))))