Post Op Depression...HELP!!! - ThinnerTimes

swthrt2345 · 11-06-2006, 06:57 PM

Hey all,

I posted some info about this on the Post Op page but things tend to get buried on there and I think this forum might be better for this issue. I had my surgery 1/26/06 so I am getting pretty close the my year. I have lost 65lbs. and should be feeling great about it but I am not.

I feel so self concious about my stomach and that extra jiggle in my arms and thighs that I just can't seem to feel good about how I look. I know there are support groups but with my work schedule, I can never make it to them. I really have no one else to talk to about these things that can even begin to understand what I am going through.

I guess my big question is am I alone in feeling this way or has anyone else gone through this?

I know some of my other life experiences play a part in low self confidence, it's hard to have the confidence when you have been a fat outcast your whole life. Any ideas on what I can do? Do the support groups help?

I know I really need to sit down and tell my boyfriend about the type of surgery I had but I just have to find the right time. I am so affraid he will get mad for me not telling him the truth from the start but I was terrified he wouldn't like me for me, only because I would be skinny eventually. Silly I know but that's how low my confidence was and it's not much better. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, I don't know what else to do.

swthrt2345 · 11-06-2006, 06:59 PM

Here are the new photos I took last week.

MiladyB · 11-06-2006, 07:19 PM

Courtney, I had my surgery just a couple days after you had yours. What I can tell you is for me the emotional side of this journey is hitting me hard. You know its almost like I don't know exactly who I am. Others have said that they feel lost. I think some of it is that we have changed so drasticly and quickly on the outside but the inside just doesn't know how to feel. We keep telling ourselves that we should be so excited about our success but inside all of those old issues are still there and at least for me, they have come even closer to the surface. We don't have the food to bury them under so they are hitting us smack in the face, and its scary. It seems that so often at this stage people are suddenly searching for a balance in their lives. I know I am. I've felt a real restlessness over the past weeks, a huge desire to change things in my life. What I have done is to try to step out of myself and give an honest look at what changes I need to make for me. What kinds of things are important to me. I do feel support groups are important. They are filled with people who have been where we are and it helps so much to know that we aren't alone. That we aren't crazy for the feelings and emotions we are having. That often what we feel is totally normal. That there are those who honestly understand. Don't try to walk this journey alone. It is a hard one, it really is. It is hard to trust others when we have led a life of untrust but it is important that we look to others to help us. Others who understand.

Feel free to pm me if you want to talk. We are here to help each other.