Move Update - Drama - Page 2 - ThinnerTimes

eyesthatkissu · 03-03-2007, 09:31 PM

I'm sorry baby girl..... but to hell with Buffalo... stay with us! No really, I'm so sorry you are going through all of this, I know how hard it is. But I also know how amazing YOU are. You have so many gifts and it is a pure blessing to even call you friend. No matter what else is happening, don't doubt yourself honey... you can survive anything. And you are the kind of woman that will not only surviove, but you will thrive. *big hugs and love*

SPICYEYES99 · 03-03-2007, 11:47 PM

Oh Whitney my girl, I feel your pain..I been there as well.
I can only say you know that God never gives you more than you can handle and you are a STRONG Mighty woman!! This too shall past and you will be stronger for going thru it.

If you need to I can help find you a place for the dog, my sister works in placing animals. Dont let that worry you. if you need a job, we are hiring (dont know what you do but I am great at networking and finding jobs for peeps)

As for the rest, it will fall into place with prayer and a sound mind. Dont make rash decisions and you will make it through.

We all lvoe you and pray for your strength..
LOVE you!!
Sunshine

readyforit · 03-04-2007, 12:14 AM

Whitney,

I'm so sorry for what you are going through right now. I've never been married, so I can only imagine the pain you are dealing with. I am so happy that you have our friends on this site to support you . . . I'll at least pray for wisdom for you.
God bless
Jim

coptergirl · 03-04-2007, 12:30 AM

You guys are the best. I dreaded posting this...almost like it would be real if I wrote it down, so even though I have been very busy wrapping up work and a house, I have been wanting to get on and post...

I am so thankful to be able to call you all friends and family - I do not know how I could get through this (and other things) without you all who understand, empathize, and don't think of me as a failure for being such a rotten wife that he had to go have an affair. Sorry - I am sort of having a pitty party right now...part of the emotions cuz in 5 minutes I will look for method number 482 to bring her life apart.

Thanks guys - I will read and re-read these posts as they are so encouraging and loving..and I need that right now

(sniffle sniffle)

Blueyz · 03-04-2007, 12:42 AM

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Originally Posted by coptergirl

You guys are the best. I dreaded posting this...almost like it would be real if I wrote it down, so even though I have been very busy wrapping up work and a house, I have been wanting to get on and post...

I am so thankful to be able to call you all friends and family - I do not know how I could get through this (and other things) without you all who understand, empathize, and don't think of me as a failure for being such a rotten wife that he had to go have an affair. Sorry - I am sort of having a pitty party right now...part of the emotions cuz in 5 minutes I will look for method number 482 to bring her life apart.

Thanks guys - I will read and re-read these posts as they are so encouraging and loving..and I need that right now

(sniffle sniffle)

This is the best family ever and we are here through the thick and thin of things.

Hang in there sweetie...you deserve all the best.

Gina in NY · 03-04-2007, 05:47 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by coptergirl

You guys are the best. I dreaded posting this...almost like it would be real if I wrote it down, so even though I have been very busy wrapping up work and a house, I have been wanting to get on and post...

I am so thankful to be able to call you all friends and family - I do not know how I could get through this (and other things) without you all who understand, empathize, and don't think of me as a failure for being such a rotten wife that he had to go have an affair. Sorry - I am sort of having a pitty party right now...part of the emotions cuz in 5 minutes I will look for method number 482 to bring her life apart.

Thanks guys - I will read and re-read these posts as they are so encouraging and loving..and I need that right now

(sniffle sniffle)

Sweetie - you can drive yourself crazy thinking about "the other woman". It doesn't matter - it could have been anyone. Focus on you and if you want to feel the anger and betrayal, focus on him. You have so much to do right now - take care of yourself!

Again, much love...

JenBear7 · 03-04-2007, 07:06 AM

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Originally Posted by coptergirl

I am so thankful to be able to call you all friends and family - I do not know how I could get through this (and other things) without you all who understand, empathize, and don't think of me as a failure for being such a rotten wife that he had to go have an affair. Sorry - I am sort of having a pitty party right now...part of the emotions cuz in 5 minutes I will look for method number 482 to bring her life apart.

Never ever think you were a rotten wife that caused her husband to have an affair... KNOW that he is a rotten husband for leaving a great wife (as evidenced by the fact that she was going to move to a climate she hated .. for HIM) at home to have an affair.. And no matter how good it would feel to knock the other woman's life for a loop.. Ultimately, its him... Focus that energy on knocking his for a loop!

You are so not a failure Whit! That is the hardest part about ending a marriage.. and it is also the day you start healing when you realize you arent a failure, and the people who love you dont think you are.. (at least it was for me... some may be different)..

Take care of YOU... you need your energy for healing after your PS!!

LisaM · 03-04-2007, 07:53 AM

Whit, you are entitled to all the "po' baby" you want or need from all of us, and we are honored that you chose to give us that opportunity. However, you are NOT allowed to beat up on YOU because your HUSBAND decided to have an emotional or physical affair!

He didn't do that because of you, he did it for his own reasons. You're doing the exact same thing that abused wives and abused children do, assuming it's your fault. It's not. I'm not saying that the issues in your marriage are all one-sided, I know it takes two to make a marriage work as well as to make it fall apart. But emotional or physical adultery is a choice, and an action. You didn't make him do it--he chose it.

You are strong, you are invincible, you are woman! (sorry, channelled some Helen Reddy there for a second). Hang in, Whit, get through your surgery, and you'll come out the other side locked and loaded for your new world. Love you, dear.

MILA · 03-04-2007, 10:38 AM

What a bummer .... brings back memories of my first marriage. A cheating spouse - what an absolutely miserable experience to live through. But as others have mentioned, you can rebound and thrive again - many of us have.

Good luck.

CeeCee · 03-04-2007, 11:50 AM

Whitney, I havent' been around here as long as some, but I've read enough of your posts to know that you are wise, compassionate and strong. I'd say you are a very formidable woman! If the guy is foolish enough to give that up...? Well, no wise words, but I'll say a prayer for your peace of mind, and wish you luck on your surgery!