Life, Job, Friend, Family, Post Op Blues., cont ques of week - ThinnerTimes

bridgetgirl · 11-21-2006, 07:17 PM

Here is something to think about, throughtout hell week, post op anticipation, 7 months blues, to your 1 year rebirthday. Throught the friends you will lose, to the 2 year dealing mark.......

The way you see your life, shapes your life. How you define your life, determines your destiny. YOUR perspective wil influence how you invest your time, spend your money, use your talents and value your friendships. (or even "switch addict".)

If I asked you how you picture your life, what image would come to mind. This is your life metaphor. It's the view of life you hold, conciously or unconciously, in your mind. It's your description of how life works and what you expect from it. People often express their life metaphors through clothes, jewlery, cars, hairstyles, bumper stickers, even tattoos.

Your unspoken life metaphor influences your lfe more than you realize. It determines your expectations, your values, your relationships, your goals, and your priorities.

For instance, if you think life is a party, your primary value in life will be having fun. If you see life as a race, you will value speed and will probably be in a hurry much of the time. If you view life as a marathon, you will value endurance. If you see life as a battle or game, winning will be very important to you.

What is your view of life? You may be basing your life on a faulty life metaphor.

If this sounds familiar, it is. Its downright plagerism. I have been reading Rick Warren's A Purpose Driven Life, it's a wonderful book. My question of the week came from that book too. Thats what I realized I needed after living a life without food to comfort me, to know, what is my purpose. This book has helped me come a long way.

lealphachienne · 11-21-2006, 07:28 PM

You've come back to us! YEah!

Hmmm...how do I see my life? It changes...sometimes it's a highway, other times it's a party...many times, it's simply survival, and often, always in search of "who am I?" I see little future as it's still unwritten. All of the dreams I have so long hung on to have crumbled. New hopes are in the making, but I see mostly just what is going on today, perhaps a few tomorrows. Constantly seeking, always learning, staying up to what may happen and occur today.

Loved the book too!

bridgetgirl · 11-21-2006, 07:31 PM

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You've come back to us! YEah!

I love you, and I'm in love with you!

lol

rainrain · 11-22-2006, 08:17 AM

Bridget, as always you inspire me!!

I have that book on my dresser, and have had it there for a month waiting to read it.
I guess it is time!!

I think of my life as a party, I need to hurry up and get ready for, but when I am at the party I don't enjoy it because I am too busy doing something else.

yikes....I think I need to slow down. But I am so afraid of missing something. I do not want to miss one second of life..therefore I am exhausted, I sleep about 4/5 hours a night and I am way overextended.

Help!!!

Gina in NY · 11-22-2006, 12:21 PM

I don't know - I feel like I could write a book called, "Zen and the art of juggling precious artwork". I feel that I've learned to live in the moment in so many ways, but not in all. I really enjoy my children and really sit with them and attend to them in a way I wish my parents had (or would) with me. I love my job, love going to work and I know I'm an emotional resource for those kids too. I am a great wife and appreciate my husband, though things are not going all that well now, I still enjoy him as much as I can. But to actually balance all this, plus a challenging financial situation, my own health improvement plan etc. Boy - it is like I am in constant fear of dropping something important - I would be devestated - but it is inevitable! I too do 4 or 5 hours of sleep a night and there is only so much I can do.

The area that I really don't stay in the moment in is OF COURSE the weight loss process. I actually don't want to be in this moment - I want to be done. That is not the most healthy way to be, because it makes me worry about the future, which will come as it wishes, regardless of what I want or plan. And I worry about failure! It is a constant inner conversation I have with myself - over every bite of food, every time I park (should I park farther away?) every time I take an elevator, every time food shows us in unexpected places and I have to choose to say no, again...it is everywhere...

Great questions Bridgett - I may have to move to CA to make it through this journey.

Mavisavis · 11-22-2006, 01:05 PM

Cool topic Bridget. I know this word is overused, but I think of life as a journey.....the process and experiences are the main point....not the end result. On the journey of life we rarely ever can know when it ends anyhow. But I did used to live it (sorry to swipe Marie....but thanks) as survival. I was in that mode for most of my life......but it is living always in fear. I made lots of seemingly great life decisions out of fear.....including college and finances. They worked out great, but my reasons were still sick. I didn't know how to enjoy people and life. I was just always living in a way to try and avoid pain. I like to think most of that is behind me. I can truly say that I enjoy my life and love myself now.....although I don't always "like" me. But when I don't, I still love and accept myself, then find a way to be better.

sdgrrl · 11-22-2006, 01:59 PM

My life is feeling like "6 Flags over Donna". Lately I've been stuck on the Ride from Hell. I am in a coal car that has to go around the track of fire curtains, pain, fear, loneliness. I want to go back to the other ride--where I felt safe, strong, and certainly more happy.

Mavisavis · 11-22-2006, 03:04 PM

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My life is feeling like "6 Flags over Donna". Lately I've been stuck on the Ride from Hell. I am in a coal car that has to go around the track of fire curtains, pain, fear, loneliness. I want to go back to the other ride--where I felt safe, strong, and certainly more happy.

Hey Ms. Scrappy.......I've been wondering where you've been. I hope you're referring to the past several months, not necessarily days. I hope you are feeling at least a little better. I miss you guys. Life here is back to "normal" though and going ok. Tell Moe I said....."MOE"....and Rudy I said......"RUUUUDY". And I love you and Michelle....but tell her I said I "like" her.......don't want her all sentimentaled out.

sdgrrl · 11-22-2006, 10:39 PM

Hey, Sisterwoman,
We are both jonesin'for a dose of Marty! PIZZA! It felt good to laugh again--I have been too sickly, and I am losing weight even though I am trying desperatelyto at least "stay the course". With Michelle so down and me not being anywhere near ready to start back managing a full time life --I press the envelope as often as possible, but I don't have a very good feeling about this. I desperately need to rest and take it slow as well as stimulating sleeping neurons, and that just isn't happening--the other day I left the house at 8:30 (after waking up 2 hours after the alarm was supposed to go off, so I felt behind all day. Between the 2 of us we had like 4 doctor's appts. We finally pulled into the parking space at like 9:30 at night--you know having dinner right around where you are while you are "waiting out the traffic", etc. Oh, and don't forget the pharmacy visits....

WATER!

Mavisavis · 11-22-2006, 11:44 PM

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Hey, Sisterwoman,
We are both jonesin'for a dose of Marty! PIZZA! It felt good to laugh again--I have been too sickly, and I am losing weight even though I am trying desperatelyto at least "stay the course". With Michelle so down and me not being anywhere near ready to start back managing a full time life --I press the envelope as often as possible, but I don't have a very good feeling about this. I desperately need to rest and take it slow as well as stimulating sleeping neurons, and that just isn't happening--the other day I left the house at 8:30 (after waking up 2 hours after the alarm was supposed to go off, so I felt behind all day. Between the 2 of us we had like 4 doctor's appts. We finally pulled into the parking space at like 9:30 at night--you know having dinner right around where you are while you are "waiting out the traffic", etc. Oh, and don't forget the pharmacy visits....

WATER!

Oh no....that is not good.

You both need to be taking it easy right now. I know how hard that is to do when there are just things that have to be done....I know all too well. I had a feeling you were still under the weather when you hadn't been on the board. Are you guys having any type of get together for Thanksgiving? I am going to my sister's. It should be pretty relaxed. I'll be thinking of the two of you. I do miss you guys.