Depression - normal? - ThinnerTimes

sunshine_336 · 11-13-2004, 02:37 PM

Hi,
I'm 3 weeks post op. Feeling isolated and depressed. I've had a cold which is draining my energy level. Try to get out once a day for a 30 min walk but I don't see alot of change in my weight or clothes size. Is this normal? I don't have a strong support system. I actually don't have one at all and that's what I'm hoping to find here. I hope it's just a phase and this too will pass.
Would appreciate any input you have to offer.
I live in Rancho PQ. If anyone lives up this way and would like to walk -please let me know.
Thanks very much!

lealphachienne · 11-13-2004, 04:39 PM

Hang in there. It's all normal. Just keep doing what you're doing. It takes a few months to really see the changes in yourself. Others will notice before you do. Hang out with us. We are all over the place. You'll find someone soon who can be a walking buddy.

Feeling in the dumps is a common occurence. Heck, some of us even verge on suicidal thoughts. I think 90% of us still see a shrink! I know I do to keep sane.

You're not alone.

Blueyz · 11-13-2004, 05:20 PM

What you are feeling is quite normal. I get depressed often and a lot of it is hormones. Stick with us and you will feel better. Whenever I feel depressed, I remind myself where I came from and how today is a better day!
As for losing weight, you will start to notice soon, don't worry.

Midntsgirl · 11-13-2004, 07:28 PM

What you are feeling is a normal thing. Our hormones are stored in our fat cells and once the fat cells start burning off, the hormones are released into the bloodstream and it makes us depressed. It comes and goes, but pay close attention to it. If it gets REALLY bad and you start thinking BAD things, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE call someone for help.
As for the weight coming off...be patient sweety. It took some time to get there and it will take some time to come off. I still look in the mirror and see the "old" me...not the me that's lost 83+ pounds. Keep track of your inches and you'll see a difference in the numbers even if you don't see a difference in the body size. It really took me a while to notice a difference in myself no matter how HUGE the clothes got on me.
Tell us about yourself too. You didn't even leave your name. Good luck and if you need anything, PLEASE e-mail me and I will send you my number. I'm available 24/7/365. Take care sweety!!

TabFox · 11-13-2004, 09:24 PM

Yeah, the depression is normal for us. I'm having a particularly difficult time right now with it. My 18 yr. old son moved out today, so I've been crying all day and my eyes are swollen. I feel like I've lost my baby. He's living with a friend in the same town, so he's not far, but he and my husband (his step-father) never got along and it's always been chaos. I hate conflict. Part of me hates my husband right now. I'd rather go through surgery again without anesthesia than be feeling what I am right now. If it weren't for my 16 yr. old daughter still being at home, I'm not so sure I wouldn't be having bad thoughts. I did make a few calls and cried on some shoulders *sigh*.
My husband had his surgery about 3 weeks ago. He's lost about 35 lbs. and is doing great, but I'm ready to strangle him. He ate some "sugar free" chocolate (pudding) pie, and then came home with a bag of sugar free cookies. I tried to be patient and explain that just because it's sugar free doesn't mean it's a good thing to eat. How can I make him realize that he's supposed to be changing his habits, not see what he "can" eat. UGHHHHHH. I mean, with me, I have not had ANY cookies, cake, junk food of any kind since my surgery. I don't care if it's sugar free or not. I try to eat healthy, and no, it's not always easy. I don't try to sneak things just to see if I can tolerate it or not.
And, as if this weren't enough, I'm really missing my Dad. He passed away about 5 1/2 years ago, and I could really use some of his advice and wisdom right now. I just feel at a total loss.
AND, my friend lost custody of her son, so now he's living with me for a few days before he's shipped off to a boy's home. We're trying to get an emergency hearing with the judge to see if we can get custody. He's 15 and has had a few problems, but he's basically a good kid and just needs love and understanding.....but now his mother is mad at me for letting him spend a few nights here and I've lost that friendship.

If anyone has a spare heart, send it to me; mine's been trampled on.

Tabitha
Open 5/26/04
321/212/180-ish

sunshine_336 · 11-13-2004, 11:23 PM

First of all...Thank you to everyone who responded to my post. I am praying to make new friends with this change of life.
By the way, My name is Melanie...sorry about not putting it on my first post. I've never been on something like this so please bare with me.
I'm a single mother with 3 boys. My surgery was 10-25 weight 256.
Tabitha,
Thank you for sharing. Your post brought tears to my eyes. I am also missing my dad. He passed away in Feb of 98, my mom has been gone since I was 2. I keep leaning on my faith in GOD and don't know what I would do if it weren't for that. I'm glad that you have your husband to go through this with...I think it's better than going it alone. Try to be thankful for this new beginning, even through the not so fun times.
I'll make a deal with ya...keep me in your prayers and I will do the same. Things have got to get better.
Thanks again!!
Melanie

Americanwoman397 · 11-15-2004, 08:27 AM

Gals
You know what we all go through this and have our ups and downs. Don't ever think twice about posting all of this because we can give you the comfort and support you need right now. If you girls ever want to talk send me a message and I'll give you my number. I will be glad to help in any way I can. I know this is not an easy thing to go through.

You know to be honest no matter how much support you have at home or with someone unless they gone through the being heavy and having this surgery they just don't understand. They are great don't get me wrong but its great to have the people here who really know what you are feeling at that sec.

BIG HUGS TO EVERYONE.