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Rachel · 01-13-2007, 08:05 AM

I called my mom yesterday to confirm with here what day she was going to be coming out here for my surgery. She was planning on staying a month to help out with the kids and for support. My step-dad answered her cell phone and told me that she had broken her leg, he had a brain tumor removed and since then has not been all that clear with details as it affected his short term memory. So I called my moms room at the hospital a little while later and it turns out she didn't break her leg, she dislocated and broker her ankle. She is diabetic and her blood sugar levels got to low and she passed out in her bathroom, her foot got stuck under the part of the cabinet that sticks out, she fell straight back and her foot stayed where it was

Sooooo now she has to be off her foot for 4 months!! And I am scheduled for surgery on the 23rd. I am completely lost as to what to do now. My husband will be around and works from home, so he will be there to help me a lot. The problem is that 8 days after my surgery he has to leave and go on a business trip to Hollywood.

Even if everything goes perfect with the surgery, I don't think I can have the kids and I alone that soon. I was told I couldn't lift anything over 20 pounds for a month minimum. My 9 month old weights more than that, then there are the other two kids a 2 year old and a 5 year old. There is someone that can take the two older ones to school and pick them up, but would that be enough?

My husband will only be gone for 3 days, I just don't know what to do. Should I postpone the surgery until after he gets back?

CarlieGirl · 01-13-2007, 08:11 AM

are you having lap or open?

Rachel · 01-13-2007, 08:16 AM

I am having lap RNY

Jeanie · 01-13-2007, 08:36 AM

I'm sorry to hear about your Mom I hope that all goes well for her. Is there anyway you can hire a nanny or something for the 3 days that your husband will be gone, or can he not leave for the 3 days? I hope everything works out for you.

Bypassingme619 · 01-13-2007, 08:48 AM

Aww Rachel my prayers go out to your mom. Poor thang. Where do you live? I know we don't eachother on a personal level but if you think you will need some help maybe we can exchange numbers. Honestly after coming home I want to say the day I came home I had plenty of energy and was moving all about. Everyone is different but hopefully it will come all together. Try not to stress to much about it. Things have a way of working them selves out for the best sometimes.

eyesthatkissu · 01-13-2007, 09:18 AM

I was feeling a million times better by day 8 and was out doing grocery shopping etc. It won't be easy and it won't be perfect, but I'm pretty sure you can handle it. If I were you I'd put some feelers out there for help from other mom's from school or church during those three days. Maybe they can come out for a few hours during the time when your hubby will be gone and help with the hard stuff. You'd be surprised at how generous people can be. I have a hard time asking for help, a VERY hard time, so I know it can be rough. But lots of time you only need to ask and people will come through. If I was there... I'd help... and I'm a totally selfish person.

Haveaball · 01-13-2007, 09:52 AM

At 8 days I was just tired. I napped when my 18 month old napped. I took it way easy day to day and I felt like doing a little more each day. Let the kids play on the floor while you sit or relax on the sofa. Knowing what I know, I would not change the date. The only issue would be if you have complications which with a little prayer and happy thoughts you should be fine! I would go for it and call on a friend if you need to. Make sure you have all your supplies before you are left alone. Good luck to you!

Cinerbelle · 01-13-2007, 09:59 AM

Hey Rachel!! I am sorry to hear about your Mom...that suck's. I think you can handle it too...you will just have to take everything sloooowww. How much does your 9 mth old weigh? I don't think you should be lifting, but if you take it easy and slow you should be able to do it. Where do you live again?? If it is around me, I would be happy to help you out as much as I can!

LyndasRoom · 01-13-2007, 10:05 AM

Rachel, I'm so sorry about your mom! I was feeling darn good by 8 days...mostly just tired. If you can nap while the older kids are at school, and could have maybe someone stop in to help you a little you should be fine, barring any complications that is. Is there a teenager or college student in the neighborhood that could help with dinner and the bedtime routine? Kids that little don't really understand when you can't lift them, they just want what they want. Any way hubby could postpone the business trip? You've waited so long for this, I'd hate to see you need to postpone.

Gina in NY · 01-13-2007, 10:07 AM

You must have baby sitters, right? Get someone in there to help you at the critical times of the day at least - like, mealtimes, bed times, whatever. If you find a High School student who could come over after school - just pay them to be a mother's helper for a few days. I was picking up my two year old WAY too soon and it was a bad idea. I didn't get a hernia or anything, but I did hurt myself for sure. You need help. Friends? Neighbors? Get some help!!

A 9 month old is so hands on - you really need to get some help for those three days - and I'm sure your other kids are still climbing all over you, right? When you have little ones, the post-op period is different to be sure.

GET SOME HELP!!